Hi everyone!! Ugh, I've really missed this blog! Things have been so busy lately and I really haven't had any time to get on here. To be honest, I also just didn't really have much inspiration, and I felt as if I was always writing about the ups and downs going on and blah blah blah. I kinda figured everyone was getting tired of reading the same old stuff, and just felt as if I didn't have much to say.
Well I still don't have anything to say that's completely different than what I used to write about, but I figured who cares. This blog used to help me SO much. It was a way to get my feelings out, a way for Colin to really know how I was feeling, and a way to keep connected with some people. SOO - I might not say the most interesting, or useful things.. but here I am. Back, and ready to start writing again. Writing AND reading.. I need to catch up with everyone and their blogs, and I'm so sorry for being so out of the loop!!
So, what's new with us. Well, we're still going through the struggles of DD. The ups, the downs, the highs, the lows, and all the damn twists and turns that seem to always be there. We've had a few of those break through moments, whether it be a spanking, or just a simple conversation, and I think we've both learned a lot about ourselves and each other. One thing I learned is that I came into this thing with all these crazy expectations. I had done research, watched videos, read books, etc, and had the perfect idea of what DD was supposed to be. What the perfect HOH was supposed to be. Basically how perfect this lifestyle was supposed to be. A few years into this, I feel like the best piece of advice I could give to someone new is to forget the expectations!
Yes, you need to know what interests you. What you like, what you don't like. What you want to explore, what your limits are, etc. BUT don't make up this perfect Dom/HOH in your head and expect your guy to just snap his fingers and turn into him. I'm so extremely lucky that Colin was so open to this lifestyle, and so open to learning all about it. I've come to realize that my perfect HOH isn't someone out of a book, or a video, but instead it's Colin. It's the man that is so willing to figure this out with me, and go through this crazy ride with me. He may not be perfect, I know I'm far from perfect, and we both have A LOT of things to work on, but I wouldn't want anyone else and he's perfect for me!
I'm not saying I don't still have my moments where I just want to give up on DD, and where I'm emotionally drained.. because there are still plenty of those. The difference is that I know eventually we will get there. We will find what works for us. We'll go through a whole lot more twists and turns, but we'll get through them. I've come to really appreciate the gentle Dominance that seems to come so naturally for him. Playing with my hair, holding me, comforting me, really just loving me. That's not to say I don't crave the other side of his Dominance as well - the strict, non lenient type of Dominance, but I know he has that side too. I just need to see it a little bit more. ;)
So basically, I just want to say thank you to Colin for being so willing, so open, and MY perfect hoh. I know I can be difficult and a pain in the butt at times, but just know that I appreciate you so much.
On another note - we got to meet up with some DD friends again for a few nights and I can't even put into words how amazing those get togethers are. The people we've met have turned into family, and I honestly couldn't ask for a better support system. We're able to share vanilla times, have crazy DD conversations, openly talk about spanking, and laugh practically the whole time we're together. I'm so lucky to have met such great people through such a crazy topic.
Sorry for the kinda sappy post, but It's just how I was feeling tonight. I think for the next post it's time for some Dr. Seuss spanking poetry - SOOO what poem would you like to see turned into a spanko version? If you guys have any suggestions, I'll use one of them for my next post!
Just some thoughts and poems of a 33 year old polyamorous submissive/spanko/maso & middle.
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Tuesday, July 21, 2015
Monday, January 27, 2014
The Dom With The Palm.
Sooo I'm kinda sorta supposed to be doing some chores right now, but I'm kinda sorta bored of the chores and wanted to write something fun.
Colin texted me this morning and told me to check our app to see what he added for today. I answered with, "Yes, Sir." He then said:
"Good girl. Let's start this week off right and you will be rewarded, but the minute you act up or not do something I tell you to do, you will be punished. Do you understand me?"
Geez. Mr. HOH is back! I checked the list and decided I'd get most of it done later on in the day. I went to the store, got stuff for dinner, because I'm now obsessed with our crockpot! I love having dinner ready for him when he gets home, it makes me so happy to do that for him. So anyway, I did that and then decided to watch a bit of tv. I got pretty into my show and ended up watching a few more episodes than I should have.
My phone went off and I saw a text from Colin.
"I don't see anything checked off the list. You don't want to disappoint me baby."
I quickly got up, checked the list, and was able to do a few things and cross them off. It was too late in the day to do two of them, and there are two others I haven't done yet. I just realllllyyy don't feel like vacuuming or doing laundry right now. I mean he never reallllyy told me I had to get them all done, so I'm hoping what I did do will suffice? Wishful thinking, I know. Having said that, I really should be vacuuming, but blogging just sounds like so much more fun right now!
Soooo - I haven't done any Dr. Seuss lately and I figured now is as good of a time as ever. So, rather than "The Cat in the Hat," here is:
The Dom With The Palm!
The sun did not shine,
I had no time to play,
I had chores to get done,
On this cold winters day.
The tv was calling,
I sat down for a few.
And I said, hmm hold on,
Didn't I have something to do?
Too tired for chores,
Should I be making a call?
I'll just sit on the couch,
and do nothing at all.
So all I did,
was sit sit sit sit.
Oh no, he will not like this.
Not one little bit.
And then
something went BUMP!
How that bump made me jump!
I looked!
Then I saw him, I couldn't respond!
I looked,
and I saw him.
The Dom with the palm.
Standing there staring,
looking a bit like king kong.
I know you were tired,
and not feeling well.
But your chores are not done?
No, I will not yell.
I know a few games we could play,
said the Dom.
I have a few tricks,
Said the Dom with the palm.
A lot of good tricks,
I will show them to you.
Your bottom will not mind
not at all if I do.
And poor little me,
did not know what to say.
I shouldn't have sat on the couch
all damn day.
So a voice said, no no!
