Monday, January 13, 2014

Spankings, and questions and answers oh my!

Ok so the title of this post might be a little misleading. No, there haven't been any spankings lately. Not yet anyway.

You can thank mother nature, and stress for that!

First, I want to say a huge thank you to everyone who commented on my last post. I got such great advice, lots of hugs and good thoughts and it really made me happy to see how people really care. :) You guys are great and I'm so thankful/lucky that I started blogging and got to 'meet' so many awesome people! So thanks again.

We're doing a bit better since that last post, thankfully! Like I said, mother nature and stress still want to intrude, but we're getting there!

My dog has been on his antibiotics and he seems to be feeling much better! He is old, and I don't expect him to live forever, unfortunately - but it's nice to see him happy for what time he does has left.

We got the new apartment! Yay, yay, yay, and YAY!!!! We should officially be moved in and living there as of this weekend! I'm so happy about that.

We had a looooong talk, which turned into a looooong argument, and then another looooong talk about DD/Ds. Needless to say, it was draining. I kind of broke down a bit a lot, and told him I really didn't want to do this anymore. I was serious too. I just felt like I could never get back into that headspace, and even thinking about him being Dominant, made me want to fight. I wanted nothing to do with it, and I really thought I was done. We talked a lot, he said he didn't think that was the right decision, and that it was going to take some time, but we'd get back on track. One thing that really struck me was this:

Me: I can't do it, I just don't want it anymore.
Colin: Kenz, you need this. I need this. We need this.

Found this on google. Love the quote, and the picture. 
I was shocked at that. I half expected him to agree with me and say we should take a break from TTWD, but he really pushed for it to continue and mentioned multiple times how he needed it. This coming from the man I never thought could be Dominant, or would want anything to do with a DD relationship. That alone, helped me get back into the mind frame. Just a little bit though.

We found this app on our phones, that we can both access even when he's at work, or we're not together. Basically it's a to do list and he can add things from his phone, and then I'll be alerted that there's something added to the list. He added about 8 things today, and told me he wanted me to start crossing them off.

He can also see when I cross them off by the way!

I got almost all of it done, and texted him letting him know that, and asked if I could take a break for a bit because I really didn't feel well.

"Good girl. You've been doing a good job. You can do the rest tomorrow, go relax."

He can be such a sweetheart sometimes. ;)

It's nice that something as simple as a little "to-do list" app has really changed my attitude around. I know it's going to be difficult to get back into the swing of things, but I want to get there. I want to try and I want to continue our DD/Ds adventure together.

What's funny is that it's almost our one year DD anniversary! We started January 22nd of 2013, so in a little over a week it'll be a year! We'll be in our new place by then, and it really will be a fresh start!

When it hits that year mark, I'll have a post about some things I learned, and what I want to work on in the next year. I'm going to ask Colin to help me out with that post so you guys can get his point of view on things as well.

So this is where I need your guys help! I was wondering if you could comment or email me at ddcouple26@gmail.com with some questions for me to answer. Well for me to answer, for Colin to answer, of for both of us to answer together. I'd love to include some questions from you guys when I write about our one year mark. I thought that could be a cool way to blog about it. :)

So pleaseeee leave a comment, or shoot me an email with a question for either of us, or both of us.

It could be DD related, Ds related, Spanking related, Vanilla related, you name it!

We're both pretty open people, so don't hold back. Ask away. :) I think it'll be fun!

I'm not too sure about the creepy questions though. ;)
Hope everyones doing well, and thanks again for the comments on the last post. You guys are awesome!

26 comments:

  1. Well you sound like you feel much better again about ttwd. I am glad to read it. Very helpful to learn your spouse wants this just as much, isn't it?

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    1. It's such an amazing feeling to learn your spouse wants this just as much as us. I think I already knew it, but sometimes I have to be reminded. ;)

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  2. What is the name of the app, if you'll share?

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    1. The app is wunderlist. :) It's great, and a pain in the butt at the same time! ;)

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    2. Thanks! It looks awesome! It can be a great way for a busy husband to "Dom" throughout the day, I'm betting.

      Beth Elle

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  3. Congrats on one year! Ttwd is tough at times but the rewards are so worth it. Hang in there sweetie.

    As for the questions, I'll have to think about it and get back to you.

    xo

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    1. Oh and I'm with anon. What's the name of that app?

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    2. Thanks Bonnie! You're right, the rewards are so worth the tough times!

