Wednesday, January 22, 2014

One Year DD Anniversary!

Wow, we made it a whole year! :) I have to say, it feels like we've been on this DD/Ds journey for more like five years at times, but I'm glad we are where we are today.

I honestly never thought I would have been able to bring up the idea of DD to Colin .. ever! I used to think about what it would be like if I told him, but never imagined actually being able to get the courage to tell him about it! I'm so glad I finally did. We've had some really low lows, and some very high highs, and I wouldn't change any of it for the world.

As much as the low points suck, I think they were all learning experiences, so in a way, I really am thankful for them.

I'm going to answer a few questions you guys asked in a previous post, and Colin will answer the questions that were for him as well. :) Thanks so much for asking, and hope you enjoy the answers! My answers will be in pink, and Colin's will be in blue. Original, I know. ;)

Joey asked: Will the two of you ever attend a spanking party, such as scony?

Yes! I really want to attend a spanking party with Colin. I think it'd be a very interesting experience, and I hope one day soon to work up the courage to do so!

Yes, we've been thinking about going for a while now.

Missy asked: What was the most surprising discovery you made about yourselves since you started TTWD?

Hm, I think I'd have to go with how I realized I really *AM* submissive. I used to always swear up and down I wasn't a submissive person, even when I craved a DD/Ds relationship. Over time, Colin has helped me realize it's a lot more natural for me to be submissive to him than I thought. I just needed to let go and let him lead. I'm still working on it, but I think I've done a decent job at it so far. 

How second nature being Dominant is for me. I thought it would take a lot longer to feel this natural.

Roz asked: What is the most important thing you have learnt about each other since TTWD?

The most important thing I learned about Colin since TTWD, is that he can be naturally Dominant. Not only can he be, but he is. I used to think since he was like a cuddly teddy bear, sweetheart type, that he couldn't be strict and Dominant like I needed. Boy was I wrong! It's like having the best of both worlds, and I love it.

I've learned that Kenzie can be really submissive when I need her to be. She's become so much more comfortable getting into that mind set and not second guessing herself, or second guessing me. 

JJ Stars asked: As you reflect on your progress and think about your end goal, what is one element of your relationship (spanking related or not) that you each would like to improve about yourselves personally, and one thing you would like the other to work on?

One thing I'd like to improve about myself, is doing more things for him just because. Cooking, cleaning up, sexual things.. just doing things for him. He does so much for me, and I want to do just as much for him. One thing I'd like him to work on, is sticking to things. Sometimes he'll make a rule and then forget it was even a rule.. I'd like him to be more focused on the little things with DD/Ds.

I'd like to work on my consistency, and realizing that there are so many other options besides spanking. Less waiting, and more taking care of things when they need to be taken care of. As for Kenzie, I'd like her to work on being more comfortable with her self. Realizing that she's beautiful in every aspect, and she needs to give herself more credit. 

EsMay asked: What is the biggest lesson you have each learned in your respective roles, and what changes did you make because of those lessons?

I learned that I can be a spoiled brat! I used to take advantage of how much Colin did for me. I wouldn't say thank you that often, and I just figured he knew that I appreciated it all, rather than telling/showing him that I appreciated it. I'm still working on the changes, but I'm trying to do more things for him. For example, I hate to cook .. but tonight I was so excited to cook for him and I have dinner in the crockpot right now. :) 

For me it would be learning how important consistency is. Rather than just saying xy and z, or I'll "handle it later," I learned that some things need to be taken care of rather than waiting all the time. The change I made was rather than putting it off, I found other ways of dealing with things besides spanking. If I was too tired, or my arm hurt and it couldn't be done, I somehow let her know it would still be dealt with and that it was important to me. 

These next set of questions are from Bonnie:

What's your favorite part of each others bodies, and why?

I loooove his arms. He's got nice, defined, muscly arms and I just love them. Why? Hm well I guess because I'm a spanko, lol.

Her ass. I wonder why. ;)

What's your favorite implement to spank or be spanked with?

I like his hand. It's intimate, and it doesn't hurt as much as some of the evil implements we own. But if we're talking actual, non hand implements, I'd have to go with a hairbrush. It just seems very traditional to me.

The big green monster. Thanks Honey&Lee! I also love our red paddle that Kenzie won through blogging.

How do you feel DD has benefited your relationship?