Make that Dom go away!
Tell that Dom with the palm,
you do NOT want to play!
He should not be here.
He should not be about.
He should not be here
while your bottom is out!
Now, now - have no fear!
Have no fear, said the Dom.
My tricks aren't that bad,
Said the Dom with the palm.
Why, we can have
lots of fun if you wish.
fun with a game, that I call,
swish swish.
Oh no! Not swish swish!
I know that sound.
No way, not swish swish!
I don't want my pants down!
Have no fear said the Dom.
I will take them down fast!
panties down too,
no not at half mast!
With a brush in one hand,
you just stay calm,
We'll handle this now,
Shhh said the Dom.
Look at you.
Look at you now,
Said the Dom
your bottom all red,
from the sting of my palm.
I will go grab a belt,
you better obey,
now it's off to the corner,
red bottom on display.
Then he came to the corner,
Said, my what a view,
next time pick your chores,
or a cane of bamboo.
And in that moment,
I did not know what to say,
Should I tell him, yes Sir?
Be good and obey?
Next time do my chores?
What should I do?
Well what would YOU do,
if your Dom asked you?
This story ended up being wayyyy longer than I thought it was, so I left out some parts in the middle to make it a bit shorter.
My Dom with the TWITCHY palm is on his way home now, and I just told him that most of the chores were done, but not all of them.
After hearing a mini lecture from him, and receiving a text that says, "I don't want any hesitation. When I say get over my knee, DO IT,"I'm wondering if this poem will resemble real life at all when he gets home tonight .. eeek.
I sweetly replied to that text with a, "Yes Sir." This followed:
"I'll see you when I get home."
"I love you lots and lots and lots!"
"That's not going to help that bottom of yours."
Wish me luck!
Colin texted me this morning and told me to check our app to see what he added for today. I answered with, "Yes, Sir." He then said:
"Good girl. Let's start this week off right and you will be rewarded, but the minute you act up or not do something I tell you to do, you will be punished. Do you understand me?"
Geez. Mr. HOH is back! I checked the list and decided I'd get most of it done later on in the day. I went to the store, got stuff for dinner, because I'm now obsessed with our crockpot! I love having dinner ready for him when he gets home, it makes me so happy to do that for him. So anyway, I did that and then decided to watch a bit of tv. I got pretty into my show and ended up watching a few more episodes than I should have.
My phone went off and I saw a text from Colin.
"I don't see anything checked off the list. You don't want to disappoint me baby."
I quickly got up, checked the list, and was able to do a few things and cross them off. It was too late in the day to do two of them, and there are two others I haven't done yet. I just realllllyyy don't feel like vacuuming or doing laundry right now. I mean he never reallllyy told me I had to get them all done, so I'm hoping what I did do will suffice? Wishful thinking, I know. Having said that, I really should be vacuuming, but blogging just sounds like so much more fun right now!
Soooo - I haven't done any Dr. Seuss lately and I figured now is as good of a time as ever. So, rather than "The Cat in the Hat," here is:
The Dom With The Palm!
The sun did not shine,
I had no time to play,
I had chores to get done,
On this cold winters day.
The tv was calling,
I sat down for a few.
And I said, hmm hold on,
Didn't I have something to do?
Too tired for chores,
Should I be making a call?
I'll just sit on the couch,
and do nothing at all.
So all I did,
was sit sit sit sit.
Oh no, he will not like this.
Not one little bit.
And then
something went BUMP!
How that bump made me jump!
I looked!
Then I saw him, I couldn't respond!
I looked,
and I saw him.
The Dom with the palm.
Standing there staring,
looking a bit like king kong.
I know you were tired,
and not feeling well.
But your chores are not done?
No, I will not yell.
I know a few games we could play,
said the Dom.
I have a few tricks,
Said the Dom with the palm.
A lot of good tricks,
I will show them to you.
Your bottom will not mind
not at all if I do.
And poor little me,
did not know what to say.
I shouldn't have sat on the couch
all damn day.
So a voice said, no no!
Make that Dom go away!
Tell that Dom with the palm,
you do NOT want to play!
He should not be here.
He should not be about.
He should not be here
while your bottom is out!
Now, now - have no fear!
Have no fear, said the Dom.
My tricks aren't that bad,
Said the Dom with the palm.
Why, we can have
lots of fun if you wish.
fun with a game, that I call,
swish swish.
Oh no! Not swish swish!
I know that sound.
No way, not swish swish!
I don't want my pants down!
Have no fear said the Dom.
I will take them down fast!
panties down too,
no not at half mast!
With a brush in one hand,
you just stay calm,
We'll handle this now,
Shhh said the Dom.
Look at you.
Look at you now,
Said the Dom
your bottom all red,
from the sting of my palm.
I will go grab a belt,
you better obey,
now it's off to the corner,
red bottom on display.
Then he came to the corner,
Said, my what a view,
next time pick your chores,
or a cane of bamboo.
And in that moment,
I did not know what to say,
Should I tell him, yes Sir?
Be good and obey?
Next time do my chores?
What should I do?
Well what would YOU do,
if your Dom asked you?
This story ended up being wayyyy longer than I thought it was, so I left out some parts in the middle to make it a bit shorter.
My Dom with the TWITCHY palm is on his way home now, and I just told him that most of the chores were done, but not all of them.
After hearing a mini lecture from him, and receiving a text that says, "I don't want any hesitation. When I say get over my knee, DO IT,"I'm wondering if this poem will resemble real life at all when he gets home tonight .. eeek.
I sweetly replied to that text with a, "Yes Sir." This followed:
"I'll see you when I get home."
"I love you lots and lots and lots!"
"That's not going to help that bottom of yours."
Wish me luck!
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| You can say that again! |
Wednesday, September 25, 2013
There's no room in D/s or DD for insecurity!
