Monday, October 27, 2014

Sometimes a Girl Just Needs to be Spanked!

I want to start off by saying thank you for the comments on the last post, and the words of encouragement. :) I really appreciate it!

That's one of the things I love about blogging. Other people get what you're writing about, they get how you're feeling, and they encourage you to keep on going. It's a nice place to be able to vent. (A little foreshadowing there.. beware of the venting.)

Anywayyy.. I have to say the DD flame is not exactly burning strong right now, but we're working on it. Colin has let some things slide, and I haven't exactly been too submissive lately, but it's getting a little bit better.

We're both SO busy that when I get home from practice at 8pm, or he gets home from work between 8 and 9, we just want to relax, eat dinner, watch tv, and play with the kitty! *The actual animal kitty guys - geeez get your minds out of the gutter. ;)*

We did have our talk after I wrote my last post. He came home with the list he wrote of things he wanted to talk about, and he seemed very serious and stern about all of it. It seemed like it would be a good start to things, and it was .. but it hasn't really gone much further than that.

Colin does manual labor all day, so when he gets home he's tired. I get that, I really do. I understand that sometimes he'd like to just relax, unwind, or even sometimes go to bed early, rather than having to deal with lecturing me, spanking me, etc. I understand that that's life and there will be those times.

BUT.. on the flip side, I think sometimes when you're trying to get something back up and running, you need to put that stuff aside and just do it. I mean, if I haven't been sticking to the rules, if I've had an attitude, if I've done something that deserves discipline, suck up your tiredness and just put me over your knee already!

Don't get me wrong, Colin is not the only part to the problem, and I'll admit that. I know people say Dominance comes from submission, and that makes sense, but I need his Dominance to bring out my submission.

I don't deliberately disobey, talk back, break rules, etc, but I also don't pay too much attention to them. For example, I know I'm supposed to drink a certain amount of water each day, or watch my cursing, or even just do things around the house when I'm home, but for the most part, I don't put in the effort.

Like I said, it's not deliberate. I don't do it to get a reaction from him, but I also tell myself that I most likely won't see a reaction from him. Sure, I might get a warning, or the threat of a spanking, but the follow through is not there.

I want to repeat that I understand he's tired, I understand he works LONG hours this time of the year and he gets stressed and exhausted. I'm not trying to complain about him at all. I'm really not. I guess I'm just trying to figure it all out.

Colin is the absolute best man I know. He's such an amazing husband, provider, friend, etc. He makes me feel completely loved, safe, protected, and happy. He literally makes me smile and laugh multiple times a day, and I would never change any of that. If we had to live without DD, our relationship would still be the best thing I could ever ask for in my whole entire life.

DD/Ds just adds to that greatness. It adds to the closeness, to the intimacy, to the love. It literally adds a whole other element to the marriage. Like I said, our relationship would be perfectly fine without it, but that doesn't mean I want to be without it.

I don't know what the answer is, or how to get back to how we both want things to be. It's not a question of whether or not he wants this. I know he wants this. Badly. When I really think about it, I can't say that DD isn't there. For example, I have the day off today and he told me a few things he wanted me to do while he was at work. One of those things was to clean a certain part of our couch that we tend to use as somewhat of a storage space. I just got a text from him saying, "How's the couch looking, young lady?" Or yesterday, I asked him to grab me something from the kitchen, and he gave me that look - right away I knew I forgot to add Sir to my sentence. So DD is still there. I guess what's missing is the follow through, and that's SO important to me. Like the picture I posted says, sometimes a girl just needs to be spanked! ;)

We'll get there, I know we will. It'll take time, patience, work, and probably a couple of arguments here and there. But it'll all be worth it.

On a happier note - he made a purchase the other day that we're both very excited to try out. It's something called Oh Mi Bod. Here's the link for anyone who wants to check it out.


Hopefully we'll try it out sometime soon, and I'll be able to give a few more details next time I update. :)

One other thing I wanted to mention is that I have this messaging app called KIK, that I use to talk to some DD friends and it stopped working on my old phone. I just got a new phone, so I've re downloaded it and am now able to use it again - yay!

