30 Days of Submission & Submissive questions

Hi everyone!!

Ugh, it's been forever - what else is new right? I swear one of these days I will get back to semi regular blogging.

Anyway, hope everyone is having a lovely fall! I'm anxiously awaiting all the craziness that the upcoming holidays bring!

Colin and I are doing pretty good. We actually decided to do this 30 Day of Submission thing. Actually, he made it 31 days because he couldn't narrow the activities down to 30. It basically consists of two different things..

1.) 31 Days of a different submissive activity each day.

It started out amazingly. Really had me in the right mind set, had him super Dom-y and had us both just in really good places. About half way through, good old life decided to get in the way and gave us a few hurdles to get through. I mean one really can't hide clothespins under her shirt while in an office with other people crowded around. ;)

So, once we missed an assignment here, and he was lenient on an assignment there - I kind of got really down and just sort of blah. Don't get me wrong, we're still sort of on track, and I'm trying to not let the assignments that didn't happen, keep me from completing the assignments I still have, but I'm just in an off mood for some reason. Part of me doesn't even want anything to do with Ds or DD right now, and I'm really not sure why. It's probably hormones, because when don't they mess shit up? ;) But, we'll see - I'm going to stick it out and make it to the end of the 31 days. Colin has been great with trying to keep things running as smoothly as possible, while working 60-70 hour weeks and trying to balance my need for gentle dominance with my even stronger need for his stern dominance. I can be a handful and harder than a rubiks cube to figure out at times, so props to him for being able to figure me out most of the time. <3

And...

2.) There's this thing out there on blogs called 30 Days of Submission, or 30 Questions of Submissions. Basically just like the name says, it's 30 Days of questions having to do with submission. Every day at 3pm I have to send him the answer to that days questions. The first couple days I forgot, and the damn holed paddle and strap did a darn good job at making sure I remembered from there on out!! There are a couple of questions that really get me thinking, and some I might even make a post out of sometime.

Aside from that, my other new obsession is tumblr! I think it's so much fun and such a great tool to see what really interests your Dom/Hoh/tih/sub/etc. Colin has one too, so it's been fun to see what kind of stuff he reposts.

If anyone has tumblr, mine is http://spankingdominance.tumblr.com and
Colins is http://dominant-husband.tumblr.com

Feel free to follow there so I can follow back, or leave a comment or email with your tumblr link. Once in a while he has me post some original stuff, soooo if you don't want to see any of that, don't look there. ;)

Time to go catch up on blogs, yay!

Expectations in a DD relationship

What do you expect from your Hoh in your DD relationship? What do you think they expect from you?

Colin and I had a fairly long talk the other night, and those are the questions that came up. What are the expectations? What do I need? What does he need? Are our expectations realistic?

When I first started DD, I half expected it to be like a story fairytale you read in a DD book. Where my HOH will say everything right, do everything right, discipline me every time I need it, and pretty much be able to read my mind. Right away he will know what pushes my buttons, what my triggers are, what words or phrases really get to me, what implements to use - I could go on forever.

Over time, I realized it's not very much like what you read in this books, but it IS possible to make it your own fairytale. A fairytale full of paddles and wooden spoons, rather than princesses and tiaras of course. ;)

We've had some serious ups and downs since we started this, I'm not the most naturally submissive sub, and Colin has some big time consistency issues, but I need to remind myself of how lucky I am. When I brought this all up to Colin, he was pretty much vanilla. Sure, he had a kinky side to him, but the whole DD thing was a brand new concept to him. He's been SO incredibly open to it, so willing to embrace it, and so eager to work at it. What more could I ask for? I know we hit a bit of a rough patch, but we're moving forward and making this whole DD fairytale our own.

He asked me to write up something with what I need/expect from him as my Hoh/Dominant, and what I think he needs from me as his Tih/Sub, so I figured I'd write it down in this post.

What I need from Colin:

• Consistency/Confidence - sticking to any punishments that you see fit, and following through with rules/consequences. Being confident in your role.
• Structure - A clear list of rules for me to follow.
• Less leniency - making a punishment a punishment. Not being easy on me all the time.
• Dominance outside of discipline - Make every day decisions. Of course discuss it with me, and ask for my opinions and thoughts - but have the final word be yours.
• Gentle Dominance - Cuddling, taking care of me, little things like playing with my hair, aftercare.
• Alternative punishments - When spanking can't be done, or even sometimes just in place of a spanking; corner time, writing assignments, early bedtime, whatever you see as fair.

What I think Colin needs from me:

• Respect - Respect your decisions, and just respect you in general.
• Obeying - Not arguing when you decide on a punishment. Getting over your knee, rather than putting up a fight. 
• Letting you finish a spanking - If you accidentaly spank me too low, or too high, talk to you after the punishment, rather than getting all pissed and arguing during it.
• Trusting you - Trust that you'll take the lead, and you will take care of things as you see fit.
• Communication - If I feel like you let something go or if I broke a rule - talk to you about it. Don't keep it in inside.
• Be more comfortable - Know that you love my body, and even if I have insecurities, remember that you love me and like what you see.

I'm sure these lists will change overtime, and maybe things will be added or taken away, but that's what I have for now. Hopefully typing it out will help both of us get to where we want to be.

As for a different topic, are you guys excited for LOL day?! I can't wait, and Colin and I decided we might be doing a giveaway of some sort, so all you lurkers, get ready to de-lurk! ;)

Hope everyone had a happy halloween! What'd you all dress up as? I'd love to hear all about your costumes!

Sometimes a Girl Just Needs to be Spanked!

I want to start off by saying thank you for the comments on the last post, and the words of encouragement. :) I really appreciate it!

That's one of the things I love about blogging. Other people get what you're writing about, they get how you're feeling, and they encourage you to keep on going. It's a nice place to be able to vent. (A little foreshadowing there.. beware of the venting.)

Anywayyy.. I have to say the DD flame is not exactly burning strong right now, but we're working on it. Colin has let some things slide, and I haven't exactly been too submissive lately, but it's getting a little bit better.

We're both SO busy that when I get home from practice at 8pm, or he gets home from work between 8 and 9, we just want to relax, eat dinner, watch tv, and play with the kitty! *The actual animal kitty guys - geeez get your minds out of the gutter. ;)*

We did have our talk after I wrote my last post. He came home with the list he wrote of things he wanted to talk about, and he seemed very serious and stern about all of it. It seemed like it would be a good start to things, and it was .. but it hasn't really gone much further than that.

Colin does manual labor all day, so when he gets home he's tired. I get that, I really do. I understand that sometimes he'd like to just relax, unwind, or even sometimes go to bed early, rather than having to deal with lecturing me, spanking me, etc. I understand that that's life and there will be those times.

BUT.. on the flip side, I think sometimes when you're trying to get something back up and running, you need to put that stuff aside and just do it. I mean, if I haven't been sticking to the rules, if I've had an attitude, if I've done something that deserves discipline, suck up your tiredness and just put me over your knee already!