Surprise Surprise, life has been INSANE once again, and I haven't had much time for blogging. I miss it! I'm sorry I haven't been keeping up with everyones blogs, but right after this post i'm going to spend some time catching up and commenting!
Anyway, Colin and I were talking the other day about some D/s things we want to try. To be honest, there's A LOT I want to explore/experience, as does he. I love when we talk about trying new things, and bring up new interests to each other, but then I get all bummed out, because in reality I know that my insecurities are going to get in the way of trying these new things.
I told him that, and he says over and over again how much he loves my body, and if he didn't, he wouldn't want to try all these things with me. I tried to explain it to him, and mentioned how it'd be easier to write about it, so he gave me a little assignment. Writing a post here, about how insecurities can get in the way of having fun. This is probably going to be one of the harder posts i'll write, but i'm really going to just try and be totally open.
I've had body image issues for as long as I can remember. I went through a few years in high school, when I was in awesome shape. Looking back at those pictures now, all I want is to get back to that point. BUT, during the time those pictures were taken, I didn't like myself at all. I was one of those girls who was wearing a size 4 or 6, and thought I was so fat. I went through some things after high school, and gained some weight, so of course now i'd love to fit into a size 4! Now, i'm by no means 300 pounds or anything like that, but I don't have the body I had then. Not being comfortable with yourself can get in the way in so many areas of life, and it's especially a pain in the ass when it comes to DD/Ds kinda stuff.
I'll be totally candid right now, and say that it really messes up having a good sex life too! I so badly want to please Colin in multiple ways, and I want to have a healthy, exciting, rough & crazy sex life, but sometimes i'm so down in the dumps about myself, that I really lose the drive for those kind of activities. To be completely honest, i'd say it gets in the way more times than not. To put it bluntly, that sucks!
I know some people who read this blog are strictly DD, and not into Ds stuff at all, so i'm trying not to over share, but it's hard to really talk about the issue, without getting into some details. So, if you don't want to here about crops, or spanking on other body parts besides the butt, skip the next paragraph or two. ;)
Ok, so getting down to it! We just ordered some new toys and they should be here pretty soon. Problem is, just because they'll be here soon, doesn't mean we'll use them anytime soon. Why? Well, we have good ole insecurity to blame for that one! We ordered one of those pretty extreme looking "massagers," that are really vibrators, and also a crop, Fifty Shades of Grey style! Thinking about it now, i'm so excited for Colin to use both of those things, but when it comes down to it, I don't think i'll be able to just let go and feel comfortable with myself. We both really want to try ... okay I seriously feel like a little kid right now, but it's so hard to say this.... bare with me .. ahh .. pussy spanking.
Okay, there I said it! That's why he got the crop. So in my mind, i'm trying to figure out how he can use it, while i'm fully clothed. Or at least semi. Can I keep a shirt on, and maybe some skimpy panties? Can I have on some short shorts? When in reality, I should be comfortable with getting naked and letting him do whatever the hell he wants! I mean, he's not a stranger, we've had sex, he's seen my body, we're freakin' married! He says he loves my body, he certainly wants his hands all over me 24/7, so why can't I just .. let go?! It's certainly a frustrating feeling.
Not only does it mess with the Ds aspect, but it also messes with the DD aspect in certain ways. I crave that feeling of being vulnerable. A bit of that humiliation aspect, being put in my place, and just being .. his. I feel like a good way of showing that, is nakedness. Whether it's corner time, kneeling, or just a spanking. It would certainly make me feel submissive. Yet, I just can't come to terms with that.
I'm really not sure of a solution at this point, but maybe this post will be the first step to figuring it out? I certainly hope so! I want to get to the point where he can tie me up, use the new "massage"/vibe, and leave it there for hours until i'm begging for him to stop. I want to get to the point where he can tell me to strip and kneel. I want to get to the point where i'll do these things, and won't feel insecure doing them! I want to feel comfortable with these pictures becoming reality. *Again, a little more Ds/Sexual than youre used to on this blog, so if you're uncomfortable with that, skip forward a bit.*
I really want to start getting back into the gym regimen. I'm doing some youth coaching right now, so that's a decent work out, but I want/need more. Colin has tried making a rule where I have to go to the gym 3x a week, but lately there has been so much going on, I literally haven't had the time.
I think from here on out, i'm going to start making the time. Maybe it'd be better to not have a 3x a week rule, but rather a rule where if I have time to sit on my butt at home on the computer, then I should be at the gym! Even if it's just 30 minutes to start with. Just something to start having me feel better about myself. I also need to start eating better. I need to find some good healthy recipes, for both Colin and myself, and making some nice healthy dinners!
It's so easy to say i'll do these things, now I just need to do them!
In the meantime, i'll be dreading/nervously waiting for the doorbell to ring with our new toys. Let's just hope it doesn't take a month to use them.
I know self confidence issues are a common thing, especially for women. I'm thinking maybe the fact that being submissive, opens up a whole new door of emotions/vulnerabilities, adds to it a bit? What do you guys think? Have you had/do you have these kind of issues that get in the way of D/s or DD? How did you work through it? I'd love some advice, I could certainly use it!
Oh, and I found this picture while searching for pics for this entry. Honestly, this is the best/most accurate picture i've ever found! I love it.
Anyway, Colin and I were talking the other day about some D/s things we want to try. To be honest, there's A LOT I want to explore/experience, as does he. I love when we talk about trying new things, and bring up new interests to each other, but then I get all bummed out, because in reality I know that my insecurities are going to get in the way of trying these new things.
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| I need to read this daily! |
I told him that, and he says over and over again how much he loves my body, and if he didn't, he wouldn't want to try all these things with me. I tried to explain it to him, and mentioned how it'd be easier to write about it, so he gave me a little assignment. Writing a post here, about how insecurities can get in the way of having fun. This is probably going to be one of the harder posts i'll write, but i'm really going to just try and be totally open.
