Punishment Journals & Rating Consequences

Hi everyone! Hope you all had a great weekend. :)

Colin and I went to the store the other day and got a journal/notebook thing that we decided would be beneficial for DD/Ds and for getting us back on track.

We sat down together and wrote a list of rules, a list of consequences, a list of rewards, and a list of chores. He had to leave for a bit, and told me when he was gone he wanted me to write a detailed chore calendar as well as ranking the punishments we listed earlier, in a list from most to least effective.

Doing that stuff instantly put me in such a submissive mind set, and even though it's something pretty little, I thought it was a great step in the right direction.

I wrote up both things he asked, and was really anxious to show him when he got home. Before I showed him, he said he was going to rank the punishments as well, so that we could see if we were on the same page when it came to effectiveness of punishments.

We were both pretty shocked when we read our lists to each other, because they weren't as similar as we thought they would be.

I thought I'd share our lists here, just because I thought it was so interesting.

*Now keep in mind, just because a punishment is at the bottom of the list (least effective) it doesn't mean I don't find it effective. I still think the ones at the bottom work very well, just not as well as the ones towards the top.*

Kenzie's List:

1.) Lecturing
2.) Spanking
3.) Essay/Apology letter
4.) Sent to bedroom
5.) Loss of privileges
6.) Early bedtime
7.) Corner time
8.) Kneeling
9.) Capcaisin cream
10.) Butt plug
11.) Soap/hot sauce
12.) Nipple clamps

Colin's List:

1.) Lecturing
2.) Spanking
3.) Butt plug
4.) Soap/hot sauce
5.) Essay/Apology letter
6.) Kneeling
7.) Corner time
8.) Sent to bedroom
9.) Capcaisin cream
10.) Loss of privileges
11.) Nipple clamps
12.) Early bedtime

We started off on the same page, but then didn't have many similarities. I don't know why exactly, but I just found it really interesting. We haven't done any submissive exercises in a while, and I think this was perfect for us. I have to say, I recommend it to anyone looking for these sorts of exercises. We were able to learn some new things about each other, have some very good conversations about the outcome, and just get some really good insight into what each of us thinks about the effectiveness of our list of punishments and consequences.

If anyone has any other submissive type exercises like this one, we'd love to hear about them. It really helped us both to feel better in our roles and I'm so happy he came up with the idea for us to do this - so I'd love to hear any other ideas you guys have! :)

I know he's got me. ;) And I love him like crazy for it!