Happy LOL Day!!!! :)

Yay, I was so worried I had missed LOL Day. So happy to still be able to make a post for it.

In case you don't know what LOL day is, it's a day about our lurkers! The ones who hide behind the shadows and read, but don't know if they should speak up or not. The ones who might have gone to make a comment before, but decided not to post it. Anyone with questions, or who just wants to de-lurk and start being "active" in this amazing community. Come out from the shadows, and leave me a comment. Tell me a little bit about you. Ask me any questions you have for me. Any questions you have for Colin. Or just simply say hi!

I'd love to hear from you. :) Maybe make today the day to start your own blog if you're ready. I'd love to read about your journey.

Of course, I always have to add a little incentive - and since I didn't ever get to do what was supposed to be done last lol day, this time I PROMISE it will get done.. in a timely manner!! Colin promises too. :)

So for every comment that is posted by a non lurker, I'll get 1 spank.

Every comment posted by an actual lurker, will get me 2 spanks.

You guys can even vote on the implement!! Here are some options:

1.) His hand.
2.) Wooden spoon.
3.) Leather strap.
4.) Wooden paddle with holes
5.) Wooden paddle without holes.
6.) Hairbrush.
7.) Colins choice.
8.) Kenzies choice. <-- My personal favorite option. :)

So don't be shy, let me hear from you today!! :)

Also stop on over at Hermiones Blog to see a great list of other bloggers to check out!

Shut-up and Just Spank Me!

Hi!! So I was in the mood to write some more Dr.Seuss spanko version-y stuff, but nothing was giving me too much inspiration. I started listening to music, and all of a sudden a song came on, and a light bulb went off!

I'm sure you've heard of the song, Shut up and Dance? If not, it's been pretty popular this summer on the radio and its a pretty catchy song. The song is great left the way it is, but I felt the need to change it around a bit. If you're wondering what my version is about, well .. see Matt Bomer below.

Little disclaimer before I start *I would never tell Colin to shut up and spank me. First of all, If I said shut-up (especially if I was already in trouble) I probably wouldn't sit too comfortably. Second of all, I'm just sweet and would never say anything like that. ;)


I'll include the video so you can listen to it while reading the spanko version!

Oh don't you dare look down, you keep your eyes on me!
He said no holding back, I said shut-up and just spank me.
Young lady, you'll behave, you'll see.
I said blah blah, shut-up and just spank me.

I was a victim of his might,
He had some sort of Dominant kryptonite.
Helpless to the brush, don't put up a fight.
Oh, just hold it together,
It'll feel just like a feather.

He grabbed the brush,
I don't know how this happened.
He raised it up and he said

Oh don't you dare look down, you keep your eyes on me!
He said no holding back, I said shut-up and just spank me.
Young lady, you'll behave, you'll see.
I said, blah blah, shut-up and just spank me.

A pair of jeans and some red panties,
about to go over both of his knees.
I felt it in my butt as he paddled me.
Oh just hold it together,
not feelin' like a feather.

He grabbed my arm,
I don't know how it happened.
He held it down and he said

Oh don't you dare look down, you keep your eyes on me.
He said no reaching back, I said shut-up and just spank me!
Young lady, you'll behave, you'll see.
I said, blah blah, shut-up and just spank me.

Oh, come on girl!

The strap is next,
No, I don't want that future.
I realized, this was my last chance.

He raised the brush,
I don't know how this happened.
He smacked it down and he said

Oh don't you dare look down, you keep your eyes on me.
He said, a few more whacks. I said no more, Sir I'm sorrryy!
Oh please, I will behave you'll see.
I said, owww owww, now please stop spanking me!



Hope you enjoyed it. :)

My perfect HOH isn't from a book or a movie

Hi everyone!! Ugh, I've really missed this blog! Things have been so busy lately and I really haven't had any time to get on here. To be honest, I also just didn't really have much inspiration, and I felt as if I was always writing about the ups and downs going on and blah blah blah. I kinda figured everyone was getting tired of reading the same old stuff, and just felt as if I didn't have much to say.

Well I still don't have anything to say that's completely different than what I used to write about, but I figured who cares. This blog used to help me SO much. It was a way to get my feelings out, a way for Colin to really know how I was feeling, and a way to keep connected with some people. SOO - I might not say the most interesting, or useful things.. but here I am. Back, and ready to start writing again. Writing AND reading.. I need to catch up with everyone and their blogs, and I'm so sorry for being so out of the loop!!

So, what's new with us. Well, we're still going through the struggles of DD. The ups, the downs, the highs, the lows, and all the damn twists and turns that seem to always be there. We've had a few of those break through moments, whether it be a spanking, or just a simple conversation, and I think we've both learned a lot about ourselves and each other. One thing I learned is that I came into this thing with all these crazy expectations. I had done research, watched videos, read books, etc, and had the perfect idea of what DD was supposed to be. What the perfect HOH was supposed to be. Basically how perfect this lifestyle was supposed to be. A few years into this, I feel like the best piece of advice I could give to someone new is to forget the expectations!

Yes, you need to know what interests you. What you like, what you don't like. What you want to explore, what your limits are, etc. BUT don't make up this perfect Dom/HOH in your head and expect your guy to just snap his fingers and turn into him. I'm so extremely lucky that Colin was so open to this lifestyle, and so open to learning all about it. I've come to realize that my perfect HOH isn't someone out of a book, or a video, but instead it's Colin. It's the man that is so willing to figure this out with me, and go through this crazy ride with me. He may not be perfect, I know I'm far from perfect, and we both have A LOT of things to work on, but I wouldn't want anyone else and he's perfect for me!

I'm not saying I don't still have my moments where I just want to give up on DD, and where I'm emotionally drained.. because there are still plenty of those. The difference is that I know eventually we will get there. We will find what works for us. We'll go through a whole lot more twists and turns, but we'll get through them. I've come to really appreciate the gentle Dominance that seems to come so naturally for him. Playing with my hair, holding me, comforting me, really just loving me. That's not to say I don't crave the other side of his Dominance as well - the strict, non lenient type of Dominance, but I know he has that side too. I just need to see it a little bit more. ;)

So basically, I just want to say thank you to Colin for being so willing, so open, and MY perfect hoh. I know I can be difficult and a pain in the butt at times, but just know that I appreciate you so much.

