Boot Camp kicked my butt

Before I even started writing this post, I told Colin I was going to write an entry about DD boot camp and how it all went.  His response?

"You can't write that much, you have another spanking coming at 8."

Boot camp is over, yet I still have another spanking to deal with.  And a severe one at that.  Pray for my butt, ok?

The reason I still have the severe spanking is because last night when it was supposed to happen he started getting really bad pains in his shoulder.  Just so happens the hand he spanks with, has a bit of a shoulder issue.  He's had it for years now, but thankfully we've recently been to a doctor about it for xrays - next stop is an mri, so hopefully they'll be able to fix him up.  After all, that arm is more important to us than they think. :p

Anyway, he was going to still do it, but I asked him to please put it off until tonight.  Not for my sake (although I certainly wasn't complaining,) but more for his sake.  I knew he wanted to go through with it because he's been so good about being dominant and stepping up to the plate, but I didn't want him to hurt his shoulder even more.  I told him that I understood completely and wouldn't be let down, so thankfully he agreed and we moved the last spanking of boot camp to tonight.  Just so happens it was the severe one, and now i'm wishing we had just gotten it over with yesterday!

Boot camp (for us) consisted of two days.  Four spankings a day, and four assignments a day.  I won't bore you guys with every single detail, but i'll give ya a little outline of how it generally went.

Saturday, the first day of boot camp, he woke me up semi early and said we were going to start, so for me to get into position for the first spanking of the day.  Let's just say, it didn't start off so smoothly.

I still struggle with the thought of, "why do I want this?"  There are times when I worry that he thinks it's stupid and childish, and it messes with my head.  I'm getting a lot better when it comes to realizing he doesn't think that way at all and that he not only doesn't feel that way, but that he WANTS to spank me.  This is where the problem came about - after the first spanking, he told me to go to the corner.  We haven't really used that one before, and it somehow reallllyyy messed with my head.

I just started getting over thinking spanking was silly, now he's telling me to go to the corner?  Great.  It's not that I don't think it would be effective, and it's not that I don't want him to use that consequence, but I just got that feeling in my head again.  "This is silly."  "Why do I want this?  Am I stupid for wanting this?  Does he think i'm stupid for wanting this?"  Instead of talking to him about it, I went back to how I was in the beginning.  I flipped out.  Told him to just leave me alone and let me have some space.

We were able to talk about it, and I explained it to him and asked him if we could skip that part of the boot camp.  We came up with compromise, which was that we wouldn't use it during the boot camp spankings, but if it was deserved throughout the day, he expected me to listen.  I thought that was fair.  That way, during the spankings for boot camp, I could focus on what I was supposed to be focusing on, rather than worrying about being told to go to the corner.

*Turns out I must just be an angel, because he didn't even have to use the corner at all. :)*

So getting back to the schedule.  This will probably be semi long, and maybe a little bit confusing, but if you're interested in doing the boot camp at all, it could be a good thing to read.

Sat morn - first spanking & first assignment.  The spanking was the "hard spanking," which consisted of 20 spanks with the hairbrush as a warm up, a break for a minute-ish, 25 with the paddle, another minute or two break, another 20 with the paddle, another minute or two break, and then another 20 with the paddle.

Talk about a spanking to set the tone for the day, huh?  OUCH!

Some implements we used.

After the spanking we did the first assignment, which was making a list of rules.  We already had rules, so we went over them, and ended up adding two new ones.

Saturday afternoon - second spanking & assignment.  This spanking was the "medium one," which was exactly like the hard, but without the last 20.  (Getting confused yet? We sure did .. but it actually is pretty easy to go along with once you get the schedule down pat.)  The second assignment was to discuss why we want a dd marriage, and the pros and cons.  Pretty good assignment, and we had a good conversation about it.

Saturday early evening - third spanking & assignment.  This spanking sucked.  Big time.  It's the "severe spanking."  This spanking was exactly like the hard one, but add on 20 with the strap at the end.  I never thought i'd be the type to get to tears that easily, but this spanking got me there at around the halfway done point.  It HURT!  The assignment we did third was to write out 5 positive qualities about yourself, and what it brings to your relationship.

Saturday night - before bed we did the fourth spanking & assignment.  This spanking was the "mild spanking."  This was just the 20 with the hairbrush.  Yes, it was a lot less compared to the other three, BUT I was already so sore, so it certainly wasn't a walk in the park.  The last assignment we did was just discuss what we thought about the boot camp at the end of day one, and if there was anything we needed to work on.

We came up with two things.  He needed to work on asserting his dominance throughout the whole day, rather than just when he was spanking me.  I needed to work on listening.  Here are the results of the first day:

Our second day was a lot like the first, just with a couple different assignments.  I think we only did two assignments because we had to do some family things, but the assignments we did were, 5 positive qualities about each other, and bringing up something from our past.  We weren't sure if it was supposed to be silly or serious, so we ended up talking about some funny incidents from our past.  The assignments were really nice, and I actually enjoyed them.  Another thing we changed, was that instead of using the paddle we switched to the wooden spoon at times, and the bathbrush at others.

Another thing to mention is that each spanking had it's own "lesson."

Mild spanking - No complaining.
Medium - No kicking feet up/screaming/asking to stop.
Hard - Holding still/no reaching hands back.
Severe - It could always be worse.