Don't get me wrong, Colin is not the only part to the problem, and I'll admit that. I know people say Dominance comes from submission, and that makes sense, but I need his Dominance to bring out my submission.

I don't deliberately disobey, talk back, break rules, etc, but I also don't pay too much attention to them. For example, I know I'm supposed to drink a certain amount of water each day, or watch my cursing, or even just do things around the house when I'm home, but for the most part, I don't put in the effort.

Like I said, it's not deliberate. I don't do it to get a reaction from him, but I also tell myself that I most likely won't see a reaction from him. Sure, I might get a warning, or the threat of a spanking, but the follow through is not there.

I want to repeat that I understand he's tired, I understand he works LONG hours this time of the year and he gets stressed and exhausted. I'm not trying to complain about him at all. I'm really not. I guess I'm just trying to figure it all out.

Colin is the absolute best man I know. He's such an amazing husband, provider, friend, etc. He makes me feel completely loved, safe, protected, and happy. He literally makes me smile and laugh multiple times a day, and I would never change any of that. If we had to live without DD, our relationship would still be the best thing I could ever ask for in my whole entire life.

DD/Ds just adds to that greatness. It adds to the closeness, to the intimacy, to the love. It literally adds a whole other element to the marriage. Like I said, our relationship would be perfectly fine without it, but that doesn't mean I want to be without it.

I don't know what the answer is, or how to get back to how we both want things to be. It's not a question of whether or not he wants this. I know he wants this. Badly. When I really think about it, I can't say that DD isn't there. For example, I have the day off today and he told me a few things he wanted me to do while he was at work. One of those things was to clean a certain part of our couch that we tend to use as somewhat of a storage space. I just got a text from him saying, "How's the couch looking, young lady?" Or yesterday, I asked him to grab me something from the kitchen, and he gave me that look - right away I knew I forgot to add Sir to my sentence. So DD is still there. I guess what's missing is the follow through, and that's SO important to me. Like the picture I posted says, sometimes a girl just needs to be spanked! ;)

We'll get there, I know we will. It'll take time, patience, work, and probably a couple of arguments here and there. But it'll all be worth it.

On a happier note - he made a purchase the other day that we're both very excited to try out. It's something called Oh Mi Bod. Here's the link for anyone who wants to check it out.

OhMiBod

Hopefully we'll try it out sometime soon, and I'll be able to give a few more details next time I update. :)

One other thing I wanted to mention is that I have this messaging app called KIK, that I use to talk to some DD friends and it stopped working on my old phone. I just got a new phone, so I've re downloaded it and am now able to use it again - yay!

Love chatting to old, and new DD friends.. so If any of you have the app, or want to get it and say hi - feel free. You don't have to put in any personal info or anything, so it's nice and safe!

My name on there is kenziex0x0

Hopefully I'll talk to some of you there. :)

Reigniting the DD flame

How has it been over two months since my last entry in this blog?!

There have been so many times I've wanted to write an entry, but every time I went to do it, something came up. I finally decided I miss it so much, that I have to make time to get back into blogging.

Things have been pretty crazy since my last entry for both Colin and I. First thing to mention is we added a new addition to our family. Nooo, not a baby yet .. but a kitten! He's a little ball of energy, and can be such a little pain, but he is also so cuddly and sweet, and just so freakin' adorable! He was just jumping all over the keyboard, making it impossible to type, but now he's cuddled up next to me, sleeping, so I finally have the keyboard to myself!

Other thing keeping us busy is work. September through March or April is his busiest time for work, and I actually started working for the same company, so it's now busy for me as well. It's nice because it's not as much of a struggle money wise as it usually is for us, but at the same time, it makes DD/Ds pretty impossible.

To be completely honest, there has been very little, if any, DD type stuff going on with us. Unfortunately, it kind of faded into the background the last few months. It's weird, because part of me really misses it, but another part of me has been kind of relieved in a weird way.

There were times that DD/Ds felt like more work than it was supposed to be. I know it takes a lot of work to keep it going, and it's not always easy, but it just felt like .. too much. I think Colin might have felt the same way. I guess a bit of a break was a good thing for us.

That being said, I was wondering the other day if DD was .. done for us. We hadn't talked about it in a while, and I just didn't know where we stood with it.

I went on vacation with my family for a week, and Colin stayed home for work. Being away really really made me miss it. I no longer felt relieved, or wanted anymore of a break. I really wanted the DD/Ds aspect back in our relationship.

I sort of mentioned it to Colin while I was away, and when I came back he said we'd be having a long discussion about things. Part of me wanted to push the subject, and have the conversation then and just get things back on track, but I decided to leave it in his hands. He was aware of how I felt, and I wanted to see if he would follow through. I trusted him to take care of things.

So I've been patient, he's been insanely busy, but today he told me he made a list of things we need to talk about and we'd be having that conversation tonight, as long as he gets home at a decent hour.

I'm happy that he wants things back on track as well. I think life got in the way, and neither of us really pushed to keep things going - but in the end, I think it was a good thing. I think we'll get back to how we were, and end up being even better than ever in our DD/Ds relationship. We'll find what works for us, and make this lifestyle our own. :)

Has anyone else gone through anything like this before? Where DD or Ds just kind of faded away. No one did anything to mess it up, or to end it, but it just sort of stopped for a while? Were you able to start it back up again?

It's always been hard for me to just let go, and let him take the lead. Usually I end up trying to make things go my way. How I envision it going. This time, I'm letting go. I'm trusting him to be the HOH and to get us where we need to be. I'm anxious, and excited, to see what happens. :)

I'm also going to try my hardest to get back into regular blogging. I really miss reading everyones blogs and seeing how everyone is doing. Going to catch up on that right now!

I also saw that it's almost LoL day!!! Yay! I'm happy that I came back to blogland in time for that. I can't wait. :) All you lurkers out there, get ready with some questions or comments - I'll try to think of something to make it fun!

I see your Dominance, but I need to FEEL it.

I should probably start this blog off with a warning of some sort. Basically this post is going to be all over the place. I have a few topics I want to write about, but instead of writing separate blog posts, I figured I'd try to fit it all into one - without making this an hour long read. :p

First thing to start with, is that Colin is healing pretty well. He has some pain here and there, but all the checkups have been great, and he starts his physical therapy in a few days, so that should help a lot! When it comes to DD/Ds during his recovery, it started off really well. We did things to keep it alive, and right before his surgery I actually got a very serious spanking which kept me in line for a pretty long time! I've gotten a little teary before from a punishment, maaaybe even came close to crying - but this spanking changed that for sure! The spanking was for some serious disrespect, and towards the end he started talking about how what I say can really hurt him. Yikes. The lecture really hit me.. (at the same time the implement was hitting me by the way) and I just knew I wasn't going to be able to hold back the tears.