I've had body image issues for as long as I can remember. I went through a few years in high school, when I was in awesome shape. Looking back at those pictures now, all I want is to get back to that point. BUT, during the time those pictures were taken, I didn't like myself at all. I was one of those girls who was wearing a size 4 or 6, and thought I was so fat. I went through some things after high school, and gained some weight, so of course now i'd love to fit into a size 4! Now, i'm by no means 300 pounds or anything like that, but I don't have the body I had then. Not being comfortable with yourself can get in the way in so many areas of life, and it's especially a pain in the ass when it comes to DD/Ds kinda stuff.
I'll be totally candid right now, and say that it really messes up having a good sex life too! I so badly want to please Colin in multiple ways, and I want to have a healthy, exciting, rough & crazy sex life, but sometimes i'm so down in the dumps about myself, that I really lose the drive for those kind of activities. To be completely honest, i'd say it gets in the way more times than not. To put it bluntly, that sucks!
I know some people who read this blog are strictly DD, and not into Ds stuff at all, so i'm trying not to over share, but it's hard to really talk about the issue, without getting into some details. So, if you don't want to here about crops, or spanking on other body parts besides the butt, skip the next paragraph or two. ;)
Ok, so getting down to it! We just ordered some new toys and they should be here pretty soon. Problem is, just because they'll be here soon, doesn't mean we'll use them anytime soon. Why? Well, we have good ole insecurity to blame for that one! We ordered one of those pretty extreme looking "massagers," that are really vibrators, and also a crop, Fifty Shades of Grey style! Thinking about it now, i'm so excited for Colin to use both of those things, but when it comes down to it, I don't think i'll be able to just let go and feel comfortable with myself. We both really want to try ... okay I seriously feel like a little kid right now, but it's so hard to say this.... bare with me .. ahh .. pussy spanking.
| Looks fun, doesn't it? |
Not only does it mess with the Ds aspect, but it also messes with the DD aspect in certain ways. I crave that feeling of being vulnerable. A bit of that humiliation aspect, being put in my place, and just being .. his. I feel like a good way of showing that, is nakedness. Whether it's corner time, kneeling, or just a spanking. It would certainly make me feel submissive. Yet, I just can't come to terms with that.
I'm really not sure of a solution at this point, but maybe this post will be the first step to figuring it out? I certainly hope so! I want to get to the point where he can tie me up, use the new "massage"/vibe, and leave it there for hours until i'm begging for him to stop. I want to get to the point where he can tell me to strip and kneel. I want to get to the point where i'll do these things, and won't feel insecure doing them! I want to feel comfortable with these pictures becoming reality. *Again, a little more Ds/Sexual than youre used to on this blog, so if you're uncomfortable with that, skip forward a bit.*
I really want to start getting back into the gym regimen. I'm doing some youth coaching right now, so that's a decent work out, but I want/need more. Colin has tried making a rule where I have to go to the gym 3x a week, but lately there has been so much going on, I literally haven't had the time.
I think from here on out, i'm going to start making the time. Maybe it'd be better to not have a 3x a week rule, but rather a rule where if I have time to sit on my butt at home on the computer, then I should be at the gym! Even if it's just 30 minutes to start with. Just something to start having me feel better about myself. I also need to start eating better. I need to find some good healthy recipes, for both Colin and myself, and making some nice healthy dinners!
It's so easy to say i'll do these things, now I just need to do them!
In the meantime, i'll be dreading/nervously waiting for the doorbell to ring with our new toys. Let's just hope it doesn't take a month to use them.
I know self confidence issues are a common thing, especially for women. I'm thinking maybe the fact that being submissive, opens up a whole new door of emotions/vulnerabilities, adds to it a bit? What do you guys think? Have you had/do you have these kind of issues that get in the way of D/s or DD? How did you work through it? I'd love some advice, I could certainly use it!
Oh, and I found this picture while searching for pics for this entry. Honestly, this is the best/most accurate picture i've ever found! I love it.
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| This is EXACTLY where I want to get with Colin, and our relationship. Exactly! |
Thursday, August 8, 2013
Domestic Discipline with a sprinkle of vanilla!
First off, thanks for the advice/comments on my last post. You guys really put things into perspective for me, and I think know whenever DD takes a backseat, i'll still realize it's there even though I might not see it in that moment. :)
At this current moment, DD is certainly NOT taking a backseat. Colin is Mr.HOH lately, and I have to say, i'm really liking it. Well, i'm liking all of it, except for the fact that it still hurts to sit this afternoon!
When it comes to rules, we pretty much follow the 4 D's, and I just so happened to break a few of those D's recently. Let me backtrack a second, and say that I do NOT normally text and drive. In fact, i've been known to yell at other drivers when I see them doing it, because it really bothers me. Now with that being said, I kind of slipped up.
That's a big NO with Colin. He does not take texting and driving lightly, and he really proved that last night. He kept lecturing, telling me how that definitely falls under the Dangerous category, and it also falls under the disobedience category, because it's one of our rules that I broke. I've also been pretty snappy lately, which he says falls under the disrespect category.
Geez, 3 D's broken. Thankfully, i've been very honest with him, so the dishonesty D is taking a backseat for this one. :)
I'd say last nights spanking, was the most severe yet. He warmed up with his hand for a while, which really hurt and he was nowhere near the end. He also used the wooden paddle, the lexan paddle, the mood paddle, the leather hand thing and finished it up with twenty VERY hard spanks with the strap.
Needless to say, I will NOT be texting and driving, EVER again. I'm sure eventually i'll be snappy again, but I don't think that'll happen for a while either. Here are a few pictures of the results, because Colin is mean like that. :p
I had the day off today, and felt like being productive, but needed a little push, because I was getting kind of frustrated with what I was trying to accomplish. I sent him a text and asked if he could help me with something.