On another note - we got to meet up with some DD friends again for a few nights and I can't even put into words how amazing those get togethers are. The people we've met have turned into family, and I honestly couldn't ask for a better support system. We're able to share vanilla times, have crazy DD conversations, openly talk about spanking, and laugh practically the whole time we're together. I'm so lucky to have met such great people through such a crazy topic.

Sorry for the kinda sappy post, but It's just how I was feeling tonight. I think for the next post it's time for some Dr. Seuss spanking poetry - SOOO what poem would you like to see turned into a spanko version? If you guys have any suggestions, I'll use one of them for my next post!

You had questions, I have answers! :)

Ok.. so I didn't exactly reach my goal and get back to blogging by Friday, buuuut it is Monday, so I'm glad I was able to get back here today. :)

I started a 30 day diet this past Wednesday, and I'm so excited! It was tough at first, still is tough from time to time, but the results make it SO worth it! 9 lbs so far! Yay! Basically two meals are shakes (which taste like cake by the way) and then you have a 600 calorie dinner with healthy foods. You have to drink a ton of water, and there are some little snack things a couple times throughout the day to make it easier.

I'm also going to start getting to the gym this week, so hopefully the results will end up even better!

The best part is that Colin is going to do it with me!!! It will make it so much easier for both of us to be doing it together. Plus we have some little incentives for each other to make it more fun.

Other than that, DD is going okay. We still have the ups and downs, but it's better than it was before. He's been great so far helping me stick to the diet, now I just need to see a little more sterness/less leniency. ;)

Aside from that, not much else is new. Thought I'd take the time to answer some questions I got on the last post. Rather than answering individual comments, I'll just answer them here.

DelFonte asked:

Where we are with DD/TTWD and if we're planning any exciting holidays.

I somewhat answered the DD question above, but we're doing pretty good. We have some work to do, and life is certainly still getting in the way, but I'd say we're in a good spot right now. As for holidays, nothing too soon unfortunately, but hopefully a fun get together in the summer with some DD friends! I need a vacation asap.. somewhere warm!!

Blondie asked:

Do we see a time (or age) when the DD is not necessary, and/or the spankings end?

I say... no way, lol. We'll be one hundred years old and he'll still be carrying a wooden spoon in his back pocket. ;) I think (and hope) it will always be a part of our marriage. We're fine without it, but I just think we're so much better with it.

Colin said: I haven't thought about it much. I can't see the spankings ever ending, and I always think DD will be there. There may be ups and downs, or it might slow down, but I don't see it ever going away permanently. More challenges will come up as we get older, kids, etc, but it'll still be there.

Julia asked:

What I thought of the 50 Shades movie.

Honestly, I was pleasantly surprised and can say I enjoyed it. There were parts that pissed me off, and the main actress annoyed the crap out of me for the most part, but the actor who played Christian was wayyy hotter than I thought he was before the movie. It was fun to go see something different, that somewhat shows (even though it's in a skewed messed up way) spanking, and a D/s kind of thing. It annoys me that they pretty much say Christian is the way he is because of a messed up childhood, but all in all.. it was good entertainment and I'm excited for the second one!

Leigh asked:

When is life going to get back to normal so I can visit more often?

Lol, hopefully SOON! ASAP! Work is slowing down, but other things are picking up, so it'll be a tough balance, but I think I'll have more time to come visit than I have lately! :)

SheandHim asked:

What is one place I'd love to shop if money wasn't an object? And, what is my favorite kind of implement for play?

The shopping question is not fair.. I can't pick one place!! Lol, Colin will tell you I'm a ridiculous shopper. I especially love makeup and clothes, so if money wasn't an object I'd so crazy at either Sephora or Urban outfitters!

As for the implement.. I love the belt. There's just something really sexy about it!

Roz asked:

What direction would I like to see my dynamic take, and who is someone I admire and why?

I'd love for ttwd to be present more often. When it comes to little things such as deciding where we eat, or what movie we're going to see. I guess I'd really like for him to have more of a say in every day things. I guess just more Dominance from him, and more submission from me to sum it up. :)

As for who I admire? My parents. I'm so lucky to have such amazing, supportive, loving parents. Honestly, I can't even put into words what they mean to me. Also, Colin. He works so hard, is so supportive, loyal, caring, and just an amazing man who I have so much respect for.

Thanks everyone for the questions! There's still a little bit time left in March, so if anyone has any other questions for either of us, feel free to ask. :)

Reconnection Spankings & A Fresh Start

Ahhh I've seriously missed this blog! Work and life has just been crazy and unfortunately I haven't had any time to keep up with it. :(

Besides writing in my own blog, I really miss reading how everyone else is doing! I can't wait to catch up over the next couple of days.

Colin and I hit a bit of a rough patch with DD over the past 6 months or so, and I honestly didn't know how (or if at all) we were going to be able to get back into things. Our relationship was still great, but we both knew it was lacking something.

I sort of just accepted the fact that with work going the way it was, and Colin working around 60-80 hours a week it had to take a bit of a back seat. I trusted that eventually we would get back to where we needed to be, but as more time passed, I started to lose hope a little bit. I knew Colin wanted DD, and it wasn't lacking because of interest... but there was just nothing we could really do about it.

Soooo, we sort of let it go for a bit, but then finally decided to sit and talk about it and figure out how to get back on track. He expressed his concerns, I expressed mine, and it really helped us start fresh.

His main thing was that he was over thinking everythingggg. Would the spanking be enough if he got home at 10pm and it was only a 5 minute long thing? Would he live up to the Hoh I needed him to be? Would he be able to be consistent enough? Would I be understanding if things still got in the way from time to time?

For me, it was more about.. will I be able to be submissive after so long? Will I be able to let him take the lead? Will I trust him to take our relationship where it needed to be? Would I be able to be understanding if things did still get in the way, and not get annoyed when it happened?

Basically there were a lot of questions going through our minds that made it difficult to step back into our roles. Once we talked about those things, and were able to be completely open and honest with each other, we were able to figure it out together.

