30 Days of Submission & Submissive questions

Hi everyone!!

Ugh, it's been forever - what else is new right? I swear one of these days I will get back to semi regular blogging.

Anyway, hope everyone is having a lovely fall! I'm anxiously awaiting all the craziness that the upcoming holidays bring!

Colin and I are doing pretty good. We actually decided to do this 30 Day of Submission thing. Actually, he made it 31 days because he couldn't narrow the activities down to 30. It basically consists of two different things..

1.) 31 Days of a different submissive activity each day.

It started out amazingly. Really had me in the right mind set, had him super Dom-y and had us both just in really good places. About half way through, good old life decided to get in the way and gave us a few hurdles to get through. I mean one really can't hide clothespins under her shirt while in an office with other people crowded around. ;)

So, once we missed an assignment here, and he was lenient on an assignment there - I kind of got really down and just sort of blah. Don't get me wrong, we're still sort of on track, and I'm trying to not let the assignments that didn't happen, keep me from completing the assignments I still have, but I'm just in an off mood for some reason. Part of me doesn't even want anything to do with Ds or DD right now, and I'm really not sure why. It's probably hormones, because when don't they mess shit up? ;) But, we'll see - I'm going to stick it out and make it to the end of the 31 days. Colin has been great with trying to keep things running as smoothly as possible, while working 60-70 hour weeks and trying to balance my need for gentle dominance with my even stronger need for his stern dominance. I can be a handful and harder than a rubiks cube to figure out at times, so props to him for being able to figure me out most of the time. <3

And...

2.) There's this thing out there on blogs called 30 Days of Submission, or 30 Questions of Submissions. Basically just like the name says, it's 30 Days of questions having to do with submission. Every day at 3pm I have to send him the answer to that days questions. The first couple days I forgot, and the damn holed paddle and strap did a darn good job at making sure I remembered from there on out!! There are a couple of questions that really get me thinking, and some I might even make a post out of sometime.

Aside from that, my other new obsession is tumblr! I think it's so much fun and such a great tool to see what really interests your Dom/Hoh/tih/sub/etc. Colin has one too, so it's been fun to see what kind of stuff he reposts.

If anyone has tumblr, mine is http://spankingdominance.tumblr.com and
Colins is http://dominant-husband.tumblr.com

Feel free to follow there so I can follow back, or leave a comment or email with your tumblr link. Once in a while he has me post some original stuff, soooo if you don't want to see any of that, don't look there. ;)

Time to go catch up on blogs, yay!

Expectations in a DD relationship

What do you expect from your Hoh in your DD relationship? What do you think they expect from you?

Colin and I had a fairly long talk the other night, and those are the questions that came up. What are the expectations? What do I need? What does he need? Are our expectations realistic?

When I first started DD, I half expected it to be like a story fairytale you read in a DD book. Where my HOH will say everything right, do everything right, discipline me every time I need it, and pretty much be able to read my mind. Right away he will know what pushes my buttons, what my triggers are, what words or phrases really get to me, what implements to use - I could go on forever.

Over time, I realized it's not very much like what you read in this books, but it IS possible to make it your own fairytale. A fairytale full of paddles and wooden spoons, rather than princesses and tiaras of course. ;)

We've had some serious ups and downs since we started this, I'm not the most naturally submissive sub, and Colin has some big time consistency issues, but I need to remind myself of how lucky I am. When I brought this all up to Colin, he was pretty much vanilla. Sure, he had a kinky side to him, but the whole DD thing was a brand new concept to him. He's been SO incredibly open to it, so willing to embrace it, and so eager to work at it. What more could I ask for? I know we hit a bit of a rough patch, but we're moving forward and making this whole DD fairytale our own.

He asked me to write up something with what I need/expect from him as my Hoh/Dominant, and what I think he needs from me as his Tih/Sub, so I figured I'd write it down in this post.