      The app is wunderlist. Be careful what you ask for! ;) Lol. No, it's actually a great thing and I'm happy we found it.

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  4. Kenzie,

    Glad you found a new apartment. Good luck.

    Will the two of you ever attend a spanking party? Such as SCONY.

    Hugs,
    joey

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    1. Thanks Joey! Yes, we really want to attend a spanking party... I have to work up the courage, but really want to!

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  5. I'm glad you guys are doing better and I'm happy you got the apartment, yay!!!! It's nice to be able to start fresh. Good luck with everything :)

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    1. Thanks Stubborn! Ok so you two aren't terribly far, so I think you need to visit the new apartment soon! ;) We miss you guyss!

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  6. Oh yay for the apartment :) and I'm so glad your dog is feeling better :)

    A little thing like an app didn't change things, I think it's tha talking you guys did and you realising he's very commited, it changes the mind set when we k ow it's not just is wanting this but them too :)

    Wow questions huh?? How about, what was the most surprising discovery you made about yourselves since you started TTWD?

    Hugs x

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    1. You're right Missy, it was more than the app for sure. :)

      It was so nice to see his commitment to ttwd. I just needed a little reminder. :)

      Oooh, good question. Looking forward to answering it. :)

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  7. I'm glad you're feeling a bit better about things and that the two of you are getting back on track. I'm glad your doggy is feeling a bit better too. I'm curious about the to-do list app...what app is it? I'll try to think of questions. And I'm excited for you about the new place too! (((hugs)))

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    1. Thanks Grace! It's always nice when things start falling back into place!

      The app is wunderlist. I hate it at times, and love it at others, lol. It really is helpful though, hope you like it if you check it out. :)

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  8. Hi Kenzie, I'm so glad to read this and that you seem to be feeling better about things. Yay on getting the apartment and I'm glad your dog is feeling better on the antibiotics.

    Good on both of you for talking through things and persevering with the hard conversations. Knowing that this is someone you both want/need makes all the difference. Happy to hear you are getting back on track.

    Ooh goodie ... questions! :) Mine is for both of you. What is the most important thing you have learnt about each other since TTWD?

    Hugs,
    Roz

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    1. It really does make all the difference to be reminded that it's not just something I want/need, but something he does as well.

      Thanks so much for your sweet comment, and for the question! Yay, looking forward to answering it. :) And to seeing his answer of course!

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  9. What a great way to approach your one year mark! I have a question for both of you, although (in my opinion) it's pretty personal so I'm not going to be offended if you choose not to answer. My question is, as you reflect on your progress and think about your end goal, what is one element of your relationship (spanking related or not) that you each would each like to improve about yourselves personally, and one thing you would like the other to work on?

    I understand if the last part feels like I'm asking you to point out a weakness in each other. If it feels too much like criticizing each other then just ignore that part. :)

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    1. Not too personal at all. I like those personal questions honestly.

      Thanks for asking, and I look forward to answering it/seeing his answer! :)

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  10. You sound so much better, I am so happy for you. The Duke and I did the same thing for our anniversary, and found it really fun to answer questions together and then compare notes. I hope you guys have as much fun and are able to learn from each other a bit through it too. :). My question is, and please forgive me if it's a repeat as I did not have time to read all your comments. - What is the biggest lesson you have each learned in your respective rolls? And what changes did you make because of those lessons?

    {{{hugs}}} EsMay

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    1. I saw something like that on a blog before for a ddaversary but I couldn't remember which blog. Now I remember it was yours, so thanks for the idea! Such a fun, cute idea!

      Ooh, love the question! Can't wait to answer it! :) Thanks Es May!

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  11. Congrats on the apartment and finding a way to make things a bit easier for working on your DD relationship.

    I think a lot of people forget that DD doesn't have to be so inflexible and restrictive. Obviously Colin has figured that out.

    I'm interested in watching you guys grow with this so I added you on my Blog's Reading List.

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    1. Thanks so much King Marshal! I'm glad you'll be reading along, hope you enjoy it! :)

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  12. Sometimes breathing new life into something, after talking of course, is just the thing to kick start your heart ( OMG that is the name of a really horrid 80s rock song...sorry). You know when you organize a cupboard and all of a sudden now you are excited to go in there because it seems new?
    Here's to building on your new found heartset with your new ideas !
    willie

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    1. Haha, I love that it's the name of an 80's rock song - it's good advice! ;)

      I love the cupboard analogy, thanks so much for the good wishes. Youre so sweet. :)

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