Another thing that helped immensely was that we were lucky enough to have a weekend get together with some old DD friends, while meeting some new ones as well! I honestly can not put into words, how thankful I am to have these people in our lives. They are all SO understanding, helpful, sweet, and most of all genuine. I loveeee when we're all able to get together, and can't wait until the next time! :)

Something that helped us a lot, was that during that weekend, we all discussed some DD questions and were able to listen to different responses, different thoughts, and different perspectives. Honestly, that moment was probably the biggest eye opener for both of us when it comes to our DD relationship. 

Once we got home, Colin decided we needed some role affirmation/maintenance. Starting last night, we'll be having 3 nights worth of spankings. Last night was a great start..other than the fact that I forgot how much that damn paddle hurts!!! I feel like such a weight has been lifted from my shoulders, and I feel closer to Colin than ever. I don't want to jinx it, and I know real life can and WILL get in the way - but I think we'll be able to handle it a lot better from here on out.

He's also mentioned wanting to come up with some assignments/daily activities to keep me feeling submissive. Has anyone else done anything like that? What are some things your hoh has had you do, that helped you feel submissive day to day?

It is seriously a resolution of mine to make more time for this blog, so hopefully I'll be writing again soon. Can't wait to catch up on everyone else's blogs and see how everyone has been. Everyone having a good 2015? Hope it hasn't looked like this picture yet. ;)

You! Yes you .. come out from hiding! LOL Day 9

Yay! It's once again time for LOL day. This year is the 9th year blogland has had LOL day, and I'm so excited to be part of it for my 2nd year!

A big thanks to Bonnie and Hermione for this fun tradition!

So, what is LOL day? It's a chance for all you lurkers to come out from the shadows! I'm so thankful to have people who read my blog, comment, email me, etc - but I know from blog stats that the biggest percentage of readers are silent.

I was a lurker before I started blogging, so I know how it is! Maybe you don't think you have anything to say? Maybe you don't think you're experienced enough? Maybe you don't know what to say? None of that matters! It especially doesn't matter today.

Today (and tomorrow as well!) is a day for YOU! Start typing in that comment box! Ask me a question, tell me something about yourself, or just say hi! This is such a friendly community and an awesome place to talk with like minded people. I've been lucky enough to meet some great friends here, both online and even in real life! Sooo now is not the time to be shy! It's your time to speak up.

You can comment as anonymous, you can make up an email account and use that, or if you'd rather it be in private, you could shoot me an email at ddcouple26@gmail.com

I'd honestly love to hear from you guys so I thought I'd write up a couple questions just in case you're not too sure what to say! Pick one, pick a couple, pick all of them if you'd like. :)

1.) Are you in a DD relationship?
2.) What's your favorite tv show?
3.) If you could pick one implement to throw into a camp fire, which one would it be?
4.) Do you have a favorite joke? If so, share it.

Of course I love my non lurkers too, so I hope you'll comment and answer some questions as well!

Last year, Colin decided to add a little incentive to LOL day, and we decided we're going to do it again this year.

We have this thing called, "the naughty jar" which is a bunch of rolled up papers in a jar with different spanking assignments. Each piece of paper has a certain amount of spanks, a specified implement, and a certain position. There are even a couple "get out of spanking free" cards in there!

Depending on the number of comments, Colin will pick a certain number of papers from the jar, and carry out the spanking on me! 25 or less comments will be pants/panties UP, and more than 25 comments will mean panties down.. yikes!

1-10 comments = One paper
11-20 comments = Two papers
21-30 comments = Three papers.. etc, etc.

I know it can be scary to stop lurking and start joining in, but I promise you it's worth it...

Hopefully I'll hear from some of you today and tomorrow! :)

Sometimes a Girl Just Needs to be Spanked!

I want to start off by saying thank you for the comments on the last post, and the words of encouragement. :) I really appreciate it!

That's one of the things I love about blogging. Other people get what you're writing about, they get how you're feeling, and they encourage you to keep on going. It's a nice place to be able to vent. (A little foreshadowing there.. beware of the venting.)

Anywayyy.. I have to say the DD flame is not exactly burning strong right now, but we're working on it. Colin has let some things slide, and I haven't exactly been too submissive lately, but it's getting a little bit better.

We're both SO busy that when I get home from practice at 8pm, or he gets home from work between 8 and 9, we just want to relax, eat dinner, watch tv, and play with the kitty! *The actual animal kitty guys - geeez get your minds out of the gutter. ;)*

We did have our talk after I wrote my last post. He came home with the list he wrote of things he wanted to talk about, and he seemed very serious and stern about all of it. It seemed like it would be a good start to things, and it was .. but it hasn't really gone much further than that.

Colin does manual labor all day, so when he gets home he's tired. I get that, I really do. I understand that sometimes he'd like to just relax, unwind, or even sometimes go to bed early, rather than having to deal with lecturing me, spanking me, etc. I understand that that's life and there will be those times.

BUT.. on the flip side, I think sometimes when you're trying to get something back up and running, you need to put that stuff aside and just do it. I mean, if I haven't been sticking to the rules, if I've had an attitude, if I've done something that deserves discipline, suck up your tiredness and just put me over your knee already!

Don't get me wrong, Colin is not the only part to the problem, and I'll admit that. I know people say Dominance comes from submission, and that makes sense, but I need his Dominance to bring out my submission.

I don't deliberately disobey, talk back, break rules, etc, but I also don't pay too much attention to them. For example, I know I'm supposed to drink a certain amount of water each day, or watch my cursing, or even just do things around the house when I'm home, but for the most part, I don't put in the effort.

Like I said, it's not deliberate. I don't do it to get a reaction from him, but I also tell myself that I most likely won't see a reaction from him. Sure, I might get a warning, or the threat of a spanking, but the follow through is not there.

I want to repeat that I understand he's tired, I understand he works LONG hours this time of the year and he gets stressed and exhausted. I'm not trying to complain about him at all. I'm really not. I guess I'm just trying to figure it all out.

Colin is the absolute best man I know. He's such an amazing husband, provider, friend, etc. He makes me feel completely loved, safe, protected, and happy. He literally makes me smile and laugh multiple times a day, and I would never change any of that. If we had to live without DD, our relationship would still be the best thing I could ever ask for in my whole entire life.

DD/Ds just adds to that greatness. It adds to the closeness, to the intimacy, to the love. It literally adds a whole other element to the marriage. Like I said, our relationship would be perfectly fine without it, but that doesn't mean I want to be without it.