He was pretty strict about all those things throughout all the spankings, but concentrated more on each one during the time it was supposed to be worked on.  Another thing he did, more so the second day, was be pretty insistent that I use Sir a lot.  He usually doesn't make it a point that I say that, and i'm really glad he did.  I might be hesitant at times, but truth is I actually *Like* saying it.

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Another little side note here - we've been trying to come up with subtle little ways to show his dominance, and we haven't come up with much.  There's the whole "Sir," thing, we've talked about using kneeling, which I find very submissive but we haven't tried it yet, and that's about it.  So if anyone has any ideas or suggestions, we'd both really appreciate hearing from you. :)  Either here, or you can email us at ddcouple26@gmail.com

So bottom line for boot camp?  I really liked it.  It HURTS .. more than I thought it would, and the damn spankings were hard to take, but I think it was really good for us.

I just asked his thoughts and he said:

"In the beginning, it was a big learning process, but once I got the hang of it, it was really good for us.  It brought us even closer, and i'd strongly recommend anyone who's thought of it, to give it a try.  Beginners and even people who have been doing it for years."

Ha, sounds like he'd be getting paid to promote it.  He's not, I promise. :)  We're both very happy with how it went.  Now if only I could get out of this last severe spanking.  Let's try it out since he's sitting right next to me on the couch.  He's watching hockey, so maybe with him being preoccupied it could work?

I looked at him, and went to open my mouth to ask him if we could skip it, and literally before any words came out, he looks at me and says ..

"Ready?" And points to the bedroom.  I tried to tell him I was still writing, but that didn't work.  Ahhh wish me luck, i'll be back to finish this post in a little bit.  Probably lying on my stomach..

"Let's go!"  Oh geez, hush already, i'm coming! :p
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Grr.  Colin is a pain!  So the second severe spanking is done finally, but he thought it'd be a good idea to make me finish writing the blog while lying on my stomach, with my pants down.  As he's sitting there watching his hockey game!  And I thought this guy wasn't dominant?  Yea, right!

So thankfully i'm pretty much at the end of the entry, because i'm ready for my pants to be up, and for his comments while im lying here to stop.

"How's your butt feel?"

Obviously, it doesn't feel great right now!

Oh will you hush, im trying to write here and you are distracting me! :p  Pay attention to your hockey game rather than me ... please?

As he was just doing the severe spanking, I noticed I could see our shadows on the wall, and I could tell when he was about to start the spanking, so I had to look away!  It did make for a pretty cool picture though.  When I took the picture, he reminded me that I had to post a few of the spanking pictures here.  Again, I ask myself .. why did I think he wasn't dominant?  I'll add most more towards the top of the post, so by the time you're reading down here, you'll have already seen most.  Buuut, here's the shadow one.  I don't know why I found it to be a good photo op - guess I just thought it was a fun picture.

Need an excuse to get out of a spanking?

So we started boot camp this morning, and even though it got off to a rocky start, (i'll be writing more about that when boot camp is over and I can write about the whole thing) I think it's going to be really good for us.

Colin went out to do some errands that needed to be done, leaving me to write down all the rules/assignments of boot camp so that we have it written down and know what to do.  I got all that done, so I thought i'd write a fun entry.

I noticed on Lea's blog that she has written some fun things, and it gave me the idea to write this one.

Ya know how we sometimes just .. blank and do something that probably wasn't the best idea?  We'll then get that look, and right away try to come up with some kind of excuse?  Well, I figured i'd write a list of excuses for next time you need to get out of a spanking for any of these things.  Oh, and use them at your own risk, because if the spanking ends up being even harder because of it, I don't want anyone running back and blaming me for it. :p

Incident number 1: "The eye roll." Because, sometimes it just .. happens.
The Dom/HoH says: Did you really just roll your eyes at me? *Of course for them, they could use this as a cause for a spanking.*
Your response: I wasn't rolling my eyes, the ceiling is dirty and I was going to suggest you might want to clean it. :)

Did you just roll your eyes at me?

 Incident number 2: "NO!" Usually saying no to the Dom/HoH is not the smartest thing to do.  Whether it be when we're supposed to get into position for a spanking, go to the corner, or just being told what to do.
The Dom/HoH says: "Did you just tell me no?!"
Your response: Of course not.  You cut me off before I was done .. what I was trying to say was .. "No problem, Sir.. right away."

Incident number 3: "Turning around while in the corner, or not staying in the corner."  Because, come on .. it's not that simple to just stand there and stare at the wall.
The Dom/HoH says: "Did I tell you it was time to come out?" Or, "Did I say you could turn around?"
Your response: YOU try standing in the corner for 5 minutes, staring at a wall, and then tell me how easy it is ... that wasn't rhetorical you know, go ahead .. stand there.

Incident number 4: They ask you what they said would happen if you did ___ or didn't do ___.  I hate answering this one, so I try my best to avoid it.
The Dom/HoH says: "I'm waiting for an answer, what did I say would happen?"
Your response: Okay, lets work on this memory issue of yours .. i'm going to help you out this one time, but next time I expect you to remember on your own. :)

And that's that.  Trust me, I will not be saying any of these things or making any smart ass comments during this weekend.  Colin has really shown me that the boot camp thing is going to be taken seriously.  So now that I got the fun little post written and done, time to be serious about it.  Wish me luck!

As Mr. Christian Grey would say - Laters, Baby. :)