What I need from Colin:

• Consistency/Confidence - sticking to any punishments that you see fit, and following through with rules/consequences. Being confident in your role.
• Structure - A clear list of rules for me to follow.
• Less leniency - making a punishment a punishment. Not being easy on me all the time.
• Dominance outside of discipline - Make every day decisions. Of course discuss it with me, and ask for my opinions and thoughts - but have the final word be yours.
• Gentle Dominance - Cuddling, taking care of me, little things like playing with my hair, aftercare.
• Alternative punishments - When spanking can't be done, or even sometimes just in place of a spanking; corner time, writing assignments, early bedtime, whatever you see as fair.

What I think Colin needs from me:

• Respect - Respect your decisions, and just respect you in general.
• Obeying - Not arguing when you decide on a punishment. Getting over your knee, rather than putting up a fight. 
• Letting you finish a spanking - If you accidentaly spank me too low, or too high, talk to you after the punishment, rather than getting all pissed and arguing during it.
• Trusting you - Trust that you'll take the lead, and you will take care of things as you see fit.
• Communication - If I feel like you let something go or if I broke a rule - talk to you about it. Don't keep it in inside.
• Be more comfortable - Know that you love my body, and even if I have insecurities, remember that you love me and like what you see.

I'm sure these lists will change overtime, and maybe things will be added or taken away, but that's what I have for now. Hopefully typing it out will help both of us get to where we want to be.

As for a different topic, are you guys excited for LOL day?! I can't wait, and Colin and I decided we might be doing a giveaway of some sort, so all you lurkers, get ready to de-lurk! ;)

Hope everyone had a happy halloween! What'd you all dress up as? I'd love to hear all about your costumes!

Reigniting the DD flame

How has it been over two months since my last entry in this blog?!

There have been so many times I've wanted to write an entry, but every time I went to do it, something came up. I finally decided I miss it so much, that I have to make time to get back into blogging.

Things have been pretty crazy since my last entry for both Colin and I. First thing to mention is we added a new addition to our family. Nooo, not a baby yet .. but a kitten! He's a little ball of energy, and can be such a little pain, but he is also so cuddly and sweet, and just so freakin' adorable! He was just jumping all over the keyboard, making it impossible to type, but now he's cuddled up next to me, sleeping, so I finally have the keyboard to myself!

Other thing keeping us busy is work. September through March or April is his busiest time for work, and I actually started working for the same company, so it's now busy for me as well. It's nice because it's not as much of a struggle money wise as it usually is for us, but at the same time, it makes DD/Ds pretty impossible.

To be completely honest, there has been very little, if any, DD type stuff going on with us. Unfortunately, it kind of faded into the background the last few months. It's weird, because part of me really misses it, but another part of me has been kind of relieved in a weird way.

There were times that DD/Ds felt like more work than it was supposed to be. I know it takes a lot of work to keep it going, and it's not always easy, but it just felt like .. too much. I think Colin might have felt the same way. I guess a bit of a break was a good thing for us.

That being said, I was wondering the other day if DD was .. done for us. We hadn't talked about it in a while, and I just didn't know where we stood with it.

I went on vacation with my family for a week, and Colin stayed home for work. Being away really really made me miss it. I no longer felt relieved, or wanted anymore of a break. I really wanted the DD/Ds aspect back in our relationship.

I sort of mentioned it to Colin while I was away, and when I came back he said we'd be having a long discussion about things. Part of me wanted to push the subject, and have the conversation then and just get things back on track, but I decided to leave it in his hands. He was aware of how I felt, and I wanted to see if he would follow through. I trusted him to take care of things.

So I've been patient, he's been insanely busy, but today he told me he made a list of things we need to talk about and we'd be having that conversation tonight, as long as he gets home at a decent hour.

I'm happy that he wants things back on track as well. I think life got in the way, and neither of us really pushed to keep things going - but in the end, I think it was a good thing. I think we'll get back to how we were, and end up being even better than ever in our DD/Ds relationship. We'll find what works for us, and make this lifestyle our own. :)

Has anyone else gone through anything like this before? Where DD or Ds just kind of faded away. No one did anything to mess it up, or to end it, but it just sort of stopped for a while? Were you able to start it back up again?