I don't know what the answer is, or how to get back to how we both want things to be. It's not a question of whether or not he wants this. I know he wants this. Badly. When I really think about it, I can't say that DD isn't there. For example, I have the day off today and he told me a few things he wanted me to do while he was at work. One of those things was to clean a certain part of our couch that we tend to use as somewhat of a storage space. I just got a text from him saying, "How's the couch looking, young lady?" Or yesterday, I asked him to grab me something from the kitchen, and he gave me that look - right away I knew I forgot to add Sir to my sentence. So DD is still there. I guess what's missing is the follow through, and that's SO important to me. Like the picture I posted says, sometimes a girl just needs to be spanked! ;)

We'll get there, I know we will. It'll take time, patience, work, and probably a couple of arguments here and there. But it'll all be worth it.

On a happier note - he made a purchase the other day that we're both very excited to try out. It's something called Oh Mi Bod. Here's the link for anyone who wants to check it out.

OhMiBod

Hopefully we'll try it out sometime soon, and I'll be able to give a few more details next time I update. :)

One other thing I wanted to mention is that I have this messaging app called KIK, that I use to talk to some DD friends and it stopped working on my old phone. I just got a new phone, so I've re downloaded it and am now able to use it again - yay!

Love chatting to old, and new DD friends.. so If any of you have the app, or want to get it and say hi - feel free. You don't have to put in any personal info or anything, so it's nice and safe!

My name on there is kenziex0x0

Hopefully I'll talk to some of you there. :)

I see your Dominance, but I need to FEEL it.

I should probably start this blog off with a warning of some sort. Basically this post is going to be all over the place. I have a few topics I want to write about, but instead of writing separate blog posts, I figured I'd try to fit it all into one - without making this an hour long read. :p

First thing to start with, is that Colin is healing pretty well. He has some pain here and there, but all the checkups have been great, and he starts his physical therapy in a few days, so that should help a lot! When it comes to DD/Ds during his recovery, it started off really well. We did things to keep it alive, and right before his surgery I actually got a very serious spanking which kept me in line for a pretty long time! I've gotten a little teary before from a punishment, maaaybe even came close to crying - but this spanking changed that for sure! The spanking was for some serious disrespect, and towards the end he started talking about how what I say can really hurt him. Yikes. The lecture really hit me.. (at the same time the implement was hitting me by the way) and I just knew I wasn't going to be able to hold back the tears.

Colin was asking me questions during the lecture, and when I stopped answering with "yes Sir," and became quiet rather than answering his questions, he could tell I didn't want him to know I was crying. He gave me a few more smacks with it, and then held me for a while. He told me I don't need to hide the fact that I'm crying, and that it might help me to just let go and get it all out. He held me for a while, I cried, we talked, and it was the most effective punishment I've received. Sooo, that certainly helped with my behavior. For a while. 

We also did a few activities that have really helped us maintain our roles. We filled out a limit list together, we each wrote down what we think the other does well in their role, and what they could work on. Another one we did, was to write down 5 things each of us would ideally like from the other on a regular basis. 

He also decided that I'm going to start writing a daily diary. Something to keep track of how many waters I drink a day, if I do my chores or not, why I didn't get something done, and just my overall feelings that day. Just a quick little entry each day. We'll then go over it at night, during out nightly discussions.

I went to the store and bought a notebook on Monday - but I've yet to write in it. I'm not sure why, but I'm losing my submissiveness big time this week.

There hasn't been much follow through from Colin lately either. I notice that during our nightly discussions, for the past two weeks, he's been telling me I need to do better with drinking enough water throughout the day. I'm supposed to drink a minimum of 4 bottles a day, and I've been drinking one .. maybe two. In my mind I'm kind of like... "ok, well if I haven't been drinking enough water, and you've been reminding me every night for about two weeks.. maaaaybe it's time to do more than just talk to me about it?!?!" I've SEEN his dominance plenty lately, but I haven't FELT his dominance in a while. To me, there's a difference.

We talk, and do activities, and discuss things, BUT there isn't much reinforcement. I've pointed this out to him a few times, and he always says it's going to change, but to be honest - it hasn't. In my mind, that means it's not going to. I know he has a ton on his mind, and he's stressed, and I completely get that. But that doesn't make it any easier.

I don't want to come off as whining or complaining either, so I apologize if it comes across that way - but I needed to vent a bit. ;) So yea, that's where we are right now, but I'm hoping we'll get back on track soon.

Next thing I wanted to mention, was that we had the amazing opportunity to get together with 5 other DD couples about a month ago for a whole weekend, and it was SO much fun. I'm so lucky to have met such great, down to earth, real, fun, people that "get" the whole TTWD thing. Colin and I were able to be ourselves, and not hide this aspect of our lives around others. The only downside to that? Other HOHS give very evil presents to each other, and I got into a bit of trouble one night so Colin decided it was a great time to try out some new implements! All I can say is OUCH! Oh, and they weren't exactly silent implements either. So yes, it was heard by others. Grrr. ;) But like I said, it was such a great feeling to be ourselves, and be around others who understand. I'm very thankful. :)

The last thing I wanted to mention, was that the Fifty Shades of Grey trailer came out today! I wasn't looking forward to it at all, but the trailer changed my mind just a little bit. I still don't like the female lead, but I have to say that seeing the trailer made me see the actor who plays Christian, in a different light. I didn't think he'd be "Christian-y" at all .. but after seeing the trailer, I'm starting to see it a bit. Have you guys seen it? If not I'll put it up in this post - watch it and let me know what you think. :) Will you be heading to the movie theater when it comes out next year?

Muttering Under Your Breath Leads to a Bedtime!

I have to start off by saying, thanks for all the input on the new blog name! I went with "His Cheeky Sub," and I really like it. :) Seemed to be the consensus among you guys as well!

I do have a question though for any blog savvy readers out there. I see that the name changed on my page, but when I see my blog on blog rolls, it still says Red Bottoms & TTWD. Will that stay that way? Is there anything I can do for it to show up as the new name?

Things are still going well with us. Colin had another doctors appointment the other day and his surgery is officially scheduled! He's going to be getting two surgeries at once. Shoulder surgery, and wrist surgery. It's happening in the beginning of July, and I'm so happy his pain will be gone shortly after that! Recovery time will probably be around a month, so it will be hard with him being out of work for that amount of time, but we'll figure out a way to make it work. I asked him how he's going to know when he's able to go back to spanking, and he had his answer all lined up, as it was clearly something he thought about before...

