Liebster Award - Thank You!

I've had fun learning some new stuff about other bloggers who posted Liebster Award blog entries, and I got nominated by two awesome bloggers, so I thought it'd be fun to participate. A big thank you to BigD lils and to Dana for the nomination. You're both so sweet. :)

Here are the rules: 

1. Thank the person who nominated you and post a link to their blog on your blog.
2. Display the award on your blog-- by including it in your post and / or displaying it using a "widget" or "gadget". (I don't know why but I can not get this part to work .. sorry!)

3. Answer 11 questions about yourself which will be provided to you by the person who nominated you.

4. Provide 11 random facts about yourself.

5. Nominate 5 to 11 blogs you feel deserve this award, who have less than 1000 followers. (Note that you can ask the blog owner this since not all blogs display the widget that lets readers know this information.

6. Create a new list of questions for the blogger to answer.

7. List these rules on your post. Once you have written and published it, you then have to :

8. Inform people/blogs that you nominated that they have been nominated for the Liebster Award and provide a link for them to your post so they can learn about it (they may not have heard of it!)

Here are Dana's questions:

1.  How did you and your spouse/significant other meet? We met in high school through a mutual friend. We became good friends and it just kind of evolved from there. :)

2.  How is your favorite way to travel? Road trips! It drives Colin crazy, but I loove road trips.

3.  Spanko or Spankno? SpankO for sure.

4.  Do  you like to read? And if so, what kinds of books? I love to read. I'd say my favorites are mysteries and spanking books!

5.  Do you enjoy camping?  And if so, what is your idea of "roughing it"  (tent, camper, cabin, black and white TV?) I love camping, but I do not rough it! I'm a big baby and am afraid of every noise I hear, so I usually end up sleeping in a car! 

6.  If you could meet any one person who would it be and why? Hmm.. first person that comes to my mind is Matt Bomer. Because .. well .. he's Matt Freakin' Bomer. 

7.  Dog or a cat person? Both! Love animals.

8.  What flavor ice cream do you hate? Vanilla... too boring for my tastes. ;)

9.  Did you bring this lifestyle to your mate or was it the other way around? I brought it to him.

10.  Name one thing besides spanking that if people knew about you would be shocking? Hmm. That's a tough one. I can't think of anything right now, but when I do I'll make sure to edit this answer. :)

11.  How old were you when you got your first kiss? Middle school was my first REAL kiss.

Questions from Big D lil s:

1.If you could go anywhere in the world where would it be? Hmm.. there are a few places. My first choice would probably be Australia. Italy and Ireland are close though!

2. If you could meet anyone on blogland who would it be and why? I cant pick just one! I've had the pleasure of meeting some great people from blogland who have turned into awesome friends, so if I got the opportunity to meet anyone from here, I'd definitely take it. :)

3. Favorite implement to use or receive? I think my favorite would be his hand.

4. Would you trade places with your significant other for 24 hours? (I.e. your Dom and she's Sub, you do the opposite for a day all rules included) Hmm.. As tempting as that sounds, and as much fun as I'd have with that.. I can't see our roles being reversed, so no.

5.  What made you realize this lifestyle was for you? I wish I had that answer! Lol, I just craved accountability and structure, and it was something I thought would be really good for not only me, but Colin as well.

6. Favorite kink? Spanking!

7. Exhibitionist, yes or no? Yess!

8. Craziest place you've ever had sex? There hasn't been anywhere too crazy.. we need to expand our list soon. ;) I guess in a hotel hot tub, outside at night time after it was closed. Oops. ;)

9. Favorite spanking position giving or receiving? I'll go with OTK.

10. If you could meet anyone from history who would it be? Seems like I should give some profound answer here, but I'm not a big history person, and I'd have to go with someone fun - I've said Matt Bomer before, but I'd also LOOOVE to meet Matthew Perry. Ever since I was little I've thought he was the funniest person there was.

11. Favorite sex position? I like him on top, and doggy style.

11 Facts about me:

1.) Reality shows are one of my guilty pleasures. Bad Girls Club, Real World, any of those. :)

2.) My two all time favorite shows are FRIENDS and Pretty Little Liars.