It's always been hard for me to just let go, and let him take the lead. Usually I end up trying to make things go my way. How I envision it going. This time, I'm letting go. I'm trusting him to be the HOH and to get us where we need to be. I'm anxious, and excited, to see what happens. :)

I'm also going to try my hardest to get back into regular blogging. I really miss reading everyones blogs and seeing how everyone is doing. Going to catch up on that right now!

I also saw that it's almost LoL day!!! Yay! I'm happy that I came back to blogland in time for that. I can't wait. :) All you lurkers out there, get ready with some questions or comments - I'll try to think of something to make it fun!

You're going to be my good girl.

Yay, I have time to blog again! AND I even had time to catch up on a bunch of blogs as well!

I've realized a couple of times now, that in blog land, it seems like when one of us is going through something, at least 5 others seem to be going through it as well. Whether it's a tough time, not feeling submissive, or our HOH's being.. super HOHy. I love how it's a place where so many people can relate to each other on so many different obstacles/issues.

Anyway - Colin and I are doing pretty good. He's going to the doctor on Tuesday to discuss surgery options and all that fun stuff, so we will have a plan and a scheduled surgery (or surgeries?) for him soon. Like I said in the last post, it has been very tough when it comes to spanking, or lack of, but he's certainly been making up for it with his HOHy-ness. 

We recently went on a vacation, and it was SO nice to get away and be able to relax a bit. There wasn't much relaxing because there was a huge music festival going on, so we were doing something almost every hour of every day, but it was SO much fun! I had been wanting to talk to him about finding ways to make DD/Ds stay alive while his shoulder was hurting, but I had been holding back because I really wanted HIM to bring it up.

Finally, I realized for the millionth time in our relationship - he is NOT a mind reader. I need to be able to communicate with him and let him know how I feel. So I came up with an idea, and I decided to talk to him about it. I asked him if we could do a maintenance type thing, minus the spanking.

Something where every night before bed, we'd have a little talk. He could tell me what I need to work on, what I've been doing good on, etc. He seemed to really like the idea, and all of a sudden he chimed in with a bunch of things to add to our nightly talk. 

"Sure we can do that. I think it'll be very helpful for both of us....BUT there will be times when you're over my knee for this discussion. When you're not over my knee, there will be eye contact during the discussion. No looking down, or looking away."

Oh boy. What did I get myself into? The whole eye contact thing drives me craaazy. Instantly makes me feel submissive, vulnerable, and extremely cared for all at the same time. There are also certain phrases/words he says, that kind of make me instantly melt. A few times he's said, "You're going to be my good girl, that I know you can be, right?" I swear I must blush every time he says that! Especially when he adds in at the end, "Or else you can expect there to be consequences." Yikes! 

So we started that night, which was last Saturday or Sunday, and we've had a nightly chat every night so far. He also asks for my feedback and always asks if there's anything I'd like to add to the conversation. It has been such a huge relief to have these talks, because it really has helped me stay submissive. I think it's been good for him as well - he seems to really like it every night. I love it for the most part - other than the times it turns into more of a lecture than a discussion! But in all honesty, I look forward to that time of the night - every night. :)

He's also mentioned wanting me to start doing submissive exercises more often. He's been doing some research and trying to find ideas that will work for us. 

The thing is,he's been working a minimum of 10 hour days, usually 12 or 14, and since he's not home until night time, he wants to find ideas that will work for when I'm by myself. That's where it get's tricky.

I'm going to do some research and see what I can come up with, and I thought I'd do a post on it next time I write. In the meantime, I was wondering if anyone has any suggestions? 

Anything you have tried or have heard of others trying for when the submissive isn't with the Dominant? Some kind of submissive exercise, or tasks/assignments? Would love to get some thoughts, and then add it to the post when I make one!

Oh and one more thing to add - because I'm superrrrrrrrr ecstatic about it..... In a little less than 2 weeks we'll be taking a road trip and spending the weekend with 5 other DD couples!!!! FIVE! That means 6 Tihs, and 6 HOHs! I can't even imagine what it's going to be like, but I'm counting down the days! 

Hope everyone has a great weekend! 

When Spanking Isn't an Option.

Hi everyone!