Colin was asking me questions during the lecture, and when I stopped answering with "yes Sir," and became quiet rather than answering his questions, he could tell I didn't want him to know I was crying. He gave me a few more smacks with it, and then held me for a while. He told me I don't need to hide the fact that I'm crying, and that it might help me to just let go and get it all out. He held me for a while, I cried, we talked, and it was the most effective punishment I've received. Sooo, that certainly helped with my behavior. For a while. 

We also did a few activities that have really helped us maintain our roles. We filled out a limit list together, we each wrote down what we think the other does well in their role, and what they could work on. Another one we did, was to write down 5 things each of us would ideally like from the other on a regular basis. 

He also decided that I'm going to start writing a daily diary. Something to keep track of how many waters I drink a day, if I do my chores or not, why I didn't get something done, and just my overall feelings that day. Just a quick little entry each day. We'll then go over it at night, during out nightly discussions.

I went to the store and bought a notebook on Monday - but I've yet to write in it. I'm not sure why, but I'm losing my submissiveness big time this week.

There hasn't been much follow through from Colin lately either. I notice that during our nightly discussions, for the past two weeks, he's been telling me I need to do better with drinking enough water throughout the day. I'm supposed to drink a minimum of 4 bottles a day, and I've been drinking one .. maybe two. In my mind I'm kind of like... "ok, well if I haven't been drinking enough water, and you've been reminding me every night for about two weeks.. maaaaybe it's time to do more than just talk to me about it?!?!" I've SEEN his dominance plenty lately, but I haven't FELT his dominance in a while. To me, there's a difference.

We talk, and do activities, and discuss things, BUT there isn't much reinforcement. I've pointed this out to him a few times, and he always says it's going to change, but to be honest - it hasn't. In my mind, that means it's not going to. I know he has a ton on his mind, and he's stressed, and I completely get that. But that doesn't make it any easier.

I don't want to come off as whining or complaining either, so I apologize if it comes across that way - but I needed to vent a bit. ;) So yea, that's where we are right now, but I'm hoping we'll get back on track soon.

Next thing I wanted to mention, was that we had the amazing opportunity to get together with 5 other DD couples about a month ago for a whole weekend, and it was SO much fun. I'm so lucky to have met such great, down to earth, real, fun, people that "get" the whole TTWD thing. Colin and I were able to be ourselves, and not hide this aspect of our lives around others. The only downside to that? Other HOHS give very evil presents to each other, and I got into a bit of trouble one night so Colin decided it was a great time to try out some new implements! All I can say is OUCH! Oh, and they weren't exactly silent implements either. So yes, it was heard by others. Grrr. ;) But like I said, it was such a great feeling to be ourselves, and be around others who understand. I'm very thankful. :)

The last thing I wanted to mention, was that the Fifty Shades of Grey trailer came out today! I wasn't looking forward to it at all, but the trailer changed my mind just a little bit. I still don't like the female lead, but I have to say that seeing the trailer made me see the actor who plays Christian, in a different light. I didn't think he'd be "Christian-y" at all .. but after seeing the trailer, I'm starting to see it a bit. Have you guys seen it? If not I'll put it up in this post - watch it and let me know what you think. :) Will you be heading to the movie theater when it comes out next year?

Muttering Under Your Breath Leads to a Bedtime!

I have to start off by saying, thanks for all the input on the new blog name! I went with "His Cheeky Sub," and I really like it. :) Seemed to be the consensus among you guys as well!

I do have a question though for any blog savvy readers out there. I see that the name changed on my page, but when I see my blog on blog rolls, it still says Red Bottoms & TTWD. Will that stay that way? Is there anything I can do for it to show up as the new name?

Things are still going well with us. Colin had another doctors appointment the other day and his surgery is officially scheduled! He's going to be getting two surgeries at once. Shoulder surgery, and wrist surgery. It's happening in the beginning of July, and I'm so happy his pain will be gone shortly after that! Recovery time will probably be around a month, so it will be hard with him being out of work for that amount of time, but we'll figure out a way to make it work. I asked him how he's going to know when he's able to go back to spanking, and he had his answer all lined up, as it was clearly something he thought about before...

"I'm going to ask him how long until I can go bowling." Pretty smart! Bowling kind of, sort of requires a similar movement in the arm as giving a spanking, so it seems like that's a good way to ask. :)

We're still having our nightly discussions and they have made such a difference in TTWD for us. He's been so consistent with it, and I'm so thankful and happy that it's been working out so well. We were having our talk last night, and a big topic of discussion was my procrastination issues. He said he's going to have to start giving me a wakeup time and I just kind of quietly laughed and muttered under my breath, "Sure. Just like the imaginary bedtime." Of course he heard me, and asked what I meant by that. I told him how he's mentioned multiple times that he's going to implement a bed time, but it's never happened, so I didn't think a wake up time would happen either.

Well, I was wrong. His response? 

"From now on, you'll be in bed by 10. Going to sleep by 11. Set the alarm on your phone to go off every morning at 8 am. And don't think you'll be hitting the snooze button when it goes off either."

When will I learn to just keep my mouth shut? As much as I don't want to admit it, it might be a good idea. I don't always get the best nights sleep, and I can be pretty grumpy because of it. I also procrastinate like crazy, so maybe .. just maybe, the bedtime and wakeup time might help. 

Yeah, Yeah.. Hoh's always know best don't they? *Insert sarcastic eye roll.* ;)

We have a busy weekend ahead of us, how about you guys? Any fun plans?

Submissive, cheeky, playful - you pick!

Do you ever find yourself in that type of mood when you want some sort of change?

It could be a new hair color, a new hair cut, or even just a new pair of boots?

Wellll I'm kind of in that mood lately, and I'll most likely be dying my hair soon, but I figured why not change something else as well... maybe the name of my blog?

Red Bottoms and TTWD was something that I came up with fairly quickly when I made the blog and because I couldn't think of much else, I figured I'd just go with it. Lately, I've felt like I needed something that suits me more.

I told Colin, but I was sitting there stumped and couldn't think of anything. As I was trying to come up with something, he came up with a few ideas that I thought were actually kind of cute. The only problem is, I'm as indecisive as an HOH with a bucket full of implements, so I can not make up my mind!

This is where you guys come in. I thought I'd list Colin's ideas and see what everyone thinks. It makes it more fun that way. :)

So..here are his ideas, with a little bit of a background on why they might fit me/this blog...


1.) His Reluctant Submissive  (I'm not always the most submissive, submissive.)

2.) His Playful Pet   (I'm always trying to play around - being silly & playing pranks.)

3.) His Cheeky Sub  (I have a bit of a sarcastic personality.)

4.) His Devilishly Good Girl (A good girl with a devilish side. :p)

Soooo - any thoughts? Do you like one more than another? Think one fits me or this blog better than the others? I'd love to hear what you think so I can change it up to something new. :)

And just because I found this picture that I loooove - I thought I'd share... hopefully it'll help with everyones case of the Mondays!

You're going to be my good girl.

Yay, I have time to blog again! AND I even had time to catch up on a bunch of blogs as well!

