Monday, April 22, 2013

Alternative punishment for road trips, vacation, or whenever it's needed.

First thing I want to say is that I love the fact that so many people commented on the last post with advice/suggestions, etc.  One of my favorite things about the blog is the fact that there are people who seem to genuinely understand and offer their advice , so thanks everyone, Colin and I both really do appreciate it!

The best thing about the blog is talking to new people, and making friends with the same kind of interests.  One thing that's awesome is that there's a blogger, Riley, who actually lives pretty close and we get to hang out from time to time.  It's SO nice being able to sit and talk about vanilla things, but then be able to mix in DD,TTWD type talk as well.  Obviously you can't do that with vanilla friends, so it's a breath of fresh air when you're able to have a real conversation and not have to hold back. :)

Colin stuck to maintenance this week, and I actually begged for it not to happen.  I was exhausted and was half asleep by the time we got home, but he wasn't listening to any excuses.  In the moment I just wanted him to let me sleep, but after it was over I was so thankful he really stuck to it.  Not to mention I slept through the night, for the most part, for the first time in ages.  So weird how something can hurt so much, yet make you sleep so well.

Anyway, maintenance went pretty well.  He said it was going to be a bit more than 'just' maintenance because I didn't get to the gym and really didn't drink any water. Plus my mouth/attitude had been getting me into some trouble during the week.  So he used his hand, wooden spoon, and strap.  That strap is evil, I despise it!  I was trying really hard not to reach back or kick up, and was hoping he'd notice and maybe lessen it a bit because of that, but when I pointed it out, all I heard was:

"You're doing really good with the legs, and really good with the hands, now we have to work on your mouth."

Oh geez, it's always something huh?  Seems my mouth is what gets me in trouble most of the time.

We've been looking into a lot of the alternative punishments people suggested, because of Colins' shoulders, and he needed some ideas for while we're on vacation, because we'll be with friends during a pretty long road trip, and also while we're away. We found a few ideas, as well as got lots of suggestions, so I thought i'd make a little post about it.  Of course this post already turned out to be semi long, so i'll make it as short and sweet as possible. :)  Thanks again for everyone for a lot of the suggestions!

1.) Capsaican cream:  This stuff is NOT fun.  I swear it feels like you got a spanking, without actually GETTING a spanking.  I've read that you have to be careful and not overdo it, and also make sure there are no allergies to any of the ingredients, but as long as there are no allergies and you don't use a whole lot of it, i'd say this is one very effective alternative, non spanking punishment.  Colin has already told me he'll be packing this for our road trip.  Oh joy.

Might be a "No Fuss Applicator," but I have a feeling there'd be some fussing going on.
2.) Butt plug:  We have yet to use this, although we do own one, and i've been told it will be joining us on our road trip, just in case.  I've read a little bit about them, and I feel like it'd be pretty damn effective, but i'm still a little bit hesitant on this one. It just seems .. different to me, so i'm pretty nervous for it.  I know (or at least I think) it's pretty commonly used by people practicing ttwd, ds, dd, whatever it may be, but it freaks me out!  So we'll see.

Ok, so obviously this isn't the same type of butt plug. :p
3.) Nipple clamps: This isn't one we've used very often, but Colin thought it'd be a good idea to bring on our trip.  Something that can be discrete, yet most likely effective.  This one is questionable to me, because i'm more .. traditional, for the most part.  I like the 'old school' type of things, spanking, corner, soap, lecturing, etc - and i'm not sure if I see nipple clamps as a punishment, or as sexual pleasure.  I mean they certainly hurt, but i'm not sure if it would be a deterrent or not.  It'll have to be an option to be explored.

Ouch!
4.) Cane:  So this obviously isn't one we'll be using during the actual road trip, but it's something that Colin said could possibly be used (if we find one before vacation) once we're actually at our hotel.  We've heard that it makes a lot less noise than most implements, so it's going to be an option.  Honestly I think the threat of it will quickly get me on my best behavior, so i'm hoping it won't have to be used.

Picture from RealSpankings website

I'm thinking since it's vacation, I should just get a free pass and none of these should be used.  I have a feeling Colin won't agree though, so i'll just have to be good.  How hard can it be, right?

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  1. Let us know how it goes Kenzie, we are all so different its interesting to here how other things affect others. Most importantly have great vacation.

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    1. Thanks so much! I will definitely be letting everyone know how it goes! :)

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  2. Aaah it's such a breath of fresh air being able to talk to you too!! :) I'm so happy you live nearby.

    Your quieter methods definitely seem like they'd be effective. I've had a couple of those and lemme tell ya. It's like nothing you've tried before. But I'm also with you...it's VACATION ;) On the other hand, it's really sweet he is so committed and wants to keep your dynamic alive even while you're away from home.

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    1. Yay for close by ttwd friends. :) I've realllyyy been trying with the whole "it's VACATION" excuse, but he's not buying it. After my last post, I think i'm ready to stop pushing it, and just behave for once. :p

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  3. What can I add - the last implement also don't need too much strentght to be effective, so Colin's arm would be greatfull for that :)

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    1. Thanks for the comment. :) We've heard the cane would be good for his shoulder .. probably not so good for my butt though. :)

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  4. Kenzie,

    Vacation for you should be very interesting! Be very careful with the Cap Cream. It is really nasty especially on tender parts of the body.

