Sunday, April 28, 2013

Who 'looks like' the dominant one?

Writing this from my cell so not sure how itll turn out, but lets give it a go.

Were currently in the car on our way to vacation, and im bored out of my mind so figured id write a quick post.

First thing to mention, Colin left the new cane and the capcaisin cream at home..yayy!  The plus side of being in a rush. :)

Speaking of the cane, we went to a local shop that sells a few spanking implements and found a bamboo cane.  Thankfully it will be hanging out in the clpset, all by itself, for about a week!  Buying it at the place was an interesting experience.  Colin asked to see a few things and as the lady was explaining how they work, I was bright red.. but then something pretty funny happened.

She starts asking how hard we plan to use the implement.  What made this interesting was that she referred the question towards me, basically asking how hard I plan to use it on him.  I just kind of laughed and Colin spoke up and said something along the lines of how he plans on using it.  Then he continues to ask questions and asks to see some nipple clamps.  Cue me turning bright red all over again.

Anyway, I found it funny that it seemed like the sales woman thought I was the dominant one.  Especially since I was bright red and shy and Colin was pretty outspoken.

If you took a step back and looked at your relationship as a couple, to the outside world, and a stranger had to guess who was dominant and who was submissive, do you think theyd guess the right way?

Well im being asked by our..non kinky friends why im typing away the way I am, so thats my cue to get off of here.  Ill try to read blogs and catch up when I have some free time.

I also wrote a fun entry before we left that ill post sometime this week.  Hope eveeyone is having a good weekend! :)

27 comments:

  1. Just because you were rushing me doesn't mean I can't pick up more cream at the store. Oh ya and don't forget the back pack full of spanking toys I brought to see how red I can make your bottom
    :) 
    -Colin

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    1. Lol, just so happens none of those items were used. But i'm sure if we had the privacy, they would have been.

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  2. He wasn't tempted to try them out in the shop then? - cos that really would have defined the roles clearly ;)
    DF

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    1. Ohhh boy, lol.. I would have ran for the hills!

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  3. You guys went into a store? Brave lady! Bossman wants too, but I'm a huuuge chicken. I know exactly who looks like the dominant one: me. I'm organized, matter-of-fact, in charge, and bossy. My friends refer to me as an alpha female. I am. Which is why I want this lifestyle, because I want a safe place that I can be the submissive one.

    Have fun on your trip! And be careful, don't underestimate the ouch factor of everyday items!

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    1. Lol.. yup, it's more of a "Sex toy store" kind of place, but they actually happen to have a few implements that aren't the usual heart shaped paddles that most of those stores sell. They're more like real punishment spanking implements - it's surprising to find that!

      Good point on wanting a safe place to be the submissive one, I like that. :)

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  4. You worried me at first when you said you were writing from your cell!!!
    I know people think I am the one in charge. I have spoken strong feminist views and refused to be known as Mrs. But like Rosie, that's why this is important to me because I don't want to be in charge, I want to hand everything over.
    Have a great trip
    J

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    1. haha, not THAT kind of cell. :)

      I agree with you and Rosie on wanting to hand everything over and not be in charge .. it's a nice feeling. :)

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  5. People would think I'm the dominant one but oddly enough I find that changing as we get farther into DD. my softer speech has already raised a few curious looks from my children.
    Bea

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    1. That's cute that DD has changed it a bit, and gotten you to be more submissive. :)

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  6. I used to be perceived as the person in charge, and I never liked it. Some days now that doesn't happen anymore, other days, I wonder...

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    1. I'm the same way .. I wasn't too happy when the lady assumed I was the one in charge. It made me realize that it probably comes off like that more than I think .. which is weird considering the dynamic we have.

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  7. What did she say when he spoke up? LOL

    Bob

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    1. She was just kind of quiet, lol .. quiet but also giggly. It was a weird experience! :)

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  8. My Daddy all the way. Even had a girlfriend mention how controlling he was once....had to stifle a laugh there, if they only knew.

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    1. Lol, if they only knew is sooo true. :)

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  9. We got our spanking implements from the internet. I can't imagine my husband or myself being able to ask questions in public regarding DD, sooo I could understand the woman guessing whoever was forced to ask the questions must have been the submissive. (Because someone would have to force me to do it). I have asked some very personal questions as an RN, and I'm sure my husband had as a police officer. The questions however were about somebody else's activities, not our own. LOL. Have a wonderful vacation. God bless you and all you love, Belle L.

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    1. We get most from the internet .. but this once we didn't have time to wait for it to get shipped to us .. but then of course we ended up forgetting it at home and didn't even bring it on vacation, lol.

      Thanks Belle. :)

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  10. I'm working on my attitude to let other people know who is the dominant one in our relationship. Cause I'm also kind of bossy and I don't to be :)

    But when we are in this kind of shops, I suppose that people know who is who. I hope so, at least...

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    1. I can be bossy with him too .. something i'm trying to change! :)

      Thanks for the comment.

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  11. Interesting question...my H is quietly in control and I am loudly...not! lol so I can see that being confusing to some. People in the past have definitely thought I was the dominant one in the relationship. They OBVIOUSLY don't know us! Lol and my HoH has gone into a store. I would NEVER go with him though! I would die! hahaha And my H goes to a store over an hour away just to be sure he is not seen. :)

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    1. lol it is a very scary thing to go into the store .. especially when it's close to home! People would walk in and i'd just pray that it was someone we didn't know .. I don't know what i'd do if that were the case!

      Thanks for the comment. :)

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  12. Good question. I think it depends on the store, but I usually step back and let LD talk to the sales person.

    Hug,
    joey

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    1. Good point about it depending on the store .. next time maybe i'll just step back and let him take the lead. :)

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  13. Kenzie-
    Don't be so fearful of running into people you know in those stores. After all, they are in the store for a reason too. Maybe it will lead to a better friendship??

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  14. That's funny! I don't think I would ever be mistaken as the dominant one based on personality. I'm too quiet and indecisive, nothing would ever get done! I have been asked at parties before if I was a top and it's almost always been them judging me by my height. Not all tall people want to be tops! I think it's more them hoping I would be than me acting like I was.

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