I know this is probably the hundredth time I've said this in the past few months - but yes, I've been MIA from blog land once again. I swear I always tell myself I'm going to start keeping up with it like I used to, but it's SO hard lately. Mainly because I have NO time, but also because I've had no clue what to write about.

Anyway, I'm back .. for now. I can't say updates will be all the time, but I really am hoping to get on here more often. I really miss reading everyones blogs - and after I write this entry, I'll be catching up to see how everyone is doing. :)

So as for Colin and I? Well, it's been rocky to say the least. We haven't been bad, or in a negative place, or anything like that. But I certainly can't say DD has been easy these past few months.

I've mentioned Colin's shoulder issues before, but it's been worse than ever lately. It bothers him pretty much 24/7 and it's been difficult to find out what's wrong with it, and how to treat it.

Good news is, he finally got a diagnosis. Well two actually. He has carpal tunnel in his wrist, and he has a an abnormally large bone spur in his shoulder.

Bad news? It requires two surgeries, and a good amount of recovery time - as well as wearing a sling for about a month. I'm so so so SO thrilled for him, because other doctors have told us there was nothing they could see on xrays, mris, etc - so he had no relief, no way of helping the pain or anything. Now, he finally knows it's not all in his head, there is an actual problem, and a way of fixing it! I'll be so happy for him once it's all done, and the pain isn't bothering him all the time.

It'll be hard though, because it's his dominant hand/arm that will be getting the surgery. His job requires heavy lifting most of the time so he may have to take some time off of work, it will be hard financially, he won't be able to drive for a little bit, oh and not to mention it's his spanking arm. :p


You would think I'd be celebrating that his spanking arm will be out of commission for about a month, but really I'm praying it doesn't send us/DD spiraling backwards a million steps. He's tried using his other arm a couple times, and it's okay - but it doesn't totally do the trick. Before he gets the surgery, there will be times his arm feels okay and he's able to do those quick, yet very hard type of spankings, so that's a plus (I think?) But those long, drawn out spankings that, yes I admit, I do need from time to time, aren't going to be happening for a while.

We know there are non spanking punishments out there as well, but for some reason there's a consistency issue with those type of punishments. Well, there hasn't been lately, that's for sure. Especially when it comes to lecturing and calling me out on not following the rules. But there are times when he doesn't pay as much as attention to things as I'd like/need.

It's not that he doesn't care enough or anything like that, but he works like crazy, he's always got a million things on his mind, and of course, sometimes it's just hard to be consistent. Life likes to get in the way.

I think we're both going to have to give and take a bit. He's going to have to try and be extra consistent with non spanking punishments, and I'm going to have to be extra submissive when he dishes out those punishments. I'm also going to have to be patient and just realize that just because things may be different for a month or so, it doesn't mean we will take steps backwards or lose DD completely.

I've mentioned in this blog previously, that before Colin - I had been spanked by a couple of other people. Colin actually suggested talking to those people and seeing if someone would be able to 'help out' if there's ever a time that nothing besides a good old fashioned spanking will do the trick. I wasn't sure if I was going to mention that here or not, because I know some people would think that was absolutely crazy, and I get that. But, what is this blog for, if not to be honest and open and just kind of get my thoughts into words on a screen. I go back and forth on that option, but if it was a person I trusted, purely platonic discipline, and Colin was all for it - especially if it'd make things a little easier, then I guess why not at least be open to it.

We'll see.

On the plus side, as a couple, we've been great. We've been playful and silly together a lot recently, and that really is my favorite thing about Colin - that we can be goofy together. Wrestling, laughing, just loving each other. I'm so thankful for him - bad shoulder or not. ;)

I do have to say, he has been pretty HOHy lately. I was out with a friend the other night and we were talking and talking and talking. I noticed a couple texts/calls from Colin, but didn't want to interrupt our conversation to respond. (Stupid, I know!) About an hour later, when I finally called him - he wasn't too happy. I got quite the lecture on how he was so nervous, wondering if I was okay. How I NEED to check in during times like that. He told me he understands that sometimes conversations can go on and on, but it's not too hard to send a quick text and let him know I'm okay so he doesn't continue to worry. I also got one of those quick, but pretty darn hard type spankings. I didn't think 24 swats accompanied by a lecture where I was made to keep eye contact, would be as effective as it was! Let's just say I'll make sure to text him back or answer his phone call right away next time!

