It's hard because i've had the idea of DD/TTWD, etc, in my mind since I was pretty young, whereas Colin is pretty new to the whole idea. I have this picture in my mind of how I want him to be, things I want him to say, a picture of what I see as effective/Dominant. Part of me wants to tell him these things, because let's face it, no one is a mind reader, but at the same time, there's a big part of me that wants him to just .. know. There's a part of him that is getting very .. naturally dominant, yet there's another side to him as well. I absolutely LOVE that side, and I wouldn't change it for ANYTHING. Seriously, if a genie appeared right now, and told me that I could have him be the perfect dominant in my mind, but that other side of him would go away, I wouldn't even THINK about agreeing to that.
Colin is really a sweet, loving, gentle teddy bear. He would put anyone before himself, would give me the world, and just has this amazing gentle side to him. I love that. I love when he plays with my hair, or just rubs my back and holds me. Something i've realized, is that, THAT is naturally dominant in a way. Dominance isn't just about giving orders, or showing who is in charge. It's about protection, comfort, and care. He's got that part nailed down, so really, i'm incredibly lucky. Now if he could channel his inner Christian Grey a bit more, i'd be even luckier. :p
Basically, what i'm trying to say is, yes I talk about how he needs to assert his Dominance more, and he needs to work on lecturing and using corner time, things like that, BUT I also need to say how amazing he is at other things. That protective side of a Dominant. That caring, loving, feel 100 percent safe with him, side of a Dominant .. I couldn't ask for anything better when it comes to that.
With that being said, there IS still that other side. The "i'm in charge" side. So what do I envision THAT as? When it comes to words, I could type a NOVEL on that topic, so I thought i'd give you guys a little break from my words, and just use some pictures to explain what I see as .. Dominance. I also found some pictures to explain how I feel about Submission, but i'll save that for another post. :)
*I found all these pictures from tumblr, but they weren't off a certain page. I searched by "labels" such as Dominance, Submission, etc.. so I couldn't find a way to link the images back to the original poster. If you're the original poster of these images, please let me know, and i'd love to give you credit.*