This is the part of the post that gets a little more vanilla in nature, but it does still have a DD aspect to it. :)
"What do you need help with sweetie?" He can be so sweet, even though it was only hours after spanking me, and even managing to get some tears out of me!
Anyway, i've attended college, but still without a degree, because I can't decide what the heeeeck I want to do. Well, i'm 25, and I want a degree before i'm 30, so it's time to get a move on!
I told him I was frustrated and feeling overwhelmed with it, and I just needed his help. He told me to pick four jobs i'd like to go after, and do some research. He wanted me to write down how long it'd take to get the degree I needed for each job, the salary, and the pros and cons.
I still have a lot of work to do, and a lot of researching left, but at least now I have it narrowed down and I have a list of pros/cons written out for the four choices I made. I decided to narrow it down to Dental Hygienist, Social worker, Paralegal, and Diagnostic medical sonography. I'm still unsure, but at least now the pros/cons list is on paper, rather than just being in my head.
I'm hoping he continues to help me, and gives me another goal to complete by a certain time. I want to go back to school SOOO badly, but I get overwhelmed with all the choices so easily, that I really need the motivation and him to push me. I think he'll be able to do that for me. :)
So that's pretty much all I have to report for now. I mentioned the punishment panties in a previous post, and how he wanted to order a pair that said corner time, and a pair that said spank me. Well, he changed his mind and decided we just need one pair, and they're going to say, "Punishment Panties."
Seriously? I've created a monster! We'll probably be ordering them soon, but i'm totally fine with putting it off as long as possible!
We'll most likely have this Saturday (at least part of it) to ourselves, so Submissive Saturday might happen, but we'll see. I'm curious to hear what he'll decide to focus on if we do get a chance to do it.
Very random, but found this picture/quote and absolutely love it, so figured why not wrap up the post by sharing it. :) Enjoy!
At this current moment, DD is certainly NOT taking a backseat. Colin is Mr.HOH lately, and I have to say, i'm really liking it. Well, i'm liking all of it, except for the fact that it still hurts to sit this afternoon!
When it comes to rules, we pretty much follow the 4 D's, and I just so happened to break a few of those D's recently. Let me backtrack a second, and say that I do NOT normally text and drive. In fact, i've been known to yell at other drivers when I see them doing it, because it really bothers me. Now with that being said, I kind of slipped up.
That's a big NO with Colin. He does not take texting and driving lightly, and he really proved that last night. He kept lecturing, telling me how that definitely falls under the Dangerous category, and it also falls under the disobedience category, because it's one of our rules that I broke. I've also been pretty snappy lately, which he says falls under the disrespect category.
Geez, 3 D's broken. Thankfully, i've been very honest with him, so the dishonesty D is taking a backseat for this one. :)
I'd say last nights spanking, was the most severe yet. He warmed up with his hand for a while, which really hurt and he was nowhere near the end. He also used the wooden paddle, the lexan paddle, the mood paddle, the leather hand thing and finished it up with twenty VERY hard spanks with the strap.
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| Thankfully he didn't use the bathbrush or hairbrush, but all these other implements were used! |
Needless to say, I will NOT be texting and driving, EVER again. I'm sure eventually i'll be snappy again, but I don't think that'll happen for a while either. Here are a few pictures of the results, because Colin is mean like that. :p
I had the day off today, and felt like being productive, but needed a little push, because I was getting kind of frustrated with what I was trying to accomplish. I sent him a text and asked if he could help me with something.
This is the part of the post that gets a little more vanilla in nature, but it does still have a DD aspect to it. :)
"What do you need help with sweetie?" He can be so sweet, even though it was only hours after spanking me, and even managing to get some tears out of me!
Anyway, i've attended college, but still without a degree, because I can't decide what the heeeeck I want to do. Well, i'm 25, and I want a degree before i'm 30, so it's time to get a move on!
I told him I was frustrated and feeling overwhelmed with it, and I just needed his help. He told me to pick four jobs i'd like to go after, and do some research. He wanted me to write down how long it'd take to get the degree I needed for each job, the salary, and the pros and cons.
I still have a lot of work to do, and a lot of researching left, but at least now I have it narrowed down and I have a list of pros/cons written out for the four choices I made. I decided to narrow it down to Dental Hygienist, Social worker, Paralegal, and Diagnostic medical sonography. I'm still unsure, but at least now the pros/cons list is on paper, rather than just being in my head.
I'm hoping he continues to help me, and gives me another goal to complete by a certain time. I want to go back to school SOOO badly, but I get overwhelmed with all the choices so easily, that I really need the motivation and him to push me. I think he'll be able to do that for me. :)
So that's pretty much all I have to report for now. I mentioned the punishment panties in a previous post, and how he wanted to order a pair that said corner time, and a pair that said spank me. Well, he changed his mind and decided we just need one pair, and they're going to say, "Punishment Panties."
Seriously? I've created a monster! We'll probably be ordering them soon, but i'm totally fine with putting it off as long as possible!
We'll most likely have this Saturday (at least part of it) to ourselves, so Submissive Saturday might happen, but we'll see. I'm curious to hear what he'll decide to focus on if we do get a chance to do it.
Very random, but found this picture/quote and absolutely love it, so figured why not wrap up the post by sharing it. :) Enjoy!
Thursday, July 11, 2013
Just when I thought it was over..
So I wrote an entry in the beginning of the month, about how I was in trouble for checking some messages on my cell phone while I was driving. A lot of things came up, so the punishment was postponed a bit, but now it's finally over!
Sometimes I wonder how in the world I used to think he'd never be able to step up into that HoH role. He's been more HoHy than ever lately, and I have to say, I kinda love it.
