We'v changed up our rules recently, and basically we're going to be focusing on the 4 D's with a few little things added in as well.

Dishonesty - Goes without saying, no lying. That's a big one.

Disobedience - If i'm told to do something, it needs to be done. No saying 'no' to him, when it comes to any punishments or anything like that. Unless for some reason, there's something going on and i'm just too uncomfortable at the moment, but then our safe word will be used. Safe word is Grey, of course it has nothing to do with Christian Grey. Nooo way. :p

Disrespect - This is a big one, too. He expects me to answer with Sir when i'm supposed to. Also no cursing at him, no eye rolling, things like that.

Dangerous - Nothing dangerous. No texting and driving, not even at red lights. Drinking 60 oz of water a day falls into this category for us as well.

*Another thing that doesn't fall under those categories, is that I have to say the words spanking, punishment, etc. I haaate saying them, and anytime i'm talking to him about it, I usually just say, "you knowww.. THAT word." I'm a baby, I know, but it still makes me embarrassed! So now, the rule is that there's no dancing around those words, they have to be said.

That's all I can think of for now, but if there are any others, i'll be sure to add them.


  1. Ooh I kinda like those rules ;)

  2. I really like the rule about good amount of water! Maybe I'll show it to my Master, cause as everyone I have problem with that.
    I hope you'll stay with that rules :) Both of you :) Hugs :*

  3. Do you always have to be submissive or just when it is fun? My husband and I are very into Domination/Submission in the bedroom (I more so than he, at times), but when we’re done, we’re done. Until the next time. It is a big stress reliever for me because I am riddled with pain from various autoimmune diseases and I am a SAHM to my delicious 12 year old son who has significant autism. So we would never spank him, as as his main caretaker, Mommy really does know best, I try to make everyone around me happy, often at my own expense, but that is my nature. If I could do it in sub mode, it would be way more fun. My husband is also terrified of hurting me. (We do have a safe word and he will stop spanking, etc. the minute I use it.). I cannot have a list of daily duties, simply because I cannot physically do them, and my husband is not at all dominant except during sex. So, i guess, does your marriage have breaks from the rules and how can I incorporate more into my own marriage? (Which can be hard because my hubs is not always easy to love.). Yikes!