I've realized a couple of times now, that in blog land, it seems like when one of us is going through something, at least 5 others seem to be going through it as well. Whether it's a tough time, not feeling submissive, or our HOH's being.. super HOHy. I love how it's a place where so many people can relate to each other on so many different obstacles/issues.
Anyway - Colin and I are doing pretty good. He's going to the doctor on Tuesday to discuss surgery options and all that fun stuff, so we will have a plan and a scheduled surgery (or surgeries?) for him soon. Like I said in the last post, it has been very tough when it comes to spanking, or lack of, but he's certainly been making up for it with his HOHy-ness.
We recently went on a vacation, and it was SO nice to get away and be able to relax a bit. There wasn't much relaxing because there was a huge music festival going on, so we were doing something almost every hour of every day, but it was SO much fun! I had been wanting to talk to him about finding ways to make DD/Ds stay alive while his shoulder was hurting, but I had been holding back because I really wanted HIM to bring it up.
Finally, I realized for the millionth time in our relationship - he is NOT a mind reader. I need to be able to communicate with him and let him know how I feel. So I came up with an idea, and I decided to talk to him about it. I asked him if we could do a maintenance type thing, minus the spanking.
Something where every night before bed, we'd have a little talk. He could tell me what I need to work on, what I've been doing good on, etc. He seemed to really like the idea, and all of a sudden he chimed in with a bunch of things to add to our nightly talk.
"Sure we can do that. I think it'll be very helpful for both of us....BUT there will be times when you're over my knee for this discussion. When you're not over my knee, there will be eye contact during the discussion. No looking down, or looking away."
Oh boy. What did I get myself into? The whole eye contact thing drives me craaazy. Instantly makes me feel submissive, vulnerable, and extremely cared for all at the same time. There are also certain phrases/words he says, that kind of make me instantly melt. A few times he's said, "You're going to be my good girl, that I know you can be, right?" I swear I must blush every time he says that! Especially when he adds in at the end, "Or else you can expect there to be consequences." Yikes!
So we started that night, which was last Saturday or Sunday, and we've had a nightly chat every night so far. He also asks for my feedback and always asks if there's anything I'd like to add to the conversation. It has been such a huge relief to have these talks, because it really has helped me stay submissive. I think it's been good for him as well - he seems to really like it every night. I love it for the most part - other than the times it turns into more of a lecture than a discussion! But in all honesty, I look forward to that time of the night - every night. :)
He's also mentioned wanting me to start doing submissive exercises more often. He's been doing some research and trying to find ideas that will work for us.
The thing is,he's been working a minimum of 10 hour days, usually 12 or 14, and since he's not home until night time, he wants to find ideas that will work for when I'm by myself. That's where it get's tricky.
I'm going to do some research and see what I can come up with, and I thought I'd do a post on it next time I write. In the meantime, I was wondering if anyone has any suggestions?
Anything you have tried or have heard of others trying for when the submissive isn't with the Dominant? Some kind of submissive exercise, or tasks/assignments? Would love to get some thoughts, and then add it to the post when I make one!
Oh and one more thing to add - because I'm superrrrrrrrr ecstatic about it..... In a little less than 2 weeks we'll be taking a road trip and spending the weekend with 5 other DD couples!!!! FIVE! That means 6 Tihs, and 6 HOHs! I can't even imagine what it's going to be like, but I'm counting down the days!
Hope everyone has a great weekend!