"I'm going to ask him how long until I can go bowling." Pretty smart! Bowling kind of, sort of requires a similar movement in the arm as giving a spanking, so it seems like that's a good way to ask. :)

We're still having our nightly discussions and they have made such a difference in TTWD for us. He's been so consistent with it, and I'm so thankful and happy that it's been working out so well. We were having our talk last night, and a big topic of discussion was my procrastination issues. He said he's going to have to start giving me a wakeup time and I just kind of quietly laughed and muttered under my breath, "Sure. Just like the imaginary bedtime." Of course he heard me, and asked what I meant by that. I told him how he's mentioned multiple times that he's going to implement a bed time, but it's never happened, so I didn't think a wake up time would happen either.

Well, I was wrong. His response? 

"From now on, you'll be in bed by 10. Going to sleep by 11. Set the alarm on your phone to go off every morning at 8 am. And don't think you'll be hitting the snooze button when it goes off either."

When will I learn to just keep my mouth shut? As much as I don't want to admit it, it might be a good idea. I don't always get the best nights sleep, and I can be pretty grumpy because of it. I also procrastinate like crazy, so maybe .. just maybe, the bedtime and wakeup time might help. 

Yeah, Yeah.. Hoh's always know best don't they? *Insert sarcastic eye roll.* ;)

We have a busy weekend ahead of us, how about you guys? Any fun plans?

When Spanking Isn't an Option.

Hi everyone!

I know this is probably the hundredth time I've said this in the past few months - but yes, I've been MIA from blog land once again. I swear I always tell myself I'm going to start keeping up with it like I used to, but it's SO hard lately. Mainly because I have NO time, but also because I've had no clue what to write about.

Anyway, I'm back .. for now. I can't say updates will be all the time, but I really am hoping to get on here more often. I really miss reading everyones blogs - and after I write this entry, I'll be catching up to see how everyone is doing. :)

So as for Colin and I? Well, it's been rocky to say the least. We haven't been bad, or in a negative place, or anything like that. But I certainly can't say DD has been easy these past few months.

I've mentioned Colin's shoulder issues before, but it's been worse than ever lately. It bothers him pretty much 24/7 and it's been difficult to find out what's wrong with it, and how to treat it.

Good news is, he finally got a diagnosis. Well two actually. He has carpal tunnel in his wrist, and he has a an abnormally large bone spur in his shoulder.

Bad news? It requires two surgeries, and a good amount of recovery time - as well as wearing a sling for about a month. I'm so so so SO thrilled for him, because other doctors have told us there was nothing they could see on xrays, mris, etc - so he had no relief, no way of helping the pain or anything. Now, he finally knows it's not all in his head, there is an actual problem, and a way of fixing it! I'll be so happy for him once it's all done, and the pain isn't bothering him all the time.

It'll be hard though, because it's his dominant hand/arm that will be getting the surgery. His job requires heavy lifting most of the time so he may have to take some time off of work, it will be hard financially, he won't be able to drive for a little bit, oh and not to mention it's his spanking arm. :p


You would think I'd be celebrating that his spanking arm will be out of commission for about a month, but really I'm praying it doesn't send us/DD spiraling backwards a million steps. He's tried using his other arm a couple times, and it's okay - but it doesn't totally do the trick. Before he gets the surgery, there will be times his arm feels okay and he's able to do those quick, yet very hard type of spankings, so that's a plus (I think?) But those long, drawn out spankings that, yes I admit, I do need from time to time, aren't going to be happening for a while.

We know there are non spanking punishments out there as well, but for some reason there's a consistency issue with those type of punishments. Well, there hasn't been lately, that's for sure. Especially when it comes to lecturing and calling me out on not following the rules. But there are times when he doesn't pay as much as attention to things as I'd like/need.

It's not that he doesn't care enough or anything like that, but he works like crazy, he's always got a million things on his mind, and of course, sometimes it's just hard to be consistent. Life likes to get in the way.

I think we're both going to have to give and take a bit. He's going to have to try and be extra consistent with non spanking punishments, and I'm going to have to be extra submissive when he dishes out those punishments. I'm also going to have to be patient and just realize that just because things may be different for a month or so, it doesn't mean we will take steps backwards or lose DD completely.

I've mentioned in this blog previously, that before Colin - I had been spanked by a couple of other people. Colin actually suggested talking to those people and seeing if someone would be able to 'help out' if there's ever a time that nothing besides a good old fashioned spanking will do the trick. I wasn't sure if I was going to mention that here or not, because I know some people would think that was absolutely crazy, and I get that. But, what is this blog for, if not to be honest and open and just kind of get my thoughts into words on a screen. I go back and forth on that option, but if it was a person I trusted, purely platonic discipline, and Colin was all for it - especially if it'd make things a little easier, then I guess why not at least be open to it.

We'll see.

On the plus side, as a couple, we've been great. We've been playful and silly together a lot recently, and that really is my favorite thing about Colin - that we can be goofy together. Wrestling, laughing, just loving each other. I'm so thankful for him - bad shoulder or not. ;)

I do have to say, he has been pretty HOHy lately. I was out with a friend the other night and we were talking and talking and talking. I noticed a couple texts/calls from Colin, but didn't want to interrupt our conversation to respond. (Stupid, I know!) About an hour later, when I finally called him - he wasn't too happy. I got quite the lecture on how he was so nervous, wondering if I was okay. How I NEED to check in during times like that. He told me he understands that sometimes conversations can go on and on, but it's not too hard to send a quick text and let him know I'm okay so he doesn't continue to worry. I also got one of those quick, but pretty darn hard type spankings. I didn't think 24 swats accompanied by a lecture where I was made to keep eye contact, would be as effective as it was! Let's just say I'll make sure to text him back or answer his phone call right away next time!

Have any of you ever had to deal with the HOH having some sort of injury where spanking just wasn't an option? If so, any suggestions? They'd be very much appreciated by both of us. :)

So that's about it for now.. I'm sorry this post was kind of all over the place, and a bunch of rambling, but I think I just really needed to write. I have/had a lot of thoughts in my head, and I just needed a place to .. get it all out. :)

Hopefully the next post will be less rambling!