I've realized a couple of times now, that in blog land, it seems like when one of us is going through something, at least 5 others seem to be going through it as well. Whether it's a tough time, not feeling submissive, or our HOH's being.. super HOHy. I love how it's a place where so many people can relate to each other on so many different obstacles/issues.

Anyway - Colin and I are doing pretty good. He's going to the doctor on Tuesday to discuss surgery options and all that fun stuff, so we will have a plan and a scheduled surgery (or surgeries?) for him soon. Like I said in the last post, it has been very tough when it comes to spanking, or lack of, but he's certainly been making up for it with his HOHy-ness. 

We recently went on a vacation, and it was SO nice to get away and be able to relax a bit. There wasn't much relaxing because there was a huge music festival going on, so we were doing something almost every hour of every day, but it was SO much fun! I had been wanting to talk to him about finding ways to make DD/Ds stay alive while his shoulder was hurting, but I had been holding back because I really wanted HIM to bring it up.

Finally, I realized for the millionth time in our relationship - he is NOT a mind reader. I need to be able to communicate with him and let him know how I feel. So I came up with an idea, and I decided to talk to him about it. I asked him if we could do a maintenance type thing, minus the spanking.

Something where every night before bed, we'd have a little talk. He could tell me what I need to work on, what I've been doing good on, etc. He seemed to really like the idea, and all of a sudden he chimed in with a bunch of things to add to our nightly talk. 

"Sure we can do that. I think it'll be very helpful for both of us....BUT there will be times when you're over my knee for this discussion. When you're not over my knee, there will be eye contact during the discussion. No looking down, or looking away."

Oh boy. What did I get myself into? The whole eye contact thing drives me craaazy. Instantly makes me feel submissive, vulnerable, and extremely cared for all at the same time. There are also certain phrases/words he says, that kind of make me instantly melt. A few times he's said, "You're going to be my good girl, that I know you can be, right?" I swear I must blush every time he says that! Especially when he adds in at the end, "Or else you can expect there to be consequences." Yikes! 

So we started that night, which was last Saturday or Sunday, and we've had a nightly chat every night so far. He also asks for my feedback and always asks if there's anything I'd like to add to the conversation. It has been such a huge relief to have these talks, because it really has helped me stay submissive. I think it's been good for him as well - he seems to really like it every night. I love it for the most part - other than the times it turns into more of a lecture than a discussion! But in all honesty, I look forward to that time of the night - every night. :)

He's also mentioned wanting me to start doing submissive exercises more often. He's been doing some research and trying to find ideas that will work for us. 

The thing is,he's been working a minimum of 10 hour days, usually 12 or 14, and since he's not home until night time, he wants to find ideas that will work for when I'm by myself. That's where it get's tricky.

I'm going to do some research and see what I can come up with, and I thought I'd do a post on it next time I write. In the meantime, I was wondering if anyone has any suggestions? 

Anything you have tried or have heard of others trying for when the submissive isn't with the Dominant? Some kind of submissive exercise, or tasks/assignments? Would love to get some thoughts, and then add it to the post when I make one!

Oh and one more thing to add - because I'm superrrrrrrrr ecstatic about it..... In a little less than 2 weeks we'll be taking a road trip and spending the weekend with 5 other DD couples!!!! FIVE! That means 6 Tihs, and 6 HOHs! I can't even imagine what it's going to be like, but I'm counting down the days! 

Hope everyone has a great weekend! 

Punishment Journals & Rating Consequences

Hi everyone! Hope you all had a great weekend. :)

Colin and I went to the store the other day and got a journal/notebook thing that we decided would be beneficial for DD/Ds and for getting us back on track.

We sat down together and wrote a list of rules, a list of consequences, a list of rewards, and a list of chores. He had to leave for a bit, and told me when he was gone he wanted me to write a detailed chore calendar as well as ranking the punishments we listed earlier, in a list from most to least effective.

Doing that stuff instantly put me in such a submissive mind set, and even though it's something pretty little, I thought it was a great step in the right direction.

I wrote up both things he asked, and was really anxious to show him when he got home. Before I showed him, he said he was going to rank the punishments as well, so that we could see if we were on the same page when it came to effectiveness of punishments.

We were both pretty shocked when we read our lists to each other, because they weren't as similar as we thought they would be.

I thought I'd share our lists here, just because I thought it was so interesting.

*Now keep in mind, just because a punishment is at the bottom of the list (least effective) it doesn't mean I don't find it effective. I still think the ones at the bottom work very well, just not as well as the ones towards the top.*

Kenzie's List:

1.) Lecturing
2.) Spanking
3.) Essay/Apology letter
4.) Sent to bedroom
5.) Loss of privileges
6.) Early bedtime
7.) Corner time
8.) Kneeling
9.) Capcaisin cream
10.) Butt plug
11.) Soap/hot sauce
12.) Nipple clamps

Colin's List:

1.) Lecturing
2.) Spanking
3.) Butt plug
4.) Soap/hot sauce
5.) Essay/Apology letter
6.) Kneeling
7.) Corner time
8.) Sent to bedroom
9.) Capcaisin cream
10.) Loss of privileges
11.) Nipple clamps
12.) Early bedtime

We started off on the same page, but then didn't have many similarities. I don't know why exactly, but I just found it really interesting. We haven't done any submissive exercises in a while, and I think this was perfect for us. I have to say, I recommend it to anyone looking for these sorts of exercises. We were able to learn some new things about each other, have some very good conversations about the outcome, and just get some really good insight into what each of us thinks about the effectiveness of our list of punishments and consequences.

If anyone has any other submissive type exercises like this one, we'd love to hear about them. It really helped us both to feel better in our roles and I'm so happy he came up with the idea for us to do this - so I'd love to hear any other ideas you guys have! :)

I know he's got me. ;) And I love him like crazy for it! 

My deepest, darkest secrets. ;)

Okay, so I won't really be shaing my deepest darkest secrets in this blog post, but since March is question month - it all depends on what you guys ask! :)

I'm so glad I started a blog, and have gotten to know so many great people through blogging, chat rooms, forums, etc. Blogland has been such a great outlet for me, and such a great place for both Colin and I to get advice, make friends, and just feel like we're not crazy for TTWD. It seems like I've been blogging for forever, but I actually just checked and my first blog post was March 20th last year! So it seems pretty fitting that March is question month. :)

I was also relieved to log on and see posts about March being question month, because I wasn't sure I could come up with something all that great to write about right now. Colin and I are doing great. He's stepped up a lot lately with DD, and the submissive feeling is starting to come back to me a bit. I'm been a little down and blah lately though. I previously write about my dog being sick, and how I didn't think he'd be around for too much longer. Well, he got a little bit better, seemed so happy and content lately, but the other day he passed away. It was in the best way possible, and I don't think he suffered at all. He truly was such a special dog. He was my Christmas present when I was 12 years old, and I couldn't have asked for a better present, or a better dog. Some people will think I'm crazy for saying this, but I'm one of those people who honestly believe animals become 100 percent part of the family. It's like losing a family member, and it's not an easy thing to go through. Colin's been great about it - giving me some leniency, but also knowing when to pull in the reins. I'll miss him tons, but I'm so thankful to have had so many great years with him. :)

So back to the questions. I think it'll be a great thing to get my mind in a different direction, so please .. feel free to ask anything you want!