Well, I love it, except when it has to do with a punishment.
He considered the checking messages while driving thing, just as bad as texting and driving, so it was a pretty serious spanking. He used the new paddle, a bathbrush, and the strap. OUCH! He was also doing lots of lecturing during the spanking, which made it very effective!
He totally made up for it after it was over though, because he went out and got me ice cream. Yup, he's the best.
I also had to write an essay on why texting and driving is so dangerous. He made sure to remind me that it had to include actual facts, so I had to do research as well.
I finally got the essay done last night, (it was late so he gave me a quick spanking last night because of that,) but at least I finally got it done! I was so thankful to get it over and done with, so I yelled to him in the other room that it was done. I expected to hear, "Good girl." Ohhh was I wrong.
What I really heard was, "Okay, come in here and read it to me now."
WHAT?! Did he really just say that? Did I hear him correctly?! My expression went from relieved it was over, to SHOCKED in about .2 seconds.
Thankfully he's a sweetheart and came into the bedroom so I could read it there, rather than standing in front of him in the living room reading it. I'm such a baby, I even had to cover my face with a pillow while reading it out loud. He told me next time it happens, i'll be reading it to him while kneeling.
Note to self: Do NOT let it happen again!
So finally, it's all done and over with. I think my favorite thing ever, is this new thing he does when a punishment is over.
He tells me to come over to him, and he gives me a big hug. I LOVE that, it seriously makes me the happiest person in the world. Even if my butt might be sore beyond belief at the moment. :)
So that's where we're at right now. Happy, content, and trying my best to behave!
Sometimes I wonder how in the world I used to think he'd never be able to step up into that HoH role. He's been more HoHy than ever lately, and I have to say, I kinda love it.
Well, I love it, except when it has to do with a punishment.
He considered the checking messages while driving thing, just as bad as texting and driving, so it was a pretty serious spanking. He used the new paddle, a bathbrush, and the strap. OUCH! He was also doing lots of lecturing during the spanking, which made it very effective!
He totally made up for it after it was over though, because he went out and got me ice cream. Yup, he's the best.
I also had to write an essay on why texting and driving is so dangerous. He made sure to remind me that it had to include actual facts, so I had to do research as well.
I finally got the essay done last night, (it was late so he gave me a quick spanking last night because of that,) but at least I finally got it done! I was so thankful to get it over and done with, so I yelled to him in the other room that it was done. I expected to hear, "Good girl." Ohhh was I wrong.
What I really heard was, "Okay, come in here and read it to me now."
WHAT?! Did he really just say that? Did I hear him correctly?! My expression went from relieved it was over, to SHOCKED in about .2 seconds.
Thankfully he's a sweetheart and came into the bedroom so I could read it there, rather than standing in front of him in the living room reading it. I'm such a baby, I even had to cover my face with a pillow while reading it out loud. He told me next time it happens, i'll be reading it to him while kneeling.
Note to self: Do NOT let it happen again!
So finally, it's all done and over with. I think my favorite thing ever, is this new thing he does when a punishment is over.
He tells me to come over to him, and he gives me a big hug. I LOVE that, it seriously makes me the happiest person in the world. Even if my butt might be sore beyond belief at the moment. :)
Tuesday, May 21, 2013
What is Dominance? *I'll let the pictures explain*
I've mentioned in a few posts, how Colin and I are always trying to find new ideas for him to assert his Dominance, and although we have come up with some ideas, I feel like there can always be something .. more.
It's hard because i've had the idea of DD/TTWD, etc, in my mind since I was pretty young, whereas Colin is pretty new to the whole idea. I have this picture in my mind of how I want him to be, things I want him to say, a picture of what I see as effective/Dominant. Part of me wants to tell him these things, because let's face it, no one is a mind reader, but at the same time, there's a big part of me that wants him to just .. know. There's a part of him that is getting very .. naturally dominant, yet there's another side to him as well. I absolutely LOVE that side, and I wouldn't change it for ANYTHING. Seriously, if a genie appeared right now, and told me that I could have him be the perfect dominant in my mind, but that other side of him would go away, I wouldn't even THINK about agreeing to that.
Colin is really a sweet, loving, gentle teddy bear. He would put anyone before himself, would give me the world, and just has this amazing gentle side to him. I love that. I love when he plays with my hair, or just rubs my back and holds me. Something i've realized, is that, THAT is naturally dominant in a way. Dominance isn't just about giving orders, or showing who is in charge. It's about protection, comfort, and care. He's got that part nailed down, so really, i'm incredibly lucky. Now if he could channel his inner Christian Grey a bit more, i'd be even luckier. :p
Basically, what i'm trying to say is, yes I talk about how he needs to assert his Dominance more, and he needs to work on lecturing and using corner time, things like that, BUT I also need to say how amazing he is at other things. That protective side of a Dominant. That caring, loving, feel 100 percent safe with him, side of a Dominant .. I couldn't ask for anything better when it comes to that.
With that being said, there IS still that other side. The "i'm in charge" side. So what do I envision THAT as? When it comes to words, I could type a NOVEL on that topic, so I thought i'd give you guys a little break from my words, and just use some pictures to explain what I see as .. Dominance. I also found some pictures to explain how I feel about Submission, but i'll save that for another post. :)
*I found all these pictures from tumblr, but they weren't off a certain page. I searched by "labels" such as Dominance, Submission, etc.. so I couldn't find a way to link the images back to the original poster. If you're the original poster of these images, please let me know, and i'd love to give you credit.*





It's hard because i've had the idea of DD/TTWD, etc, in my mind since I was pretty young, whereas Colin is pretty new to the whole idea. I have this picture in my mind of how I want him to be, things I want him to say, a picture of what I see as effective/Dominant. Part of me wants to tell him these things, because let's face it, no one is a mind reader, but at the same time, there's a big part of me that wants him to just .. know. There's a part of him that is getting very .. naturally dominant, yet there's another side to him as well. I absolutely LOVE that side, and I wouldn't change it for ANYTHING. Seriously, if a genie appeared right now, and told me that I could have him be the perfect dominant in my mind, but that other side of him would go away, I wouldn't even THINK about agreeing to that.