Miss hearing from everyone & hope everyone is doing well!

Mr. Spank your tail!

Ugh, I miss blogging like craaazy! Life has taken over recently and I just haven't had time that I thought I would.

I have time tonight for a little update and to catch up on some blogs, so I figured I'd take advantage of that. :)

I went to California for a week for spring vacation, and it was pretty amazing! With the weather the way it has been here lately, Cali weather was such a nice little break!

Coaching has also just seriously taken over my life. Between practices and games, our schedule is insane. I love it - but it takes up A LOT of time.

Colin and I are good. DD/Ds is still there, but it hasn't been as present as either of us would like. It's hard with both of us being so busy. On top of my schedule, he works crazy long hours so it hasn't been easy to incorporate DD or D/s. With that being said, I know it's still there. I know when things slow down or when we have time, there will be more spanking and other DD kind of things - but sometimes being patient sucks.

I know he misses it too. When I was away, I got a random text from him one day that just simply said:

"I need to dom you. I miss it."

I love knowing that he wants/needs this as much as I do. Now if only our schedules would lighten up a bit! Here's how I feel about life and busy schedules getting in the way of things!

So on another note .. I know I'm late, but I've missed writing those little spanko jingles, so I put a quick little Easter one together for this post. It's a short one, but it's to the tune of "Here Comes Mr. Cottontail." Hope you like it! Can't wait to catch up on everyones blogs, and hopefully I'll start being able to squeeze in more updates. I miss talking to everyone!

Here Comes Mr. Spank your tail.
Hey, you're looking kind of pale.
Don't you worry,
a spankings on its way!

Bringing every girl and boy
lots and lots of spanking toys.
He'll make your bottom red
like cabernet.

He's got paddles belts and brushes,
lots of corners for display.
so if you start to misbehave,
you might end up OTK.

Here comes Mr. Spank your tail
Hey, you're looking kind of pale!
You should worry,
a spankings on its way!

It's been long enough! Answer time. :)

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My HOH is back & The Fantasy Box!

I don't want to speak too soon, but I really think DD/TTWD is back on track. Or at least on it's way to being back on track!

We had a pretty big slump, and for a while, we just couldn't figure out how to get back into the swing of things. We both wanted DD to continue, but it had taken a backseat for so long and it was hard to start it back up.

I think I was just over thinking it. This weekend we had a little mini vacation and went skiing a couple hours away from home. On the car ride there we started talking a bit about DD, TTWD, spanking, D/s, etc - and I was feeling discouraged because the conversation was just turning into argument after argument. We just couldn't seem to agree on anything.

I was feeling extra vulnerable, and extra emotional, and I really needed him to be extra hoh-y. I remember him saying something that pissed me off, and rather than talking to him respectfully, I just snapped. Yelled at him, told him I was done with the conversation, and proceeded to look out the window, not looking forward to this little mini vacation anymore.

A few minutes later, he said something about how I need to respect him, not talk to him the way I did, etc. It really got to me, and I started thinking about WHY I snapped at him, rather than trying to work it out. I realized that I knew I was going to get upset and start crying, so rather than letting myself cry and get it all out, I bottled it in and turned to anger instead. I apologized, and explained that to him, and he said if I need to cry .. then cry. Not to keep it in and snap at him instead, because it won't do any good.

He said he wanted to do a submissive Saturday, and that for the rest of the day I was to answer with Sir. Whether it be, yes Sir, no Sir, etc - I was to say Sir when he asked me a question. Every time I forgot, it was going to be 10 spanks with whatever implement he decided to use.

He said it would be a good lesson in respect and would hopefully start getting us back on the right track. Things were starting to look up, and I could feel myself becoming more submissive again.

We ended up having an absolutely amazing weekend. On the drive home, I told him that sometimes I just have these moments where I fall in love with him all over again, and this weekend was one of those times. I just felt so happy, so in love, and finally felt content with TTWD again.

At one point, we were waiting for the shuttle to take us to the mountain and a good amount of people were around us. I did something, I can't remember what, but he gave me 'the look.' The look didn't seem to stop me, so he discreetly grabbed hold of my upper arm, pulled me in close to him, and whispered "Behave," into my ear. I instantly turned bright red and stopped doing whatever it was I was doing!

Damn, Mr. Hohy husband is back!

I forgot to say Sir a few times throughout the weekend and on the drive home he let me know it would be taken care of.

"When I say it's time, I don't want any back talk. I want you over my knee, and I want you to submit."
"Yes, Sir."

We relaxed for a bit when we got home, and then he decided it was time for the spanking. He got out the strap, the rose paddle, and the tilt wand thing, and I knew he wasn't playing around.

I was supposed to only get 40 total, but didn't take the spanking quite as well as he liked, so he decided we were going to stop keeping count, and he was going to keep spanking until he decided I learned my lesson.

It wasn't very long, or even very hard, but it seemed to be what we both needed. I mean, I'll admit - I still feel like I need a long, hard, possibly even tears, type of session, but I know it will happen when it needs to.

When he was done, he said, "This really IS a great stress reliever for me. Another reason to do it more often."

Yup, my HOH is back .. and maybe even better than ever. ;)

OH and I wanted to mention something we ordered that I just got in the mail today! I don't know if you guys have ever heard of beauty boxes, like ipsy and birchbox - but basically there are these websites which send out monthly boxes with beauty supplies for a certain amount of money a month. Some are ten, some twenty, etc. Anyway, it's become my new obsession and when I was telling Colin about them, he asked if there was anything like that, but more geared towards adult toys.

I googled it, and sure enough, I came across something called The Fantasy Box. If you're interested, click here and check it out ----> The Fantasy Box.

Basically, it's a box that is delivered once a month, and it has some type of 'fantasy' inside. It comes with a questionnaire for each partner to fill out, and then one person is the leader, other is the follower. Obviously Colin will be the leader for us when we get our fantasy! There are cards for each person with directions on them, and things in the box to fulfill the fantasy on the card. It can be anything from a sweet massage, to a fun kinky kind of session. I'll include a picture of our first box that I just opened!