 It can be:

random, personal, deep, silly, a question for me, a question for Colin, or a question for the both of us. 

No need to hold back. We're both open to answering pretty much anything ..

sooo ask away! :)

Oh, and if you don't feel like posting a comment - feel free to email me with any questions, at ddcouple26@gmail.com

When a submissive, doesn't feel submissive.

It's been a little while since I made a post here, and I figured it was about time to update.

I feel like I don't have much to say, which is a big reason I haven't updated lately, but I guess I'll just write and see what happens. :)

Not much is new with us, nothing terribly exciting anyway. To be honest, ttwd is still kind of on the back burner.

Actually, scratch that. I wouldn't necessarily say it's on the back burner, more like in the background.

I know it's still there, I just wish I *felt* it a bit more. Does that make sense?

I don't think either of us are to blame at all, but for some reason it just seems really hard to get back on track. We've talked about it, we've come up with a few ideas, but it's still not the same as where it was, or where I'd like it to be.

If I had to pinpoint a reason or two for why I don't think things are running smoothly lately, I'd attribute it to two things.

1. Consistency is lacking a bit.
2. I'm just not feeling submissive.

With the whole consistency thing, it's hard to put into words what I mean by that. It's not that Colin isn't being consistent, because he is. For example, that damn list app thingy. He texted me this morning, telling me to check the list when I got up, and cross off the items on that list.

Drink water, go to the gym, and make his lunch for tomorrow. Nothing too difficult. I drank a good amount of water, will make his lunch before bed, but I didn't get to the gym. I just didn't have time today between work and not feeling well.

So anyway, he texted me a little earlier and asked how I made out on the list.

I told him I drank the water, would make his lunch before bed, but didn't get to the gym.

He replied with, "Good girl. Just remember gym is 3x a week."

So he's checking up on me, making sure I'm doing what I should, so yes when it comes to that sort of consistency, I couldn't ask for anything more from him.

I guess the consistency I feel is lacking, comes more from the little things.

He's been telling me a lot lately to stop rolling my eyes. I'm an eye roller, so this is not an easy habit to break! I do it a lot! Well he'll notice me rolling my eyes, but won't say anything.

I don't expect the man to flip me over his knee every time I roll my eyes, but if it's something he wants me working on, why isn't he noticing it?

It's little things like that that happen pretty often lately, which has me feeling kind of iffy when it comes to consistency. I'm not trying to whine, or complain, especially about petty little things like that, so please don't take it that way. I guess I'm just trying to sort out how I'm feeling in a sense.

So the second reason. Me not feeling submissive. I wish I had a damn button that I could push and all of a sudden I'd feel totally submissive. I just don't want to submit lately. When I get into a rut with things, I just kind of turn off and give up, and I think maybe that's what I'm doing here.

Rather than pushing at it, and trying to make it better - I just turn off. 

I'm not naturally submissive, so it's not easy for me. I want to be submissive though, so I need to find a way to make it work and not just give up on it.

I think I'm just going to try and stop over thinking it for a bit. I'm going to trust that things will go back to how they were, and that we WILL get back into the swing of things. I know I want to, and I know Colin wants to, so it's nice not having to question that anymore. I guess it just boils down to me letting go, and giving IN rather than giving up.

I'm going to try and be extra submissive this week. I'm going to make it a point to do little things around the house, or cook, or just listen without putting up a fight. Maybe if I force myself a bit this week, then it'll come more naturally in the weeks to come.

How about you guys? Do you ever get into that kind of rut where your submission is just nowhere to be found? Anything specific you do, or have done to get back into that frame of mind?

One Year DD Anniversary!

Wow, we made it a whole year! :) I have to say, it feels like we've been on this DD/Ds journey for more like five years at times, but I'm glad we are where we are today.

I honestly never thought I would have been able to bring up the idea of DD to Colin .. ever! I used to think about what it would be like if I told him, but never imagined actually being able to get the courage to tell him about it! I'm so glad I finally did. We've had some really low lows, and some very high highs, and I wouldn't change any of it for the world.

As much as the low points suck, I think they were all learning experiences, so in a way, I really am thankful for them.

I'm going to answer a few questions you guys asked in a previous post, and Colin will answer the questions that were for him as well. :) Thanks so much for asking, and hope you enjoy the answers! My answers will be in pink, and Colin's will be in blue. Original, I know. ;)

Joey asked: Will the two of you ever attend a spanking party, such as scony?

Yes! I really want to attend a spanking party with Colin. I think it'd be a very interesting experience, and I hope one day soon to work up the courage to do so!

Yes, we've been thinking about going for a while now.

Missy asked: What was the most surprising discovery you made about yourselves since you started TTWD?

Hm, I think I'd have to go with how I realized I really *AM* submissive. I used to always swear up and down I wasn't a submissive person, even when I craved a DD/Ds relationship. Over time, Colin has helped me realize it's a lot more natural for me to be submissive to him than I thought. I just needed to let go and let him lead. I'm still working on it, but I think I've done a decent job at it so far. 

How second nature being Dominant is for me. I thought it would take a lot longer to feel this natural.

Roz asked: What is the most important thing you have learnt about each other since TTWD?

The most important thing I learned about Colin since TTWD, is that he can be naturally Dominant. Not only can he be, but he is. I used to think since he was like a cuddly teddy bear, sweetheart type, that he couldn't be strict and Dominant like I needed. Boy was I wrong! It's like having the best of both worlds, and I love it.

I've learned that Kenzie can be really submissive when I need her to be. She's become so much more comfortable getting into that mind set and not second guessing herself, or second guessing me. 

JJ Stars asked: As you reflect on your progress and think about your end goal, what is one element of your relationship (spanking related or not) that you each would like to improve about yourselves personally, and one thing you would like the other to work on?

One thing I'd like to improve about myself, is doing more things for him just because. Cooking, cleaning up, sexual things.. just doing things for him. He does so much for me, and I want to do just as much for him. One thing I'd like him to work on, is sticking to things. Sometimes he'll make a rule and then forget it was even a rule.. I'd like him to be more focused on the little things with DD/Ds.

I'd like to work on my consistency, and realizing that there are so many other options besides spanking. Less waiting, and more taking care of things when they need to be taken care of. As for Kenzie, I'd like her to work on being more comfortable with her self. Realizing that she's beautiful in every aspect, and she needs to give herself more credit. 

EsMay asked: What is the biggest lesson you have each learned in your respective roles, and what changes did you make because of those lessons?