3.) Totally have a female crush on Lucy Hale.

4.) I'm from the east coast, but I should live in the south. I love sweet tea, country music, cowboy boots - etc.

5.) I'm obsessed with monthly makeup subscriptions like Birchbox and Ipsy. If you want to sign up, I'll be glad to give you my referral code. ;)

6.) I have a bit of a 'secret' desire to one day be spanked alongside someone else.

7.) Or to be spanked by Colin and someone else in the same 'session.'

8.) When Colin turned 21, my birthday present to him, at his birthday party, was a threesome.

9.) I have serious anxiety issues about losing people I love. 

10.) I looove watching scary movies, but I always regret it because I usually can't sleep for days!

11.) My birthday is tomorrow and turning 26 is freakinggg me out a bit!

This last part is tough because I feel like we're towards the end of the Liebster Award and I'm not sure who has/hasn't been nominated. I think most people on my blogroll have.. So I'm going to take the easy way out this time and say if there is anyone who hasn't done this yet - YOU are nominated. If you need questions, email me or leave me a comment and I'd be more than happy to come up with questions for you.

Thanks again to Dana and BigD lil s for the nomination, you guys are great! :)

Survey (Spanking and non) with answers from Colin & Kenzie - and some questions from Kenzie. :)

I saw a post over on Julia's Blog where she answered questions about DH.  I thought it was a very cute idea, so I decided to do one too.. I found a different survey though, it seems a bit long, so if you just want to skim through, I won't take offense. :)  I'm also going to try and get Colin to give his answers, so hopefully he'll do that and i'll be able to post that another day.  Feel free to use it on your blogs also, i'd love to read everyone else's answers.  

Oh, and because this is me we're talking about after all, it wouldn't be a complete survey if I didn't throw in some spanking questions towards the end. :)  If you want to skip to those questions, perfectly understandable. :p

*Updated - Colin decided to answer the questions too, so rather making a whole other blog post for it, i'll just add his answers in here.. he'll be in red,  and i'll keep mine in black.*

Intimacy

1. What is your partner’s idea of romance?  
He's pretty traditional romantic.  Candles, flower petals, bubble baths - he's cute. :)
She's pretty much the same way, she likes the whole storybook/fairytale type romance.

2. What is your partner’s favorite nickname?  
For me?  He calls me "my pet."  His favorite nickname that I call him? I think he likes hunni the best .. or these days, he's pretty fond of Sir.
Her favorite nickname to call me is hunni.  Her favorite nickname that I call her, would be either my pet, sweetie, or cutie.

3. What time of day does your partner prefer to make love?  
The time of the day doesn't matter to him.
She likes night time the best.

4. What is your partner’s vision of a perfect date?  
Something fun - go carts and mini golf, or a football game.  Something like that.
Her perfect date would be going to a mets vs yankees game, and having the mets win.  (But we know that wouldn't be the case.)

5. What part of his/her body is your partner most insecure about? 
 I'm not sure, I love it all though.
 She doesn't like her arms for some reason, but I don't see why.  To me, she's beautiful.

6. What is one of your partner’s sexual fantasies?  
Another threesome.
Her's would be another threesome too, even though she wants to pretend it's just me.

7. What type of music does your partner consider romantic?  
Slow songs, with romantic love lyrics.
A good country song.

8. What turns your partner on sexually?  
Him being in charge, spanking, tying up .. kinky stuff.  Oh and, sorry baby but I have to be honest here - anything to do with his nipples being played with.  He's going to absolutely kill me for answering that question. :p
Being teased, and obviously spanking.

9. What are some boundaries regarding intimacy that your partner will not cross?  
I'm not sure.. don't think there are too many, lol.  
Anal, but i'm trying to change that.

10. How does your partner feel after having made love?  
He usually gets giddy.  Wide awake, and he always has this smile on his face afterwards. 
She gets tired and seems pretty happy afterwards.  She gets real cute afterwards too.