My first impression is overall a good one! I didn't read the instructions on the "Leader" card, because that's for Colin to read - and for me not to find out about until he gives me the instructions. ;) The instructions on my card (the follower card) tell me to put on the blindfold, get dressed (I'm assuming in that outfit) and wait wherever the leader tells me to wait. Sounds interesting! The little things in the picture that you can't quite make out, are a little vibrator thing, a massage candle, and some lube. I'm not a big fan of the lingerie - it's a weird style, but I'll be wearing it anyway for Colin. I have to say, it looks like SO much fun, and I'm really excited to try it out. Anyway, just thought I'd share the info for anyone who might be interested!

Another thing I'm super excited for - Colin got us tickets to go see the show "Spank! The Fifty Shades Parody," for this Friday night! I have no idea what to expect, but I'm hoping it's funny! I have a feeling it will be. :)

Can't wait to catch up on blogs! I'm sorry I haven't been around much - I had just been really down and took a break from the blogs for a bit. I really miss everyone, and can't wait to see how everyone is doing!

The Dom With The Palm.

Sooo I'm kinda sorta supposed to be doing some chores right now, but I'm kinda sorta bored of the chores and wanted to write something fun.

Colin texted me this morning and told me to check our app to see what he added for today. I answered with, "Yes, Sir." He then said:

"Good girl. Let's start this week off right and you will be rewarded, but the minute you act up or not do something I tell you to do, you will be punished. Do you understand me?"

Geez. Mr. HOH is back! I checked the list and decided I'd get most of it done later on in the day. I went to the store, got stuff for dinner, because I'm now obsessed with our crockpot! I love having dinner ready for him when he gets home, it makes me so happy to do that for him. So anyway,  I did that and then decided to watch a bit of tv. I got pretty into my show and ended up watching a few more episodes than I should have.

My phone went off and I saw a text from Colin.

"I don't see anything checked off the list. You don't want to disappoint me baby."

I quickly got up, checked the list, and was able to do a few things and cross them off. It was too late in the day to do two of them, and there are two others I haven't done yet. I just realllllyyy don't feel like vacuuming or doing laundry right now. I mean he never reallllyy told me I had to get them all done, so I'm hoping what I did do will suffice? Wishful thinking, I know. Having said that, I really should be vacuuming, but blogging just sounds like so much more fun right now!

Soooo - I haven't done any Dr. Seuss lately and I figured now is as good of a time as ever. So, rather than "The Cat in the Hat," here is:

The Dom With The Palm!

The sun did not shine,
I had no time to play,
I had chores to get done,
On this cold winters day.

The tv was calling,
I sat down for a few.
And I said, hmm hold on,
Didn't I have something to do?

Too tired for chores,
Should I be making a call?
I'll just sit on the couch,
and do nothing at all.

So all I did,
was sit sit sit sit.
Oh no, he will not like this.
Not one little bit.

And then
something went BUMP!
How that bump made me jump!

I looked!
Then I saw him, I couldn't respond!
I looked,
and I saw him.
The Dom with the palm.
Standing there staring,
looking a bit like king kong.

I know you were tired,
and not feeling well.
But your chores are not done?
No, I will not yell.

I know a few games we could play,
said the Dom.
I have a few tricks, 
Said the Dom with the palm.
A lot of good tricks,
I will show them to you.
Your bottom will not mind 
not at all if I do.

And poor little me,
did not know what to say.
I shouldn't have sat on the couch
all damn day.

So a voice said, no no!
Make that Dom go away!
Tell that Dom with the palm,
you do NOT want to play!
He should not be here.
He should not be about.
He should not be here
while your bottom is out!

Now, now - have no fear!
Have no fear, said the Dom.
My tricks aren't that bad,
Said the Dom with the palm.
Why, we can have
lots of fun if you wish.
fun with a game, that I call,
swish swish.

Oh no! Not swish swish!
I know that sound.
No way, not swish swish!
I don't want my pants down!

Have no fear said the Dom.
I will take them down fast!
panties down too,
no not at half mast!
With a brush in one hand,
you just stay calm,
We'll handle this now,
Shhh said the Dom.

Look at you.
Look at you now,
Said the Dom
your bottom all red,
from the sting of my palm.
I will go grab a belt,
you better obey,
now it's off to the corner,
red bottom on display.

Then he came to the corner,
Said, my what a view,
next time pick your chores,
or a cane of bamboo.

And in that moment,
I did not know what to say,
Should I tell him, yes Sir?
Be good and obey?

Next time do my chores?
What should I do?
Well what would YOU do,
if your Dom asked you?

This story ended up being wayyyy longer than I thought it was, so I left out some parts in the middle to make it a bit shorter.

My Dom with the TWITCHY palm is on his way home now, and I just told him that most of the chores were done, but not all of them.

After hearing a mini lecture from him, and receiving a text that says, "I don't want any hesitation. When I say get over my knee, DO IT,"I'm wondering if this poem will resemble real life at all when he gets home tonight .. eeek.

I sweetly replied to that text with a, "Yes Sir." This followed:

"I'll see you when I get home."
"I love you lots and lots and lots!"
"That's not going to help that bottom of yours."

Wish me luck!

You can say that again!

One Year DD Anniversary!

Wow, we made it a whole year! :) I have to say, it feels like we've been on this DD/Ds journey for more like five years at times, but I'm glad we are where we are today.

I honestly never thought I would have been able to bring up the idea of DD to Colin .. ever! I used to think about what it would be like if I told him, but never imagined actually being able to get the courage to tell him about it! I'm so glad I finally did. We've had some really low lows, and some very high highs, and I wouldn't change any of it for the world.

As much as the low points suck, I think they were all learning experiences, so in a way, I really am thankful for them.

I'm going to answer a few questions you guys asked in a previous post, and Colin will answer the questions that were for him as well. :) Thanks so much for asking, and hope you enjoy the answers! My answers will be in pink, and Colin's will be in blue. Original, I know. ;)

Joey asked: Will the two of you ever attend a spanking party, such as scony?

Yes! I really want to attend a spanking party with Colin. I think it'd be a very interesting experience, and I hope one day soon to work up the courage to do so!

Yes, we've been thinking about going for a while now.

Missy asked: What was the most surprising discovery you made about yourselves since you started TTWD?