I learned that I can be a spoiled brat! I used to take advantage of how much Colin did for me. I wouldn't say thank you that often, and I just figured he knew that I appreciated it all, rather than telling/showing him that I appreciated it. I'm still working on the changes, but I'm trying to do more things for him. For example, I hate to cook .. but tonight I was so excited to cook for him and I have dinner in the crockpot right now. :) 

For me it would be learning how important consistency is. Rather than just saying xy and z, or I'll "handle it later," I learned that some things need to be taken care of rather than waiting all the time. The change I made was rather than putting it off, I found other ways of dealing with things besides spanking. If I was too tired, or my arm hurt and it couldn't be done, I somehow let her know it would still be dealt with and that it was important to me. 

These next set of questions are from Bonnie:

What's your favorite part of each others bodies, and why?

I loooove his arms. He's got nice, defined, muscly arms and I just love them. Why? Hm well I guess because I'm a spanko, lol.

Her ass. I wonder why. ;)

What's your favorite implement to spank or be spanked with?

I like his hand. It's intimate, and it doesn't hurt as much as some of the evil implements we own. But if we're talking actual, non hand implements, I'd have to go with a hairbrush. It just seems very traditional to me.

The big green monster. Thanks Honey&Lee! I also love our red paddle that Kenzie won through blogging.

How do you feel DD has benefited your relationship?

Oh in SO many ways! The biggest one being our arguments are so different than they were pre-dd. We used to go AT IT! We'd scream at each other, say horrible things to each other, a couple times there were even holes in the wall. Now that we're doing DD, that hasn't happened in such a long time. We communicate, we tell each other if we're upset with the other, and we know how to deal with things. We talk to each other so much better, we're more cuddly and lovey dovey. We smile and laugh more. We smiled, laughed, and cuddled, a lot pre-DD as well, but after starting DD I just feel more in love than I ever thought possible. And I was crazy head over heels in love before DD, so I never thought I could fall even more in love with someone. 

It has benefited our relationship so much, that I couldn't imagine not doing it. Kenzie wanted to go on a break for a little bit because of stress and it really made me realize how important it is to our relationship. It's helped how we deal with arguments, and how we communicate. 

The next set, still from Bonnie *thanks for all the questions, I love them!* are for Colin to answer only:

When did you first know you loved Kenzie?

We had been seeing each other for a while, but hadn't become official yet. I was kind of an asshole back then, and she finally told me that it was either all or nothing. We were laying in bed talking about it, and we both got teary. I think we just knew how much we cared about each other. I asked her to be official and that's when I knew I loved her. 

What did you think when she brought DD to you?

I thought it was something new to try, but also didn't really understand it. At first I thought it was purely sexual, but then I realized how much more there was to it.

What's the one thing Kenzie does, that drives you crazy?

She likes to pull my chest hair. Drives me NUTS! I could go on for hours, but you asked me for ONE thing. ;) 

I also got two questions from non bloggers, who emailed me and said they read my blog and would like to ask questions - thanks guys!

Do you have any tricks that you use in everyday vanilla life, to keep DD going?

Hm, I know I'm always trying to come up with things like this, but we do have a couple. For one, we just started using an app where he comes up with a to-do list and I have to check things off of it. I think that's helped a lot so far. Other than that, nothing really in particular. Just communicating about how things are going I guess. We've been wanting to do RA type spankings for a while, but haven't gotten around to them yet. I think once we do, those will help a lot as well.

I think the little things help a lot. Texts throughout the day, letting her know I'm proud of her, or that she's been doing a good job. If she hasn't been that good, all it takes is an "Mmmhmm," and she knows she's in trouble. 

What's a spanking/Ds fantasy you would like to live out?

Ooooh, I have a couple, but I'll just go with one for now. I think it'd be interesting to have someone else present for a spanking, maybe in a situation where I'm being spanked alongside someone else. Maybe we both got in trouble together and both will be punished for it, but rather than handling it in private, our HOHs decide to handle it right then and there. This is just a fantasy, I'm not sure how interesting it'd be if it actually happened! Lol

I'd love to tie her up and tease her for hours. I also think it would be hot to have another female spank her.

And there's the questions and answers! Thanks so much everyone, we really had a lot of fun with this. I thought I'd end the post by including a few stats I thought were pretty cool. I know I haven't been blogging for quite a year yet, but thought it'd be fun to include some anyway. Thanks to everyone who reads this blog, comments, offers advice, hugs, etc - I'm so happy Colin and I have found blog land, because it's made this TTWD journey so much easier, and we're so thankful! :)

All time pageviews: 115,693
Top three visited posts: Spanko Advent Calendar 2013 Boot Camp Kicked My Butt and If You Give a Dom a Reason
Top keywords people use to find my blog: Spanko, TTWD, Red Bottoms and TTWD, The ceiling, TTWD Blog, and the ceiling is dirty.

Umm, all of those make sense except for the ceiling ones? Poor people looking for celings and come across my spanking blog. Between those two keywords, a total of 81 people supposedly found my blog that way. Weeeird.

And two pictures to conclude the post .. because, well .. why not? There is just something about the belt, isn't there?

When being submissive feels like a chore..

I've been wanting to write a post for a while now, but it seems every time I went to write one, I'd decide against it. I didn't think I had anything to write about, and I just felt kind of .. blah about the whole DD thing.

To be honest, I'm kind of forcing myself to write this post. I've wanted to write for a while, so I guess I need to just .. do it, and see what comes out. It might be a lot of senseless rambling, so feel free to skip this post - I'll understand. :)

DD, Ds, any sort of TTWD has been pretty extinct for us lately. I don't really know why, other than we've both been sick and pretty stressed. We've been having a bunch of problems with our moronic landlord, who is basically trying to kick us out, so he doesn't have to pay for all the issues that are going on in the apartment. He broke our lease recently, because he came into the apartment early one morning when he wasn't supposed to. Colin had left for work, and I was in bed, when I heard keys in the doorknob. I freaked out, and then heard the door open so jumped out of bed and ran over to the door to see what was going on. There was my landlord, just standing there. "Oh uh, I didn't think anyone would be home." Oh ok, so you just show up because you don't think anyone is home? Um no. Not according to the lease. Anyway, needless to say it made me nervous to be home alone, especially at night, so we've been trying to move out, which has become so stressful.

We live in a very overpriced part of the country, so finding someone decent in our price range has been a huge hassle. We finally found something we both really like, and I'm pretty sure it's ours. I'm supposed to meet with the guy soon to sign the lease, so until then I don't want to jinx it, but I'm pretty excited! It's much bigger than the space we're in now, but it's also more expensive. It's do-able, but it won't be easy. I think it's time to hit the lottery!

Anyway, so we've been stressed because of that and it seems to have really taken a toll on TTWD. I think it's also because we had company over the holidays, and since we weren't able to do much then, it's hard to get back into the swing of things.

It almost feels like a chore to be submissive. I want to get back into it so badly, but I catch myself getting really irritated when he gives me something to do. There's a lot that has to be done, and every time he reminds me to get the stuff done, I want to roll my eyes and tell him to be quiet.

I kind of feel like we're stuck and don't know how to get back on track. Especially now that the holidays are over, so he's back to working anywhere from 60-100 hours a week!