Favorites

1. What is your partner’s favorite meal?  Chicken Parm.

Chicken Scaripello

2. What is your partner’s favorite season? 
Spring or fall, I think.
Hers is fall.

3. What is your partner’s favorite way to be soothed? 
Lots of cuddling.
Being held and when I play with her hair.  Usually calms her down in any situation, because she feels safe.

4. What is your partner’s favorite way to spend the weekend?  
Depends on the weekend.  Either a relaxing weekend in, catching up on some shows or watching some movies - or going to do something fun, whether it be bowling, going to a movie, something like that.
Same as what she said, depends on the weekend.  She loves spending time with family and hanging out with friends.

5. What is your partner’s favorite sport?  
Lacrosse or football.. I think lacrosse is first though.
Her favorite sport is baseball.

6. Who is your partner’s least favorite person that you both know?  
A certain bitch that just so happens to be a least favorite person for both of us.
That same person she mentioned.  Even though she gets you mad Kenzie, watch the language.

7. What is your partner’s favorite place to vacation?  
Tropical places, any kind of islandy place.
She loves Tennessee and any country kind of places.

8. What is your partner’s favorite TV show?  
He has a few, but I think his number one favorite is Castle.
Even though it's not on anymore, i'd go with Friends.  Favorite current show is White Collar, because for some reason she's infatuated with Matt Bomer, even though I don't know why. :)
Because he's freakin' sexy, duhh. :p

9. What is your partner’s favorite drink?  
Non alcoholic?  Gatorade or Root Beer/Dr Pepper.  Alcoholic?  He likes the girly frozen drinks.  Sorry hun, but it's true. :)
She loves tomato juice for non alcoholic, and for alcoholic she likes moscatto wine.

10. What is your partner’s least favorite food? 
 Seafood.
Seafood as well.

Feelings

1. What is your partner currently most excited about? 
 I'd say the fact that TTWD/DD seems to be going great this time around - and also the fact that we'll be in Disney World in TWO WEEKS! Yay.  Okay, maybe i'm more excited than him - especially since i'll be dragging his butt on rides!
Me being more dominant and consistent.  And obviously she's excited for disney and to celebrate her birthday while were there. ;)

2. What is your partner currently most sad about?  
Financial issues.
Not having enough clothes to take with her to Disney.  Seriously though, the financial stuff as well.

3. What health concerns is your partner most worried about?  
His shoulder. :(  But hopefully it'll be all better soon!
She's healthy as a horse.
Babe, i'm not sure if that's how the saying goes.
Then you're healthy as an ox.
*Eye roll*

4. How does your partner express happiness, sadness, worry and anger?  
He's pretty good with just talking about how he's feeling - I think he knows he can always come to me and let it all out, so he's a good communicator when it comes to that stuff.
She tends to keep sadness in a little bit, until I ask about it, she wears her emotions on her sleeves so it's not hard to tell.  Happiness she gets giggly and she's a prankster, which I can't stand.  Worry, she worries about everything and needs to relax, and anger she's doing much better with, luckily for her. ;)

5. What is your partner’s most embarrassing moment?  
Hmm, I don't think he gets embarrassed very easily -  and if I said the moment I actually have in my head, my butt would never be white again - so i'll plead the fifth here.
Hers would probably be when we were staying at a hotel and she ended up over my knee.  It was a little loud, so next thing we know there's a knock on the door, and the neighbor asked us to keep it down.  She was of course, hiding in the bathroom.

6. How does your partner blow off steam?  
Video games.  We've always both been working on going to the gym lately when we need to blow off steam.
Trying to get her to start doing kickboxing because I think that'd be the best way.  In the meantime she usually talks to me, which is fine too.

7. What are some major events coming up in your partner’s life and how does he/she feel about them?  
There's not any major ones right now .. he's turning 27 semi soon though, geez can't believe he's almost 30. :p
Disney, and she's going to be 25 soon.  (Old lady.)
Babeee!  No i'm not.  Im going to turn 24 .. again. :)

8. What is your partner’s biggest fear? 
 Death/Losing people.
Death, losing someone, and airplane rides.  Not to mention, aliens and E.T. being in the bedroom closet (now since I said that, i'll have to check before we go to sleep.)
You're seriously checking now!!