Oh in SO many ways! The biggest one being our arguments are so different than they were pre-dd. We used to go AT IT! We'd scream at each other, say horrible things to each other, a couple times there were even holes in the wall. Now that we're doing DD, that hasn't happened in such a long time. We communicate, we tell each other if we're upset with the other, and we know how to deal with things. We talk to each other so much better, we're more cuddly and lovey dovey. We smile and laugh more. We smiled, laughed, and cuddled, a lot pre-DD as well, but after starting DD I just feel more in love than I ever thought possible. And I was crazy head over heels in love before DD, so I never thought I could fall even more in love with someone. 

It has benefited our relationship so much, that I couldn't imagine not doing it. Kenzie wanted to go on a break for a little bit because of stress and it really made me realize how important it is to our relationship. It's helped how we deal with arguments, and how we communicate. 

The next set, still from Bonnie *thanks for all the questions, I love them!* are for Colin to answer only:

When did you first know you loved Kenzie?

We had been seeing each other for a while, but hadn't become official yet. I was kind of an asshole back then, and she finally told me that it was either all or nothing. We were laying in bed talking about it, and we both got teary. I think we just knew how much we cared about each other. I asked her to be official and that's when I knew I loved her. 

What did you think when she brought DD to you?

I thought it was something new to try, but also didn't really understand it. At first I thought it was purely sexual, but then I realized how much more there was to it.

What's the one thing Kenzie does, that drives you crazy?

She likes to pull my chest hair. Drives me NUTS! I could go on for hours, but you asked me for ONE thing. ;) 

I also got two questions from non bloggers, who emailed me and said they read my blog and would like to ask questions - thanks guys!

Do you have any tricks that you use in everyday vanilla life, to keep DD going?

Hm, I know I'm always trying to come up with things like this, but we do have a couple. For one, we just started using an app where he comes up with a to-do list and I have to check things off of it. I think that's helped a lot so far. Other than that, nothing really in particular. Just communicating about how things are going I guess. We've been wanting to do RA type spankings for a while, but haven't gotten around to them yet. I think once we do, those will help a lot as well.

I think the little things help a lot. Texts throughout the day, letting her know I'm proud of her, or that she's been doing a good job. If she hasn't been that good, all it takes is an "Mmmhmm," and she knows she's in trouble. 

What's a spanking/Ds fantasy you would like to live out?

Ooooh, I have a couple, but I'll just go with one for now. I think it'd be interesting to have someone else present for a spanking, maybe in a situation where I'm being spanked alongside someone else. Maybe we both got in trouble together and both will be punished for it, but rather than handling it in private, our HOHs decide to handle it right then and there. This is just a fantasy, I'm not sure how interesting it'd be if it actually happened! Lol

I'd love to tie her up and tease her for hours. I also think it would be hot to have another female spank her.

And there's the questions and answers! Thanks so much everyone, we really had a lot of fun with this. I thought I'd end the post by including a few stats I thought were pretty cool. I know I haven't been blogging for quite a year yet, but thought it'd be fun to include some anyway. Thanks to everyone who reads this blog, comments, offers advice, hugs, etc - I'm so happy Colin and I have found blog land, because it's made this TTWD journey so much easier, and we're so thankful! :)

All time pageviews: 115,693
Top three visited posts: Spanko Advent Calendar 2013 Boot Camp Kicked My Butt and If You Give a Dom a Reason
Top keywords people use to find my blog: Spanko, TTWD, Red Bottoms and TTWD, The ceiling, TTWD Blog, and the ceiling is dirty.

Umm, all of those make sense except for the ceiling ones? Poor people looking for celings and come across my spanking blog. Between those two keywords, a total of 81 people supposedly found my blog that way. Weeeird.

And two pictures to conclude the post .. because, well .. why not? There is just something about the belt, isn't there?






37 comments:

  1. Happy DD anniversary guys! It is amazing hoe many changes happen once you start to get to know yourself and your partner even more!~

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    1. Thanks Julia! The changes you notice along the way really are great! :)

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  2. Happy DDversary! I loved reading all the answers to the questions. Did you notice how many answers you guys had that were similar. That says a lot right there! It's great how many good things have come from doing DD/ D/s :) Congrats to both of you!

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    1. Thanks Sara! It's funny because he wanted me to read my answers before he had answered and I asked if I could wait because I wanted to see if we'd answer similarly. So he said that was fine, and turns out some answers were alike after all! :)

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  3. Happy anniversary, Kenzie and Colin,
    Great questions, great answers, great pictures!
    We've found your blog really helpful and thought-provoking. Alder and Colin seem to have a lot in common.
    Not sure you've really contributed much to the debate about dirty ceilings, though!!