    Thank you for sharing all of the ideas.

    Hug,
    joey

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    1. I haaaate the cap cream. Possibly more than a spanking .. we'll definitely be sure to be careful with it though!

      Thanks Joey :)

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  5. Boooooo! It is vacation and they should leave the punishments at home! Unfortunately, they never do. Even more unfortunately, I get stressed in different situations and need the security of it, so Bossman knows he can't leave it off for vacation. Totally stinks when even we have to admit that we need it then. Good luck with it, and I hope he doesn't need to use any of it on your fun vacation!!

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    1. Hm having the security of it is actually a great way to look at it.. thanks for that, I never saw it that way before! You're right, it does stink admitting that, but I guess it's the truth, lol. Thank you! :)

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  6. Hope you guys have a great vacation! One word about cane-like implements...they tend to be quieter than some, but YOU may find being quiet to be very difficult because they also tend to pack more of a punch then some! Maybe give it a practice run at home first to see how you react:)

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    1. Thanks for the advice! His response to how I might not be quiet with it was,

      "That's up to you, you'll either be quiet, or they'll hear you."

      I know he wouldn't actually let that happen though, thankfully! :)

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  7. We use the cane, it is very quiet but I am not and it doesn't take much swinging from his shoulder. I do know that the nipple clamps, for me would be more of a pleasure. But I have read that you need to be careful when using them for they do cut off your blood circulation.

    Hope you have a great vacation!
    Kim

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    1. The nipple clamps are certainly a toss up for me, so we'll see. I'm glad the cane won't be so hard on his shoulder .. hopefully knowing that, will make it easier for me to take it if he decides to use it!

      Thanks :)

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  8. I think it is awesome you have a non-vanilla friend close by, a bit jealous about that! But glad to hear he made you do maintenance no matter what. I hate when I complain about not getting any, and then life happens, I am tired, and don't want it anymore. When he sticks to his plan, I feel so submissive and cared for.
    DH has been experimenting with butt plugs as a form of reminder, like last night, cane, I would be kind of interested in, but my nipples: I just shudder thinking about having something clamped to them. Must be because my first daughter almost bit them off when I nursed her....
    Have a great vacation!

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    1. The feeling submissive and cared for feeling is simply THE best. I love it, and it makes all the roller coaster-ness of this, totally worth it! :)

      Ohhhh OUUUUCH!! I can only imagine how much that hurt with your first daughter!

      Thanks Julia. :)

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  9. A vacation sounds so nice! Maybe Colin will accept a popular vote if we all come together and vote for a spank free vacation? If not I would def pick the plug over the cane. Its a constant reminder (I mean you really can't ignore it) and its quiet and discrete. Have fun you guys!
    <3 Lily

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    1. Lol, I thought so ... I tried asking him, even posted about it .. but I don't think he sees it my way. Pshh, they never do, do they? :)

      Thanks so much :)

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  10. Kenzie, try to lose the cream right as you put the suitcases into the car. It does not help my attitude at all, I think it makes it worse. Okay, so stink at being submissive sometimes. Lol
    The other ideas are good and some that we use. The thing about the cane is that it is supposedly quiet so it can be used on vacation.
    Hope you have a great trip and do not need any kind of punishment

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    1. Lol, trust me, I have certainly thought about "losing" it, but I have a feeling i'd pay dearly for that one!

      Thanks so much for the comment! :)

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  11. DD on vacation is not easy!
    Keep us posted.
    Bea

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    1. Will certainly keep everyone posted, thanks Bea. :)

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  12. Enjoy your vacation guys! The BP is a great idea and as I discussed with Colin the Cane is a gotta have for quiet and ease on the HOH's shoulder.

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    1. Thanks for the comment Russ, glad to see you stopped by. :)

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  13. We don't have a cane but we have what I call a stick. It is round and like a cane. It hurts like words that I can't say.

    He found it at a craft store for less than a dollar. So if it goes missing, it is easy to replace. I don't think it hurts as bad as a real one from what people say but it frightens me. I hate the thing and its quiet. Wonderful for him, terrible for me.

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    1. Ohhh yikes, sounds like it's pretty similar to the cane .. nice to be able to find it at a craft store for a cheap price as well!!

      Thanks for coming by. :)

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  14. Hope you have a wonderful time, and how fab that Colin is taking such great attention to keeping up with the maintenance!
    But ohh, the cane: it is indeed, so very quiet- a mere swish of a sound.
    but wait, 1...2...3 seconds and yeaaargghhh, the sting finally hits!

    ...YOU, on the other hand, may find you are NOT so quiet! :O

    Have fun! ;)
    x

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    1. Lol, Yea I have a feeling the cane will be A LOT quieter than myself!! I'll have to be sure to have a pillow right by my face just in case, to scream into huh?

      Thanks for the comment :)

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  15. Every experience I've heard about capsaicin cream sounds awful to me. Good luck! I'd rather be caned. Lol.

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