Have any of you ever had to deal with the HOH having some sort of injury where spanking just wasn't an option? If so, any suggestions? They'd be very much appreciated by both of us. :)

So that's about it for now.. I'm sorry this post was kind of all over the place, and a bunch of rambling, but I think I just really needed to write. I have/had a lot of thoughts in my head, and I just needed a place to .. get it all out. :)

Hopefully the next post will be less rambling!

Miss hearing from everyone & hope everyone is doing well!

When a submissive, doesn't feel submissive.

It's been a little while since I made a post here, and I figured it was about time to update.

I feel like I don't have much to say, which is a big reason I haven't updated lately, but I guess I'll just write and see what happens. :)

Not much is new with us, nothing terribly exciting anyway. To be honest, ttwd is still kind of on the back burner.

Actually, scratch that. I wouldn't necessarily say it's on the back burner, more like in the background.

I know it's still there, I just wish I *felt* it a bit more. Does that make sense?

I don't think either of us are to blame at all, but for some reason it just seems really hard to get back on track. We've talked about it, we've come up with a few ideas, but it's still not the same as where it was, or where I'd like it to be.

If I had to pinpoint a reason or two for why I don't think things are running smoothly lately, I'd attribute it to two things.

1. Consistency is lacking a bit.
2. I'm just not feeling submissive.

With the whole consistency thing, it's hard to put into words what I mean by that. It's not that Colin isn't being consistent, because he is. For example, that damn list app thingy. He texted me this morning, telling me to check the list when I got up, and cross off the items on that list.

Drink water, go to the gym, and make his lunch for tomorrow. Nothing too difficult. I drank a good amount of water, will make his lunch before bed, but I didn't get to the gym. I just didn't have time today between work and not feeling well.

So anyway, he texted me a little earlier and asked how I made out on the list.

I told him I drank the water, would make his lunch before bed, but didn't get to the gym.

He replied with, "Good girl. Just remember gym is 3x a week."

So he's checking up on me, making sure I'm doing what I should, so yes when it comes to that sort of consistency, I couldn't ask for anything more from him.

I guess the consistency I feel is lacking, comes more from the little things.

He's been telling me a lot lately to stop rolling my eyes. I'm an eye roller, so this is not an easy habit to break! I do it a lot! Well he'll notice me rolling my eyes, but won't say anything.

I don't expect the man to flip me over his knee every time I roll my eyes, but if it's something he wants me working on, why isn't he noticing it?

It's little things like that that happen pretty often lately, which has me feeling kind of iffy when it comes to consistency. I'm not trying to whine, or complain, especially about petty little things like that, so please don't take it that way. I guess I'm just trying to sort out how I'm feeling in a sense.

So the second reason. Me not feeling submissive. I wish I had a damn button that I could push and all of a sudden I'd feel totally submissive. I just don't want to submit lately. When I get into a rut with things, I just kind of turn off and give up, and I think maybe that's what I'm doing here.

Rather than pushing at it, and trying to make it better - I just turn off. 

I'm not naturally submissive, so it's not easy for me. I want to be submissive though, so I need to find a way to make it work and not just give up on it.

I think I'm just going to try and stop over thinking it for a bit. I'm going to trust that things will go back to how they were, and that we WILL get back into the swing of things. I know I want to, and I know Colin wants to, so it's nice not having to question that anymore. I guess it just boils down to me letting go, and giving IN rather than giving up.

I'm going to try and be extra submissive this week. I'm going to make it a point to do little things around the house, or cook, or just listen without putting up a fight. Maybe if I force myself a bit this week, then it'll come more naturally in the weeks to come.

How about you guys? Do you ever get into that kind of rut where your submission is just nowhere to be found? Anything specific you do, or have done to get back into that frame of mind?

One Year DD Anniversary!