Colin is really a sweet, loving, gentle teddy bear. He would put anyone before himself, would give me the world, and just has this amazing gentle side to him. I love that. I love when he plays with my hair, or just rubs my back and holds me. Something i've realized, is that, THAT is naturally dominant in a way. Dominance isn't just about giving orders, or showing who is in charge. It's about protection, comfort, and care. He's got that part nailed down, so really, i'm incredibly lucky. Now if he could channel his inner Christian Grey a bit more, i'd be even luckier. :p
Basically, what i'm trying to say is, yes I talk about how he needs to assert his Dominance more, and he needs to work on lecturing and using corner time, things like that, BUT I also need to say how amazing he is at other things. That protective side of a Dominant. That caring, loving, feel 100 percent safe with him, side of a Dominant .. I couldn't ask for anything better when it comes to that.
With that being said, there IS still that other side. The "i'm in charge" side. So what do I envision THAT as? When it comes to words, I could type a NOVEL on that topic, so I thought i'd give you guys a little break from my words, and just use some pictures to explain what I see as .. Dominance. I also found some pictures to explain how I feel about Submission, but i'll save that for another post. :)
*I found all these pictures from tumblr, but they weren't off a certain page. I searched by "labels" such as Dominance, Submission, etc.. so I couldn't find a way to link the images back to the original poster. If you're the original poster of these images, please let me know, and i'd love to give you credit.*





Friday, March 22, 2013
Not questioning him anymore. Plus a little bit of Christian Grey.
*What I thought was going to be a quick little update, turned into a freakin novel, so if you'd rather just skim through, feel free.* :)
Had a long talk with Colin last night/today about ttwd and how to make it work. He came home last night and I immediately was waiting for him to bring up the things I hadn't done. In the wayyy beginning of this, i'd do little things to "test him" in a way, and I didn't want him to think me not doing a few things I was supposed to, was me testing him. I've learned that as much as I have a tendency to want to push a little bit here and there, to see if he'll stick to things, it's probably the worst way to go about it. I don't want to play head games, or purposely do something wrong - not the way I want this to go, i'd rather just be open and honest with him and also just trust him 100 percent. Trust that he doesn't think this is stupid, and trust that he will step up to the dom-plate when it's necessary.
So anyway, when he came home and was complaining about how tired he was, yet wanted to watch an hour long show before bed (yet never so much as mentioned the rules or how I did with them - let alone any kind of consequence) I started to get a little annoyed. In my head, that translated to:
"Ok.. well.. actions speak louder than words, and if he says there will be consequences, but doesn't SHOW any consequences, he must not really want this." I guess for me, it was just such a hard, emotional thing for me to bring up ttwd/dd/ds/spanking, that sometimes I automatically go into that "he thinks this is stupid mode." Last night was one of those nights. I ended up having a little bit of a melt down, and kind of lost it. Said some not so nice things, and went in the other room .. lightlyslamming shutting the door of course. I sat there for a bit, so annoyed at him for not sticking to the consequences, and then I get a text from him. *He's right next door, in the other room, but I had told him I needed space for a bit.* The text made me pretty much speechless, which is pretty rare for me.
Text from Colin: "Maybe you should go read your blog again." And then he copied the part where I wrote about how I just need to give in and not just automatically run away from the situation, slamming the door as I go.
For some reason, that meant a lot to me. I hadn't known he read the blog entry at that point, so it just showed me that he really does care, and he really does WANT this. So anyway, after a long exhausting night of being upset and talking it out, we got to a pretty good place. His whole thing was that he was so tired from working all day (the man works like a horse, and I respect the hell out of him for it) so he thought i'd need some 30 minute long spanking to prove he was going to step up. I explained how that's not the case, and honestly all I needed from him, was something as simple as:
"So the rules weren't exactly followed today were they? You're lucky, because i'm exhausted tonight, but that doesn't mean this will go unnoticed. We'll deal with any punishments this weekend."
Sure, I think some spankings/punishments should happen on the spot, if possible, BUT I totally understand that life gets in the way and it can't always happen like that. As long as I know he's not just all talk, i'll be fine. So i'm done questioning his dominance, i'm done questioning whether or not he thinks this is stupid, and i'm done questioning whether or not he'll stick to punishments. It's in his hands, he has my trust, I have faith in him, and that's that. I say I want him to step up to the plate with him being dominant, well now it's time for me to step up to the plate when it comes to being submissive. We both need to put effort into it, not just him.
Communication really is the key. He told me that we'll be dealing with some of the issues tonight, which will include spanking, but the poor guy is still working, so if he's exhausted when he gets home, I want to let him know that if it needs to wait, it's fine by me. I trust it will happen when he wants it to happen, and that's all I need. Now, if he let it go for good, that'd be a different story. I hate the way I talked to him last night, and the things I said to him, and honestly I do deserve a spanking for it - something he will not hear from me very often ;) - so as long as he handles it, rather than forgetting about it completely, then we'll be fine. I'm starting to really believe this whole DD thing can work with us. :)
Hope everyone has a good weekend!
And a video that I found today, which I thought was pretty funny .. hope you get a laugh out of it too!