Love chatting to old, and new DD friends.. so If any of you have the app, or want to get it and say hi - feel free. You don't have to put in any personal info or anything, so it's nice and safe!

My name on there is kenziex0x0

Hopefully I'll talk to some of you there. :)


  1. Hey Kenzie,

    I so know exactly what you are talking about, and what I tell DH is, at the end of the day it comes down to this: Do you want to do this, or not? Either you do it or you don't. U know? There is excuses on top of excuses, but inconsistency really can drain a DD relationship very quickly. Hope you guys figure out how to incorporate it into your daily life no matter the circumstances.

    1. I agree 100 percent! I read this comment to Colin, and he agreed as well. I think it helped him to see that we need to .. get back into the swing of things.

      Thank you! :)

  2. Your new purchase looks verrrry interesting indeed. I'd like to look into that a bit.
    I know what you're talking about in your post, we go in and out of that way of living all the time.

    1. Doesn't it look exciting? We havent had the chance to try it out yet, but I'm pretty excited to see what it does! ;)

  3. Colin:
    I know how it is to come home dead tired and finding your wife needs a spanking;been there many times. I have been married for many years to a wonderful girl and putting her over my knee after a hard day just was not fun or sexy. Then I realized that she actually needed it and my thoughts changed from my pleasure to my responsibility as HOH. Things became more calm, she was more secure and happy, and I found even more pleasure and reward than I had before. Sometimes its hard, but it is worth it


    1. Thanks so much for the comment Rick. It's so nice to hear from an Hohs perspective, and I think it helped Colin as well.

      Thank you! :)

  4. Hi Kenzie, I completely get this. There definitely seems to be an ebb and flow to Dd. It sounds as though it is very much still there in the background.

    I'm sure things will get back on track for you two, you both want this. Hang in there!


    1. Thanks Roz! It is still there in the background, so I haven't lost hope yet. ;)

  5. Okay my comment is two fold. First for you Kenzie, I know...I KNOW how you feel. Well I remember anyway. There are a couple of things to remember ( or so this was the case at our house anyway) not all expectations are spankable offences. As much as we may crave the spanking, really over water? Maybe that isn't IN Collin. And if it isn't that is okay. What I tried to do, because that was the case here is remember because I said I would. That is it. I know. I KNOW...LOL. It does help the mindset though. Try to do these things because you promised you would.

    And now for Collin. I agree with Rick up there. You may think really water? I have to spank over water? It isn't about water Collin, it is about your wife being SEEN by you. This is even MORE important when both of your lives are so busy. BUT if things really aren't important enough for you, no one says you have to maintain that rule. Ditch it. Or say, I have complete trust in you that you will drink your water, so I am not going to even ask you.

    I am not criticizing either of you, if it appears that way I'm sorry. Barney and I have been down this road MANY times. Many times I have said, "But I just want to make 'the list' ".

    Now get spanking !!! LOL

    1. Wilma, that's great advice and I need to keep that in mind! We had another discussion the other night and decided we need to take a look at the rules and maybe change some of them around a little bit so that the expectations are defined better.

      Thanks for the advice, I appreciate it! :)

  6. HeyKenzie :)
    I know EXACTLY how you feel. Exactly. I'm tired at the end of the day, he's tired at the end of the day.... but that's the time we have, you know? We have to make the best of it. We actually just had a similar convo today about it. We neeeeeed a session. Both of us. But the past few days, we've both been so tired, we've let it go. Or he's let it go, I guess I should say. Hopefully tonight is what we've both agreed to. I hope it turns around for you soon!!!!

    That new little toy looks very interesting! LOL! You'll have to let us know how good it is!
    I've heard of kik, but I didn't know what it was. I didn't know there were DD-ers on there. Might have to check it out!

    1. ^ Oh and you're so right! Sometimes a girl just needs to be spanked!

    2. You said it perfectly! I hope you two were able to have a session, and it was just what you needed!

      If you decide to look into KIK, feel free to send me a message there - it's a fun little way to keep in touch! :)