9. What are the two most stressful events your partner has been through?  
Losing someone close to him, and probably when shit hit the fan regarding families and wedding plans and we thought for a little bit that the wedding wasn't going to be able to happen.
Losing her grandfather and the whole wedding thing she mentioned.

10. What makes your partner truly happy?  
Well ... me. :)  Kidding.  Family, friends, when his football team wins, and hopefully being with his wife. :)
How much we love each other, and how even when we think we can't get any closer, we somehow do.  Having a loving and caring family she can always turn to no matter what.

Kenzie's Section (Spanking.)

1.) What does your partner like the most about spanking (as discipline?)  
I'd say he likes being in charge.  He likes the fact that we can use spanking and have the situation be over with, rather than getting in a long drawn out fight.
Me being in charge, and the feeling afterwards.

2.) What does your partner like the least about spanking (as discipline?)  
Probably the fact that he's not as confident with it as he wants to be yet.  Although, i'm not sure why he's not, but I do think he's getting pretty damn confident about it lately.
How it's still not that easy to fully let go, and the pain i'm sure.

3.) What's your partners favorite implement to use/be used?  
I think he likes using the paddle the best, or maybe the hairbrush?
My hand, but unfortunately for her she usually deserves more than that.

4.) How does your partner know the spanking has worked and that you're sorry? (If answering this question from a spankers point of view - What are some phrases/words that really get the spankee into that 'frame of mind' - things like young lady, that's it - go get the brush, etc) 
 I'd say he knows it's working and that i'm sorry when I start being very very compliant, or when i've just kind of 'let go' and accepted the spanking.
Having to answer with Yes or No Sir.  Having to answer questions about why she's in that position.  Young lady. 

5.) What is your partners favorite spanking position? 
 I like he likes me lying over/on the bed the best.
OTK

6.) Does your partner think lecturing is an important part of the spanking?  
To an extent yes.. I think it's more important for me, but he's been pretty good with lecturing lately.
Yes, she does because she's able to hear why she's getting spanked.

7.) What would your partner say gets you in trouble the most? (Or for the spankers answering this question, what would your partner say gets him/her in trouble the most?)  This ones easy.  He'd say my mouth.  
She had it right, her mouth.  Also the sarcasm such as eye rolling, or "yea ookay."

8.) What would your partner say would be the offense that would get the most serious spanking/discipline session?
I think lying, especially if it was about something serious.
Lying about something

9.) What would your partner list as three other effective discipline methods? 
Stupid hot sauce! Corner.  And writing lines.
Cornertime (her favorite), hot sauce, and writing an apology letter.
Oh yea, corner is really my favorite.  And an apology letter?  I've never had to do that!
Well, you're going to start.
Hush
One more chance to answer the right way, or you'll find out sooner than later.
Oh my gosh .. yes sir.
That's what I thought.  Good girl.

10.) What would your partner say are three ways to make a spanking more effective? 
 Hm, I think he'd say - lecturing during.  Making me answer questions about why im in that position.  And using the damn strap!
Counting towards the end.  Using the strap, my favorite!  And making her answer why she's being punished.

And that's the survey.  Sorry if the spanking portion was either unoriginal or just not the best questions, lol, but I tried to come up with the best ones I could to spice up the survey a little bit. :)  Would love to see everyone else's answers, so feel free to post to your blog as well.

I'll end the post with a picture.. because, well .. look at him. :)

Finishing up the answers :)

Back from our little mini vacation!  I do not like coming home to the cold weather, when it was mid 70's where we were, but I do like coming back to read the blogs. :)  I'll have to go catch up on all the blogs when i'm done writing this post.  Thankfully I have the day off, so I have some time.

Anyway, I figured i'd answer the last couple of questions from March since it's now April.. so here they are.

Bob asked some fun questions for Colin, and I was excited to hear his answers.

1.) What was your reaction when Kenzie told you she wanted a DD relationship?  It was exciting, but confusing at the same time, because I didn't know how to go about it since it was so new to me.