Wow, we made it a whole year! :) I have to say, it feels like we've been on this DD/Ds journey for more like five years at times, but I'm glad we are where we are today.

I honestly never thought I would have been able to bring up the idea of DD to Colin .. ever! I used to think about what it would be like if I told him, but never imagined actually being able to get the courage to tell him about it! I'm so glad I finally did. We've had some really low lows, and some very high highs, and I wouldn't change any of it for the world.

As much as the low points suck, I think they were all learning experiences, so in a way, I really am thankful for them.

I'm going to answer a few questions you guys asked in a previous post, and Colin will answer the questions that were for him as well. :) Thanks so much for asking, and hope you enjoy the answers! My answers will be in pink, and Colin's will be in blue. Original, I know. ;)

Joey asked: Will the two of you ever attend a spanking party, such as scony?

Yes! I really want to attend a spanking party with Colin. I think it'd be a very interesting experience, and I hope one day soon to work up the courage to do so!

Yes, we've been thinking about going for a while now.

Missy asked: What was the most surprising discovery you made about yourselves since you started TTWD?

Hm, I think I'd have to go with how I realized I really *AM* submissive. I used to always swear up and down I wasn't a submissive person, even when I craved a DD/Ds relationship. Over time, Colin has helped me realize it's a lot more natural for me to be submissive to him than I thought. I just needed to let go and let him lead. I'm still working on it, but I think I've done a decent job at it so far. 

How second nature being Dominant is for me. I thought it would take a lot longer to feel this natural.

Roz asked: What is the most important thing you have learnt about each other since TTWD?

The most important thing I learned about Colin since TTWD, is that he can be naturally Dominant. Not only can he be, but he is. I used to think since he was like a cuddly teddy bear, sweetheart type, that he couldn't be strict and Dominant like I needed. Boy was I wrong! It's like having the best of both worlds, and I love it.

I've learned that Kenzie can be really submissive when I need her to be. She's become so much more comfortable getting into that mind set and not second guessing herself, or second guessing me. 

JJ Stars asked: As you reflect on your progress and think about your end goal, what is one element of your relationship (spanking related or not) that you each would like to improve about yourselves personally, and one thing you would like the other to work on?

One thing I'd like to improve about myself, is doing more things for him just because. Cooking, cleaning up, sexual things.. just doing things for him. He does so much for me, and I want to do just as much for him. One thing I'd like him to work on, is sticking to things. Sometimes he'll make a rule and then forget it was even a rule.. I'd like him to be more focused on the little things with DD/Ds.

I'd like to work on my consistency, and realizing that there are so many other options besides spanking. Less waiting, and more taking care of things when they need to be taken care of. As for Kenzie, I'd like her to work on being more comfortable with her self. Realizing that she's beautiful in every aspect, and she needs to give herself more credit. 

EsMay asked: What is the biggest lesson you have each learned in your respective roles, and what changes did you make because of those lessons?

I learned that I can be a spoiled brat! I used to take advantage of how much Colin did for me. I wouldn't say thank you that often, and I just figured he knew that I appreciated it all, rather than telling/showing him that I appreciated it. I'm still working on the changes, but I'm trying to do more things for him. For example, I hate to cook .. but tonight I was so excited to cook for him and I have dinner in the crockpot right now. :) 

For me it would be learning how important consistency is. Rather than just saying xy and z, or I'll "handle it later," I learned that some things need to be taken care of rather than waiting all the time. The change I made was rather than putting it off, I found other ways of dealing with things besides spanking. If I was too tired, or my arm hurt and it couldn't be done, I somehow let her know it would still be dealt with and that it was important to me. 

These next set of questions are from Bonnie:

What's your favorite part of each others bodies, and why?

I loooove his arms. He's got nice, defined, muscly arms and I just love them. Why? Hm well I guess because I'm a spanko, lol.

Her ass. I wonder why. ;)

What's your favorite implement to spank or be spanked with?

I like his hand. It's intimate, and it doesn't hurt as much as some of the evil implements we own. But if we're talking actual, non hand implements, I'd have to go with a hairbrush. It just seems very traditional to me.

The big green monster. Thanks Honey&Lee! I also love our red paddle that Kenzie won through blogging.