We've talked about this a little bit and I mentioned maybe having some kind of reconnection spanking. He seemed to agree, and also said that we'd be starting fresh. He said we'll be going over our rules, adding a few new ones, and he was going to be enforcing them pretty strictly. If we get this new place, it'll be nice because we'll be able to get a complete fresh start. Only thing is, we have one floor where we are now, so it's not like he can tell me to, "Go wait upstairs." Welllll the new place, has three floors. So he can very easily tell me to go upstairs and wait for him. I don't know why that makes me nervous, but it does!

Another reason I think we're not back on track yet, is that I don't think either one of us quite knows how to wrap our heads around certain types of spankings. Let's see if I can get this to make sense without rambling on forever...Warning: There might be a bunch of nonsense that doesn't make sense below, lol, but I'm just trying to sort it all out ..

I get punishment spankings. Those are the types of spankings I had always envisioned when I realized I wanted a DD relationship. I wanted the consequences, the lecturing, the aftercare - basically everything that comes with a punishment spanking.

I kind of get reconnection spankings. I crave his Dominance, I want to be reminded who is in charge, I want/need him to want/need to spank me .. just because he wants to, or just because he can. If I'm slipping a bit and have been a little bratty, but don't quite deserve a punishment spanking, that's when I can see a reconnection type spanking taking place. That or if we've been in a funk for a little bit and need to go over the rules or something like that.

With that being said, I can't quite grasp other spankings. Good girl spankings, fun spankings, sexy spankings. I want all of those, but I'm not sure how to separate them from the punishment spankings. What do I do differently? What does he do differently? What does he say differently? I need the stuff that goes with the spanking. The verbal part. The lecturing. His Dominance. I need all that. How does he convey that when it's not a punishment? Why do I have such an issue submitting to a spanking when it's not for punishment? I feel like I get lost in my thoughts and find a reason to fight with him so that it doesn't happen.

Does that even make any sense? I warned you guys, this might be a bunch of mumbo jumbo rambling taking place.

Bottom line? We're in a funk. Again. But this time, I don't know how to get out of it. I think I need one of those reconnection type spankings. I need it to be 100 percent initiated by him. I need for him to be more Dominant and in charge than ever before. I think about how I need all of this, but then I imagine him coming home tonight and actually telling me to get over his knee, and I just don't think I'd listen. I think I'd make up a thousand excuses. I'm too tired, I'm too stressed, I don't feel well, I have cramps.

Now, it's not like those are made up excuses, because they're all very much true. Today has been exceptionally exhausting. I got a dog for my 12th birthday, and he's now 13 years old. He's literally the most amazing dog there is. He's adorable, friendly, the sweetest thing ever, and he's been part of my family for so long.

He went to the vet today and they wanted to put him to sleep. He doesn't seem to be in any pain at all, but he's lost a ton of weight, isn't really eating, and can't walk much. The last thing in the world I want, is to see that dog suffer. It'd break my heart. But right now, he isn't suffering. He's old, yes, but he certainly doesn't seem to be in any sort of pain. Thankfully he came back home and the doctor gave him some antibiotics and said maybe there'll be some sort of miracle and that's all he will need for now, but in his opinion, he's not going to live much longer. I got the news, and right away I called Colin and just kind of lost it. It's been a long day of tears and sadness, so I really am emotionally spent. It'll be so hard to lose him, and it makes me so sad to think about it. I just hope these antibiotics work and when he does go, I hope he goes peacefully in his sleep.

So yes, maybe tonight isn't the best night for that reconnection spanking, I don't think I'm in the right head space right now.. but I do hope it happens soon. I think we both need it.

Like I said, lots of rambling about different topics, but at least it got me to write a post! What do you guys think? Have you ever been in this type of funk, and did a reconnection spanking help? Or maybe something else? I'd love to hear your thoughts! :)

Not one spanking, not two spankings, FIVE spankings?!

Sometimes I wonder where my sweet non-Hohy husband went, and wonder why in the world I created this monster!

Just kidding. He's not a monster, and I wouldn't trade his Hohy-ness for anything in the world, but when I'm being spanked, in that moment it's hard to appreciate the Hohy-ness.

The other night I was driving with Colin in the car, and he noticed my gas light was on. He told me I should pull over and get gas, but I was so tired I just wanted to get home. I asked him if I could just wait until the morning.

Well .. the morning came, and I was rushing around. I kinda, sorta, maybe .. forgot to get gas. Whoops.

I tend to usually fill up my tank at the last possible minute, because I know that even once the light comes on, you still have about 30 miles in the reserve. Well this time I waited wayyy too long. I was driving home with a friend and all of a sudden, in the middle of a main road, my car started turning off. Thankfully I was right next to an empty parking lot, and was able to pull over. I tried starting the car again, and it just would not start.

Right away, I knew I was toast. I reallllyyy didn't want to call Colin, but I didn't know what else to do.

I texted some DD friends to try to put my mind at ease, but that didn't happen. :p It went something along the lines of:

Me: Hey guys - um, if a car runs out of gas .. does it just not start?
Friends: Yea, it wouldn't start if you ran out .. did you run out of gas?
Me: Explained my situation to them
Friends: You are in trouble!

I saw my Tih friends, turn into mini Hohs in that moment! ;) I know it's because they care, so I thought it was sweet! I did tell them I was going to run away and they could take turns hiding me, but of course the other Hohs would have very quickly called Colin up and I wouldn't get very far. ;)

So I bit the bullet, after trying the car a few more times, and called Colin up. He left work to come help me, and when we were on the phone we were talking about why it could have just died like that.

"Did you put gas in it today?"
"Oh uh .. Yea. I don't know what it could be. It's not the gas."

*Insert foot into mouth.. quickly!*

After I said that, I immediately regretted it. I knew I was going to be in trouble for breaking two of the D's; Dangerous and Disobedience, and now I just added lying to that list. Can you say CRAP?!

It was getting colder and colder, because where we live it's freezing this time of the year! I also knew I had to tell him about the gas before he got to me, so he could stop at the gas station and bring me some gas.

"Hun .. um, I actually think it is the gas."
"How could it be the gas. You told me you put gas in it this morning."
"Uh .. not exactly."

*Insert long lecture about how could I lie to him, and how irresponsible it was not to get gas and ALWAYS be waiting until last minute.* Ok ok, I got that point!

Fortunately/Unfortunately my friend couldn't hear him on the phone, so he had free range to lecture away. When he pulled up he gave me that look, and kinda clapped his hands together and then wiggled his hand around. It's a little sign he likes to do in public to let me know what's going to happen when we're alone.

He's even said a few times, "My hand keeps twitching." Ugh!

So he put the gas in my car, and we drove home. My friend stayed over for a couple nights so we didn't have any alone time until Sunday.

Over the weekend she was in the other room doing something, and he was standing in the kitchen. He pointed for me to come stand in front of him and decided to do a little bit more lecturing. Of course he made sure he was quiet, but he made his point. I was in for it!