2.) What are some of your thoughts when you are doing a punishment spanking?  Some things I think about during that time, are the fact that she's finally submitting to me so I can be in charge.  I like the fact that she's listening and i'm able to give a punishment for what she did wrong, so that she'll learn.. sooner or later.

3.) How do you handle a situation when Kenzie refuses to get spanked?  This used to be a hard situation for us, but we're starting to figure it out.  If it's a situation where she's absolutely refusing to get in position, then i'll let her know that she needs to let go and submit if she wants this to work.  That usually gets her to realize that she wanted this, that I want this, and she usually changes her attitude pretty quickly.

nisza_E asked:

1.) Do you have any dreams of what you'd like to be punished with?  Hmm, not really.  I think the strap is the most effective - but I also 'like' the hairbrush because it has that traditional feel to it in my opinion.

2.) Does your relationship go into bed/is Colin also your master?  We don't use the term master, so in that sense no, but I would like it to extend into the bedroom as well.  He would too.  I think we're taking it slowly, and building up his confidence with the dom role, as well as my issue with just letting go/submitting, and then we're going to use it in the bedroom as well.

Thanks for the questions guys, they were all fun to answer. :)

I actually saw a cute little survey type thing on Hermiones Blog that I thought would be fun to do to wrap up the whole question/answer month .. even though yes, March is already over. :p

1. I give you money and send you into the grocery store to pick up 5 items. You can only pick one thing from the following departments. What do you choose?
Produce: Pineapple
Frozen: Ice Cream!
Dairy: Some kind of cheese or yogurt.
Meat: Filet Mignon 
Canned Goods: Chicken Noodle Soup

2. Let's say you're heading out for a weekend getaway. You're only allowed to bring 3 articles of clothing with you. So, what's in your bag?Oh geez, considering I usually pack 4 suitcases for even a weekend trip, this is hard.

Skinny Jeans
Bra
Some cute top

3. If I were to listen in on one of your conversations throughout the day, what 4 phrases or words would I be most likely to hear?
"Yea oookay"
"You know! That S word I hate to say .. ugh ok, fine .. spanking." (When Colin makes me say it even though he knows i'd much rather just say "you know..")
"Honest!"
"Ok ok, im sorry."

4. So, what 4 things do you find yourself doing every single day, and if you didn't get to do them, you probably wouldn't be in the best mood?
Wake up next to Colin
Cuddle before work starts
Talk to my family members
Put on my makeup

5. You're driving down the road, and suddenly you're hit with this sense of road rage. What 3 factors probably contributed to it?
Being in a bad mood before hand
Someone cutting me off
Someone riding my ass.

I have horrible road rage.

6. You just scored a whole afternoon to yourself. We're talking a 3 hour block with nobody around. What 5 activities might we find you doing?
Reading spanking blogs
Writing in my blog
Going to the gym
Catching up on some shows
Going tanning


7. We're going to the zoo. But, it looks like it could start storming, so it'll have to be a quick visit. What 3 exhibits do we have to get to?
Penguins
Otters
Lion or tiger


8. You just scored tickets to the taping of any television show of your choice. You can pick 4, so what are you going to see?
Friends (I know it's no longer being taped, but still..)
White Collar (Hello Matt Bomer)
Some reality show .. real world, bad girls club, that kind of thing.
Pretty Little Liars


9. You're hungry for ice cream. I'll give you a triple dipper ice cream cone. What 3 flavors can I pile on for ya?
Coffee
Rocky Road
Some kind of fruity thing.


10. Somebody stole your purse/wallet. In order to get it back, you have to name 5 things you know are inside to claim it. So, what's in there?
Lipgloss
Bronzer
Eyeliner
Mirror
License


11. You are at a job fair, and are asked in what areas you are interested in pursuing a career. Let's pretend you have every talent and ability to be whatever you wanted, so what 4 careers would be fun for you?
Journalist
Psychologist 
Detective
Actress


12. If you could go back and talk to the old you, when you were in high school, and inform yourself of 4 things, what would you say?
Stop being so damn shy
Be yourself 
Care more about your grades
Plan more for college

That was fun, so feel free to do it on your blog as well.  It'd be fun to see people's answers.  