How do you feel DD has benefited your relationship?

Oh in SO many ways! The biggest one being our arguments are so different than they were pre-dd. We used to go AT IT! We'd scream at each other, say horrible things to each other, a couple times there were even holes in the wall. Now that we're doing DD, that hasn't happened in such a long time. We communicate, we tell each other if we're upset with the other, and we know how to deal with things. We talk to each other so much better, we're more cuddly and lovey dovey. We smile and laugh more. We smiled, laughed, and cuddled, a lot pre-DD as well, but after starting DD I just feel more in love than I ever thought possible. And I was crazy head over heels in love before DD, so I never thought I could fall even more in love with someone. 

It has benefited our relationship so much, that I couldn't imagine not doing it. Kenzie wanted to go on a break for a little bit because of stress and it really made me realize how important it is to our relationship. It's helped how we deal with arguments, and how we communicate. 

The next set, still from Bonnie *thanks for all the questions, I love them!* are for Colin to answer only:

When did you first know you loved Kenzie?

We had been seeing each other for a while, but hadn't become official yet. I was kind of an asshole back then, and she finally told me that it was either all or nothing. We were laying in bed talking about it, and we both got teary. I think we just knew how much we cared about each other. I asked her to be official and that's when I knew I loved her. 

What did you think when she brought DD to you?

I thought it was something new to try, but also didn't really understand it. At first I thought it was purely sexual, but then I realized how much more there was to it.

What's the one thing Kenzie does, that drives you crazy?

She likes to pull my chest hair. Drives me NUTS! I could go on for hours, but you asked me for ONE thing. ;) 

I also got two questions from non bloggers, who emailed me and said they read my blog and would like to ask questions - thanks guys!

Do you have any tricks that you use in everyday vanilla life, to keep DD going?

Hm, I know I'm always trying to come up with things like this, but we do have a couple. For one, we just started using an app where he comes up with a to-do list and I have to check things off of it. I think that's helped a lot so far. Other than that, nothing really in particular. Just communicating about how things are going I guess. We've been wanting to do RA type spankings for a while, but haven't gotten around to them yet. I think once we do, those will help a lot as well.

I think the little things help a lot. Texts throughout the day, letting her know I'm proud of her, or that she's been doing a good job. If she hasn't been that good, all it takes is an "Mmmhmm," and she knows she's in trouble. 

What's a spanking/Ds fantasy you would like to live out?

Ooooh, I have a couple, but I'll just go with one for now. I think it'd be interesting to have someone else present for a spanking, maybe in a situation where I'm being spanked alongside someone else. Maybe we both got in trouble together and both will be punished for it, but rather than handling it in private, our HOHs decide to handle it right then and there. This is just a fantasy, I'm not sure how interesting it'd be if it actually happened! Lol

I'd love to tie her up and tease her for hours. I also think it would be hot to have another female spank her.

And there's the questions and answers! Thanks so much everyone, we really had a lot of fun with this. I thought I'd end the post by including a few stats I thought were pretty cool. I know I haven't been blogging for quite a year yet, but thought it'd be fun to include some anyway. Thanks to everyone who reads this blog, comments, offers advice, hugs, etc - I'm so happy Colin and I have found blog land, because it's made this TTWD journey so much easier, and we're so thankful! :)

All time pageviews: 115,693
Top three visited posts: Spanko Advent Calendar 2013 Boot Camp Kicked My Butt and If You Give a Dom a Reason
Top keywords people use to find my blog: Spanko, TTWD, Red Bottoms and TTWD, The ceiling, TTWD Blog, and the ceiling is dirty.

Umm, all of those make sense except for the ceiling ones? Poor people looking for celings and come across my spanking blog. Between those two keywords, a total of 81 people supposedly found my blog that way. Weeeird.

And two pictures to conclude the post .. because, well .. why not? There is just something about the belt, isn't there?

DD weekend & Punishment Positions?

Things have been pretty stressful lately between Colin's work schedule and a couple possibly scary health things going on with me, so it was so nice to have the weekend we just had and get our minds off of things for a little bit. We met up with two other DD couples the other day/night and had such a great time.