So Sunday night, I was finally able to hear what he had decided on for punishment.

"Monday night through Friday night you will be getting some sort of spanking. Some could be long, some could be short, but you WILL be getting some sort of spanking each night. There will also be other punishments such as corner time, kneeling, and writing an essay."

"What?! Are you serious? Why?!"

"Do you want to try that again?"

"....I meant, Yes, Sir."

"Good girl."

I don't know where Mr. Hohy came from, but I have a feeling he is here to stay. Help me!

So last night was the first day of the punishment, and it was one of the shorter ones, but it certainly wasn't a walk in the park!

He used his new favorite implement, the paddle I won from Blondie's Place. Let me just say that if you're looking for an implement that looks adorable, but can be a seriously effective implement, go for the pocket paddle from Blondies Place on Etsy. As much as I hate hate HATE that implement when it's being used for punishment, I also have to give it major props for being so effective. After all, I signed up for punishment spankings, so as much as I hate them when they're happening, I do appreciate the effective implements. Colin appreciates them wayyyyyy more than I do, especially this little paddle!

During the punishment, I learned that bending over, hands on bed, body off of bed (if that makes sense?) makes the spanking hurt a whole lot more than just lying flat on the bed. I have no idea why, but it makes a serious difference! It also makes it harder to kick your feet up, especially when he decides to put his arm around your waist and hold you in place... yikes!

The aftercare was very sweet though. I also learned that I pretty much melt when he calls me, his good little girl. He had never called me that before. He has said good girl before, but there's something different about hearing him say, "You're my good little girl." I went to bed with a smile on my face.

Before the punishment, he came up to me with both hands behind his back, and told me to pick a hand. I got all excited because I thought maybe he was giving me an early Christmas present or something, but when I picked a hand and it was empty, I was confused.

He pulled out the other hand from behind his back, which was holding a candy cane.

He laughed and said, "6 strokes of the cane it is."

WHAT?! Not fair! I didn't know that's what we were doing? I call for a redo. Of course I didn't get the redo and I got 6 with the cane. I've been on the naughty list, picked the cane instead of the candy cane, what's next? I'm supposed to get the fun choices from the Advent Calendar. ;)

Did you guys do the candy cane vs cane activity? If you did, I hope you all picked the candy cane and no one else got the actual cane!

I'm excited for tonights activity. Ice and hot wax... hmmm. I'm trying to focus on that rather than the fact that tonight is ALSO punishment night number two. We've also missed out on a few of the activities because of his work schedule, so I'm hoping we'll be able to catch up on some of them sometime soon!

Going back to the whole, Good Girl, thing .. Do you guys have a favorite thing to be called by your Hoh/Dom, or a favorite phrase they use? I'd love to hear what you have to say! :)

Colins Responses & Eeek, RA session!

I had fun writing my last post about 10 things all Doms & HOH's should know, so I thought it might be fun to hear from the other side.

Colin had a few things to say about what I wrote, so I thought I'd ask him to help me out, so we could share his responses with you. He tends to be pretty sarcastic at times, and I got a good laugh out of some of his responses - hopefully you will too. :) Thankfully he agreed to help me out, Yayyy! Cue the happy dance.

What makes this even more amazing, is that Colin totally does the dance Joey is doing,  facial expression and all.

So, here are Colins responses to my last post. If you didn't read the previous post, it might not make sense, so go check it out if ya haven't seen it. :)

1. You're right, corners do seem boring. Use the time wisely, and think about how to avoid them in the future.
2. You might use wooden spoons for cooking, but i'd rather use it to redden your bottom.
3. Sarcastic comments like that are what you earned you soap in the first place. Keep it up and you'll have it in your mouth while youre standing in that 'boring' corner.
4. Google might have most of the answers, but google isn't the one who's being a smart mouth, so unless you want to make the essay longer, stop being a little brat.
5. I think YOU need to get your hearing checked. How many times did I tell you to do something you didn't do? That's what I thought.
6. Ok, you're right. This IS going to hurt you more than it's going to hurt me. I was just trying to be nice.
7. My pants stay up just fine, young lady. If you'd like to complain about the belt, we can move to the strap. You love that one don't you?
8. I remember just fine what I said was going to happen if you acted up again. Why don't you write me one of those essays about it? Or better yet, come on over my knee and we'll have a nice little discussion, where you can remind me what I said would happen.
9. Next time, not only will you answer with a yes Sir, you'll be ASKING me for the spanking.
10. Time for you to get those implements, line them up, and i'll show you what they're really meant for.

Like I said, he can be a bit sarcastic at times. On the other hand, I don't think I'd ever actually say my sarcastic comments directly to him. Okay, who am I kidding? I would, and I probably will sometime soon. ;)

We *Still* haven't gotten in a good RA Session/OTK Discussion because of crazy work schedules and all that, but tonight he said one will be taking place. I recently asked him if we could review our rules and change them up a bit if need be. I haven't been held accountable for most of the rules lately, and I just really need that feeling of .. being held accountable. 

Of course he agreed, so I have a feeling that will come up tonight during RA.

I'm also thinking he'll be trying out some of the new implements. Eeek. Pray for my butt please?

LOL Day is coming up, and I'm hoping to hear from some of you lurkers out there, so start building up the courage to say hi. :) Hopefully when LOL Day comes, I'll hear from some of you! We'll be having some sort of incentive for people to comment, just not quite sure what yet!

Hope everyone had a happy huuump day! 

Some Eye Candy & Christian Grey Disappointment

TTWD isn't exactly back to where i'd like it to be yet, but that's no ones fault. Colin has been working extremely long hours, and we just haven't had much time for anything DD related. I know things will eventually settle down, and get back to normal, and I love him for always reminding me of that. He told me we need to go over the rules again, I have to get back into my submissive mind set, and I have to start answering him properly. Yes Sir, No Sir, etc. Now we just need the time to be able to .. get back on track.

For now, I thought rather than rambling on about the same old stuff, i'd do a little eye candy post.

Update to this post: I am extremely disappointed in the Christian Grey announcement that was just recently made. Jamie Dornan has been cast as the new Mr.Grey. I don't know what is wrong with whoever chose this one, but I have yet to come across a picture, where this man looks even a little bit, like someone who could play Christian. In fact, he really reminds me of the actor from house, the exact opposite of Christian Grey in my mind. On the left is Hugh Laurie from House, on the right is Jamie Dorner, the new Christian Grey. Blah!

Enjoy the photos. ;)

I love this one!

Very true!

Yes, Sir!

Hmm, I kind of agree.

Being spanked with someone else.

Her reactions. His arm. Nice.

Um, Hot!

Interesting position. Scary paddle!

I think we've all done this a time or two!

Holding her hand in place.

Hope you liked them! Any favorites? :) Also, what do you guys think of the new Christian? I actually came across ONE photo where he looks like he could pull it off, so maybe they'll pull their movie magic? I'm not sure I even want to see the movie at this point!