We're going to try and do boot camp this weekend, so we'll see how that goes.  I'm excited for it, but also nervous.  4 spankings a day? Yikes!  I asked Colin if we could skip that part, or maybe make it 2 or 3 ... but he wasn't buying it.  It'll definitely be four.  Ouch!

Ok maybe, but four a day?!

Alright, well even though I have the day off from work, I still have stuff to do, so I better get to it. :) After I read some blogs of course!

Consistency, issues, and questions anyone?

Since starting this blog, i'm kinda sorta, maybe just a little, obsessed with all the spanking blogs i've found.  It seems like a great place for advice, and just to talk with other people who share the same kind of interests.  I can tell i'm going to be on this blog when I should probably be doing other things .. we'll see if that lands me in any kind of trouble or not.

Thanks to everyone who's stopped by so far, hopefully i'll be able to have some interesting posts to write soon enough.  You'll probably have to bare with me though, because I can already tell that when it comes to us exploring ttwd, ds, dd, whatever you want to call it - it's not going to be an easy ride.

I think our main obstacles are going to be twofold.  One on his end, and one on mine.

Colin's issue is going to be consistency.  He likes to talk a big game, but he doesn't always walk the walk.  Sorry hun, but you know it's true. ;)  I'm sure it takes some getting used to for him, especially because he isn't the one who's been interested in all of it for such a long time, and honestly i'm so thankful he's so willing, but it doesn't make it any easier.  He's really good with texting me in the morning with a list of things that need to be done, or reminding me throughout the day that I better be drinking the right amount of water, BUT then when it comes down to it - if those things didn't get done, he seems to not give it another thought.  He's working on it, and getting better, but of course it won't be an overnight transition, and i'm trying to be patient.

The second obstacle is an issue of mine.  I have to get over the fact that even though he's told me a million and one times, how he doesn't think this is stupid, there's something in the back of my mind that is still screaming, "He thinks your absolutely ridiculous for wanting this, I mean how could he not?!"

Even right now, writing this blog, knowing he'll eventually read it, makes me question whether he'll think what i'm writing is stupid or not.  I'm really trying to get past that though and just write what comes to my mind.  If i'm able to be open and honest about things with him, then I think it'll give him more confidence in his role as the dominant one.  I also need to just learn to give in, because it'll help me feel more comfortable being the submissive one.  I'm used to taking the lead with things, being in control, when really, I want it to be the other way around.  I think he does too.  For some reason I just over think everything wayyyy too much.

For example, when he does actually decide to punish me, we could be in the middle of a spanking, and i'll just be so wrapped up in the thought of him thinking this is ridiculous, that I jump right up, go into the other room, and slam the door.  Must be confusing for him.  At least I know it's something I need to work on, so i'm trying.  Hopefully this blog will help with the things we need to work on.  We'll see.

Oh crap.  Talk about being caught up with this blog.  I forgot a few things I was supposed to do before he got home tonight, which I won't have time to do now.  Writing lines (one thing he's started liking that I absolutely hate, but can see why they're effective,) and something else that I can't even remember now.  Whoops.

Not to mention the fact that I had half a bottle of water, when i'm supposed to be drinking 4-6.

At least I can say I got to the gym which was one thing I was supposed to do.  Maybe that'll count for something.

For all I know, he'll be too tired by the time he gets home to even check out the blog, or realize some stuff wasn't done.  On one hand i'm thinking that'd be a good thing tonight, and on the other hand, I do want to see that he'll start being consistent and step up to the plate.  Hmm.

Will this be us .. or not?  We'll see.

Another thing we've talked about is keeping a journal and having me write in it every night, writing anything that wasn't done that should have been.  Not sure how serious he is about that though, so i'll wait and see what he says.

One other thing I wanted to mention, as I was reading blogs, I noticed a theme with a lot of them, and that's that this month is question month?  So I know we're new here, and I thought maybe giving anyone who reads this the opportunity to ask some questions would be a good way to get to know us.

So ask away, anything you want to know.  If you have questions for Colin, that's cool too.  I'll show him any questions and ask him to answer them as well. :)