*If you continue reading my blog, you'll come to realize that I have a huge crush on Matt Bomer/Christian Grey. The book itself, not my favorite when it came to the writing or the way D/s was portrayed, but Christian on the other hand, especially when I envision him as Matt Bomer - um, yum. So here's a little CG/MB eye candy!*
Had a long talk with Colin last night/today about ttwd and how to make it work. He came home last night and I immediately was waiting for him to bring up the things I hadn't done. In the wayyy beginning of this, i'd do little things to "test him" in a way, and I didn't want him to think me not doing a few things I was supposed to, was me testing him. I've learned that as much as I have a tendency to want to push a little bit here and there, to see if he'll stick to things, it's probably the worst way to go about it. I don't want to play head games, or purposely do something wrong - not the way I want this to go, i'd rather just be open and honest with him and also just trust him 100 percent. Trust that he doesn't think this is stupid, and trust that he will step up to the dom-plate when it's necessary.
So anyway, when he came home and was complaining about how tired he was, yet wanted to watch an hour long show before bed (yet never so much as mentioned the rules or how I did with them - let alone any kind of consequence) I started to get a little annoyed. In my head, that translated to:
"Ok.. well.. actions speak louder than words, and if he says there will be consequences, but doesn't SHOW any consequences, he must not really want this." I guess for me, it was just such a hard, emotional thing for me to bring up ttwd/dd/ds/spanking, that sometimes I automatically go into that "he thinks this is stupid mode." Last night was one of those nights. I ended up having a little bit of a melt down, and kind of lost it. Said some not so nice things, and went in the other room .. lightly
Text from Colin: "Maybe you should go read your blog again." And then he copied the part where I wrote about how I just need to give in and not just automatically run away from the situation, slamming the door as I go.
For some reason, that meant a lot to me. I hadn't known he read the blog entry at that point, so it just showed me that he really does care, and he really does WANT this. So anyway, after a long exhausting night of being upset and talking it out, we got to a pretty good place. His whole thing was that he was so tired from working all day (the man works like a horse, and I respect the hell out of him for it) so he thought i'd need some 30 minute long spanking to prove he was going to step up. I explained how that's not the case, and honestly all I needed from him, was something as simple as:
"So the rules weren't exactly followed today were they? You're lucky, because i'm exhausted tonight, but that doesn't mean this will go unnoticed. We'll deal with any punishments this weekend."
Sure, I think some spankings/punishments should happen on the spot, if possible, BUT I totally understand that life gets in the way and it can't always happen like that. As long as I know he's not just all talk, i'll be fine. So i'm done questioning his dominance, i'm done questioning whether or not he thinks this is stupid, and i'm done questioning whether or not he'll stick to punishments. It's in his hands, he has my trust, I have faith in him, and that's that. I say I want him to step up to the plate with him being dominant, well now it's time for me to step up to the plate when it comes to being submissive. We both need to put effort into it, not just him.
Communication really is the key. He told me that we'll be dealing with some of the issues tonight, which will include spanking, but the poor guy is still working, so if he's exhausted when he gets home, I want to let him know that if it needs to wait, it's fine by me. I trust it will happen when he wants it to happen, and that's all I need. Now, if he let it go for good, that'd be a different story. I hate the way I talked to him last night, and the things I said to him, and honestly I do deserve a spanking for it - something he will not hear from me very often ;) - so as long as he handles it, rather than forgetting about it completely, then we'll be fine. I'm starting to really believe this whole DD thing can work with us. :)
Hope everyone has a good weekend!
And a video that I found today, which I thought was pretty funny .. hope you get a laugh out of it too!
*If you continue reading my blog, you'll come to realize that I have a huge crush on Matt Bomer/Christian Grey. The book itself, not my favorite when it came to the writing or the way D/s was portrayed, but Christian on the other hand, especially when I envision him as Matt Bomer - um, yum. So here's a little CG/MB eye candy!*
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| Tell me this is not Mr.Grey... |
Wednesday, March 20, 2013
New here - intro post.
Not really sure how to start this out, but basically we're a newly married couple in our mid 20's who are trying to introduce ttwd/dd/ds into our marriage. I'm Kenzie, and he's Colin. I've had an interest in spanking and this kind of stuff for as long as I can remember, and i'm the one who brought it up to him.
Thankfully, he's always been very open to it, and more than willing to try out pretty much everything. It took me a while to tell him I was into this, because I thought it was pretty much insane. We started doing some research on the topic, and finally i've been able to be pretty much 100 percent open with him about my interests with this kind of thing.
I'm looking for a typical DD kind of relationship, with some D/s kind of stuff mixed in as well. I want the whole rules, consequences, giving up control kind of thing. It's been a pretty rocky start, but i'm hoping that starting this blog will give me a place to talk about things and find other people with similar interests, as well as a place for him to check out, and get some advice on things he's curious about.
I'd say our two big issues with jumping right into this, is his issue with consistency, and my issue with just letting go. Those are two things we need to work on, so hopefully this is a good place to start.
I'll be the main one writing in this blog, but i'm sure he'll be checking it out to get some insight and just figure things out.
Look forward to talking to other people who share the same interests. :)
Thankfully, he's always been very open to it, and more than willing to try out pretty much everything. It took me a while to tell him I was into this, because I thought it was pretty much insane. We started doing some research on the topic, and finally i've been able to be pretty much 100 percent open with him about my interests with this kind of thing.
I'm looking for a typical DD kind of relationship, with some D/s kind of stuff mixed in as well. I want the whole rules, consequences, giving up control kind of thing. It's been a pretty rocky start, but i'm hoping that starting this blog will give me a place to talk about things and find other people with similar interests, as well as a place for him to check out, and get some advice on things he's curious about.
I'd say our two big issues with jumping right into this, is his issue with consistency, and my issue with just letting go. Those are two things we need to work on, so hopefully this is a good place to start.
I'll be the main one writing in this blog, but i'm sure he'll be checking it out to get some insight and just figure things out.
Look forward to talking to other people who share the same interests. :)
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