One of the couples we had met once before, and one of the couples we met for the first time. As much as I get embarrassed when Colin brings up spanking stuff in front of people, it can also be so nice to be around people and not have to worry about what you say. People who don't look at you like you're insane, when your husband puts a paddle on the table in the middle of the room, that he brought "just in case."  

No, the paddle did not have to be put to use. You guys should know by now, that I am a perfectly well behaved, very obedient, angel. 

Hey now! No making that face! I swear I'm an angel .. most of the time. ;)

It was a quick visit, wish it was longer, but it was lots of fun!

Now we're back to reality. I have a doctors appointment tomorrow, and I'm really hoping that I'll find out I've been worrying about nothing, so keep your fingers crossed please?

We've been slacking a bit on the Advent Calendar, but depending on what time Colin gets home from work tonight, we plan on catching up on a couple that we missed. I also have a little minor punishment coming up, for not listening to a few things. Not looking forward to that, but thankfully it's nothing major, so I'm hoping it won't be that bad. 

How about you guys, are you enjoying the Advent Calendar activities? I hope so! I'm curious as to how many were on the naughty list, and how many were on the nice list. Take one guess which list I was on. Nope, not the nice list. I say Colin was just grumpy that day and I should have been on the nice list! 

Hope everyone is having fun and not stressing out too much over the holidays. I can't believe Christmas is so soon, and I still have yet to start Christmas shopping. I'm a huge procrastinator when it comes to that, but I plan on getting a lot of it done online, so in order for the stuff to be delivered on time, I probably should get moving on that!

Even though we've been busy lately, It's nice to say that I can still tell DD is very much .. there.

I had a quick spanking the other night, and Colin told me to, "Get into position." I just looked at him with this blank look. Uhhh what? What position? How do I know which position you're talking about??

He came back with, "You're right. We need to number the positions. This way when I tell you I want you in position 4, you'll know what to do. Oh by the way, I will be quizzing you on the positions."

I was seriously shocked at that statement. Let me remind you, I never thought this man could be Dominant. I thought that if it wasn't something you were naturally interested in, you couldn't .. learn it. Well, I'm pretty sure it's always been there in him and I just never realized it, because it's been coming out a lot lately!

Crap. I just realized I don't remember the positions by the numbers.. oops. I do know it consists of 6 positions:

• Lying flat on the bed
• Hands on bed & feet on floor
• Kneeling
• On hands and knees
• Standing, hands on head
• UH-OH.

I can't remember the last position. He only brought this up a few days ago, so hopefully I'll just get a nice little VERBAL reminder. We also ordered a new paddle from leatherthorn. It looks really cute, but I've heard it can be quite the implement, so we'll see.

Other than that, I don't have much to report. Just wanted to check in, and say hi! :) I'll leave you with this picture I found while browsing the internet. Enjoy. ;)

New here - intro post.

Not really sure how to start this out, but basically we're a newly married couple in our mid 20's who are trying to introduce ttwd/dd/ds into our marriage.  I'm Kenzie, and he's Colin.  I've had an interest in spanking and this kind of stuff for as long as I can remember, and i'm the one who brought it up to him.

Thankfully, he's always been very open to it, and more than willing to try out pretty much everything.  It took me a while to tell him I was into this, because I thought it was pretty much insane.  We started doing some research on the topic, and finally i've been able to be pretty much 100 percent open with him about my interests with this kind of thing.  

I'm looking for a typical DD kind of relationship, with some D/s kind of stuff mixed in as well.  I want the whole rules, consequences, giving up control kind of thing.  It's been a pretty rocky start, but i'm hoping that starting this blog will give me a place to talk about things and find other people with similar interests, as well as a place for him to check out, and get some advice on things he's curious about.

I'd say our two big issues with jumping right into this, is his issue with consistency, and my issue with just letting go.  Those are two things we need to work on, so hopefully this is a good place to start.

I'll be the main one writing in this blog, but i'm sure he'll be checking it out to get some insight and just figure things out.

Look forward to talking to other people who share the same interests. :)