Hm, I think I'd have to go with how I realized I really *AM* submissive. I used to always swear up and down I wasn't a submissive person, even when I craved a DD/Ds relationship. Over time, Colin has helped me realize it's a lot more natural for me to be submissive to him than I thought. I just needed to let go and let him lead. I'm still working on it, but I think I've done a decent job at it so far. 

How second nature being Dominant is for me. I thought it would take a lot longer to feel this natural.

Roz asked: What is the most important thing you have learnt about each other since TTWD?

The most important thing I learned about Colin since TTWD, is that he can be naturally Dominant. Not only can he be, but he is. I used to think since he was like a cuddly teddy bear, sweetheart type, that he couldn't be strict and Dominant like I needed. Boy was I wrong! It's like having the best of both worlds, and I love it.

I've learned that Kenzie can be really submissive when I need her to be. She's become so much more comfortable getting into that mind set and not second guessing herself, or second guessing me. 

JJ Stars asked: As you reflect on your progress and think about your end goal, what is one element of your relationship (spanking related or not) that you each would like to improve about yourselves personally, and one thing you would like the other to work on?

One thing I'd like to improve about myself, is doing more things for him just because. Cooking, cleaning up, sexual things.. just doing things for him. He does so much for me, and I want to do just as much for him. One thing I'd like him to work on, is sticking to things. Sometimes he'll make a rule and then forget it was even a rule.. I'd like him to be more focused on the little things with DD/Ds.

I'd like to work on my consistency, and realizing that there are so many other options besides spanking. Less waiting, and more taking care of things when they need to be taken care of. As for Kenzie, I'd like her to work on being more comfortable with her self. Realizing that she's beautiful in every aspect, and she needs to give herself more credit. 

EsMay asked: What is the biggest lesson you have each learned in your respective roles, and what changes did you make because of those lessons?

I learned that I can be a spoiled brat! I used to take advantage of how much Colin did for me. I wouldn't say thank you that often, and I just figured he knew that I appreciated it all, rather than telling/showing him that I appreciated it. I'm still working on the changes, but I'm trying to do more things for him. For example, I hate to cook .. but tonight I was so excited to cook for him and I have dinner in the crockpot right now. :) 

For me it would be learning how important consistency is. Rather than just saying xy and z, or I'll "handle it later," I learned that some things need to be taken care of rather than waiting all the time. The change I made was rather than putting it off, I found other ways of dealing with things besides spanking. If I was too tired, or my arm hurt and it couldn't be done, I somehow let her know it would still be dealt with and that it was important to me. 

These next set of questions are from Bonnie:

What's your favorite part of each others bodies, and why?

I loooove his arms. He's got nice, defined, muscly arms and I just love them. Why? Hm well I guess because I'm a spanko, lol.

Her ass. I wonder why. ;)

What's your favorite implement to spank or be spanked with?

I like his hand. It's intimate, and it doesn't hurt as much as some of the evil implements we own. But if we're talking actual, non hand implements, I'd have to go with a hairbrush. It just seems very traditional to me.

The big green monster. Thanks Honey&Lee! I also love our red paddle that Kenzie won through blogging.

How do you feel DD has benefited your relationship?

Oh in SO many ways! The biggest one being our arguments are so different than they were pre-dd. We used to go AT IT! We'd scream at each other, say horrible things to each other, a couple times there were even holes in the wall. Now that we're doing DD, that hasn't happened in such a long time. We communicate, we tell each other if we're upset with the other, and we know how to deal with things. We talk to each other so much better, we're more cuddly and lovey dovey. We smile and laugh more. We smiled, laughed, and cuddled, a lot pre-DD as well, but after starting DD I just feel more in love than I ever thought possible. And I was crazy head over heels in love before DD, so I never thought I could fall even more in love with someone. 

It has benefited our relationship so much, that I couldn't imagine not doing it. Kenzie wanted to go on a break for a little bit because of stress and it really made me realize how important it is to our relationship. It's helped how we deal with arguments, and how we communicate. 

The next set, still from Bonnie *thanks for all the questions, I love them!* are for Colin to answer only:

When did you first know you loved Kenzie?

We had been seeing each other for a while, but hadn't become official yet. I was kind of an asshole back then, and she finally told me that it was either all or nothing. We were laying in bed talking about it, and we both got teary. I think we just knew how much we cared about each other. I asked her to be official and that's when I knew I loved her. 

What did you think when she brought DD to you?

I thought it was something new to try, but also didn't really understand it. At first I thought it was purely sexual, but then I realized how much more there was to it.

What's the one thing Kenzie does, that drives you crazy?

She likes to pull my chest hair. Drives me NUTS! I could go on for hours, but you asked me for ONE thing. ;) 

I also got two questions from non bloggers, who emailed me and said they read my blog and would like to ask questions - thanks guys!

Do you have any tricks that you use in everyday vanilla life, to keep DD going?

Hm, I know I'm always trying to come up with things like this, but we do have a couple. For one, we just started using an app where he comes up with a to-do list and I have to check things off of it. I think that's helped a lot so far. Other than that, nothing really in particular. Just communicating about how things are going I guess. We've been wanting to do RA type spankings for a while, but haven't gotten around to them yet. I think once we do, those will help a lot as well.

I think the little things help a lot. Texts throughout the day, letting her know I'm proud of her, or that she's been doing a good job. If she hasn't been that good, all it takes is an "Mmmhmm," and she knows she's in trouble. 

What's a spanking/Ds fantasy you would like to live out?

Ooooh, I have a couple, but I'll just go with one for now. I think it'd be interesting to have someone else present for a spanking, maybe in a situation where I'm being spanked alongside someone else. Maybe we both got in trouble together and both will be punished for it, but rather than handling it in private, our HOHs decide to handle it right then and there. This is just a fantasy, I'm not sure how interesting it'd be if it actually happened! Lol

I'd love to tie her up and tease her for hours. I also think it would be hot to have another female spank her.

And there's the questions and answers! Thanks so much everyone, we really had a lot of fun with this. I thought I'd end the post by including a few stats I thought were pretty cool. I know I haven't been blogging for quite a year yet, but thought it'd be fun to include some anyway. Thanks to everyone who reads this blog, comments, offers advice, hugs, etc - I'm so happy Colin and I have found blog land, because it's made this TTWD journey so much easier, and we're so thankful! :)

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And two pictures to conclude the post .. because, well .. why not? There is just something about the belt, isn't there?