    Ash and Alder

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    1. Aww thanks to the both of you! I'm glad you like the blog! I tried to get to yours (if you have one?) but wasn't able to find it. I'd love to get the link if you guys write one?

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    2. We don't blog; I don't think Alder's nerves could stand the thought of me broadcasting my opinions to the world!
      I will try to comment more often, though, I promise!
      Oh, btw,if you hadn't figured it out, we're in the UK.

      Ash

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  4. Happy Anniversary - great Q&A. Your blog has always been both fun and thoughtful and I enjoy visiting here.
    hugs
    DF

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    1. Aww thanks so much DF, you're always so sweet. :)

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  5. Happy DDversary! U guys are the cutest lol

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    1. Lol aw thank you! We missss you guys!!!

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  6. Happy Anniversary :) Can I ask what the Big Green Monster is? Don't recall seeing a picture of it.

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    1. Thanks Lori! I'll have to put a picture of it up here soon... it's kind of like a cane in a way I guess you could say .. it's green, and mean that's for sure! Lol

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  7. Great answers you guys. I especially love Colin's answer to when he knew he loved you. So sweet. And those fantasies, hot! Congrats on one year!

    xo

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    1. Happy Anniversary Guys. I remember how special our first anniversary was. he gave me a pearl ring... Because pearls are formed in great adversity, and irritation but something beautiful comes from it...

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    2. Aww thanks Bonnie. I love when he tells that story, I remember that day perfectly!

      And thanks Dana - that is SO beautiful about the pearl ring, I love it! :)

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  8. LOL...to the dirty ceilings. I can tell you I now notice dusty baseboards more now, due to positions I find myself in *ahem*. I took my blog off google search about 3 months in, but with names of Cartoon characters I can WELL imagined how many people were shocked when they looked up Barney Rubble granola bars ( too many to count one month) and found out about my spankings!!!

    Seriously, congrats on your One year! It isn't always pretty, it is very rarely easy, but it is OH SO WORTH IT.
    willie

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    1. Hahaha Wilma, Omg that made me LOL about the Barney Rubble granola bars! Thank you - and you're right, it is certainly worth it. :)

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  9. Congrats on your one year anniversary Kenzie. Love the Q&A...great questions and answers. 'ceiling is dirty'...hmmm...nope, sorry, still don't get that one! LOL

    Blessings...
    Cat

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    1. Haha, I don't get it either Cat! It's a weird one for sure. Thank you so much. :)

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  10. Happy DDversary! Congrats on your first year. It isn't always easy, but so worth it and we learn and grow from the low times.

    Wonderful Q&A, thank you for inviting questions. Love your answers and as Sara said, many of them were the same from both of you. That says something! Scratching my head at the dirty ceilings LoL.

    Hugs,
    Roz

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    1. It is so worth it! And growing from the low times is exactly what we'll try and do. :) Aw thanks Roz. ;)

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  11. Happy DDversary!!! Congrats! That year mark is an awesome milestone!

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    1. Aw thanks Cole! It's so much fun to celebrate a year. :)

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  12. Dirty ceilings, we'll you just never know. Lol. Congrats on one year. And what great answers, it's always good to hear from the HoHs around here. Hope you have another great year together, may be with less low lows. :)

    {{{hugs}}} EsMay

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    1. Lol the dirty ceilings thing is pretty crazy! Thanks so much Es May - less low lows would be nice. :)

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    1. Thank you elle! :) I appreciate it!

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  14. Happy DDversary guys :) thanks for answering the questions, they were really good to read, hers to the next year x

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    1. Aw thanks Missy! So glad you liked the answers! :)

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  15. Happy Anniversary! (Better late than ever...)

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    1. Thank you so much! :) Can never be late here, always appreciate you stopping by. :)

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  16. Happy DDversary Kenz & Colin!!!! BTW that big green monster was from Lee Not me! LOL
    Love you guys!
    honey

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    1. Thanks Honey! Lol, you're right - I'll have to remind Colin of that! Misss you guys!

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  17. Congrats on your one year anniversary! That's wonderful!

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  18. We have been doing D/s for almost a year and I love your blog.We are in our mid 40's and this change has helped our relationship so much. My stress level is way down and I didn't think I could love D more but D/s has brought us closer. Love the blogs they help a lot.

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